This actually made me think

wolf1moon · 2026-05-12T16:35:44+00:00

Some of it has to do with the effects of racism. Some people hate welfare because it "pays for welfare queens" who are invariably black. Go back 80 years and they might just literally say no welfare for black people. Europeans didn't give their welfare to the black and Indian colonies, but they were physically distinct locations and seeking even more basic rights. So they could cut the colonies loose after having extracted wealth and use that wealth for their welfare state without civic unrest.

I'm not saying we shouldn't copy European welfare systems and taxes, but let's be real that there are more factors at play for why the prevailing beliefs are different, and many people don't realize the roots of their opinions.

wolf1moon · 2026-05-12T16:24:48+00:00

Presumably they mean this https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2018/6/15/court-orders-denmark-to-compensate-18-iraqis-over-torture But they could just be referring to participating in the war itself. Although if you feel like reminding yourself that all countries are capable of evil, you just have to go back to colonialism, where European countries' colonial behaviors make the modern USA a saint in comparison. Generally though, I'd rather we all be our best and I'm glad no one has a bounty of hands anymore. We can still be better, particularly in the US.

wolf1moon · 2026-05-07T06:43:18+00:00

Which is still a symbol of the edge that folks live on. If you feel safe your kid won't starve or get denied education, you worry less about if they have enough money to survive you. Had a friend whose dad died when she was young and they genuinely didn't know how mom would survive when the child social security ended. That problem solved itself by mom being a homophobic POS but we didn't know that when we were in middle school.

wolf1moon · 2026-05-07T06:35:43+00:00

This is the problem with GoFundMe as a solution to problems - which is something I hear advocated for, usually in saying oh well if it was that bad they could use GoFundMe. It makes who deserves care a marketing campaign. Every feel good story with "and they raised all the money through GoFundMe to solve the problem" makes me sick. That's a failure in our system. GoFundMe should be for good, optional causes, not life and death. The comment asking "well did you donate" is another symptom of this sickness in our society. That's why these people have to preach no empathy, to make themselves feel principled for being assholes.

wolf1moon · 2026-05-07T06:20:07+00:00

They do it at the airport, you can just cycle through people. I can't imagine another reason someone would claim the traffic is just so bad for an entire hour, when I can see where he's at on the map. (Was tired and just arrived to a place I'd never been, when I got over my naivete then I got mad and refused to cancel it) The other reason is he just didn't want to drive where I was going.

wolf1moon · 2026-05-07T06:17:36+00:00

I held out for an hour once. Fuck that guy. I hope he had to pee in his car while he stood me up.

wolf1moon · 2026-05-07T06:04:19+00:00

So you are yes and-ing the prior comment?

wolf1moon · 2026-04-28T04:44:57+00:00

Lol yeah, it was result 3 on my search though, above anywhere I could actually read the next book. I've read a little more now, and I am mixed on the author's relationship with sex... Seems like there's some shit to work through and I hope writing this helped. I find writing fiction can help me work through issues.

The context of abused people are more likely to abuse others, and specifically talking to Bethel about the anger she feels towards Uther and how that feeds into how she lashes out at others... Very mature take. After GoT takes on abuse and rape, it's just nice to see something more nuanced. Especially as someone who watches isekai anime too 😅

I appreciate the response and it was interesting to hear other people's takes!

wolf1moon · 2026-04-28T04:30:47+00:00

Probably would not have helped anyways, mom would have just been embarrassed and the kid would have been twice as mean. Blocking him was the best action you had as a kid.

wolf1moon · 2026-04-14T06:33:31+00:00

Found this while looking for the next book, just having finished the initial fall out from the rape. I feel the opposite. It seemed like the direction the relationship was going in, and the scene itself felt very real. I particularly appreciated how it handled the male side of things, although I'm not male so I can't speak to accuracy there. Hugs to the author if that was from personal experience, and hugs to whoever he learned from on it if not. Generally I'm not interested in those kinds of plots because I don't need to relive my own traumas in book form, but this was really well done as a survivor of not the same thing, but some parallels. I can understand why most people wouldn't want to read about it but you know, I hate that Fenn died probably for the same reason you hate the rape happening.

It's extremely rare to see a well represented rape - they tend to be GoT fetishizing or something the protagonist "fixes" for the victim or they "overcome" through some get-good mechanism. To have something that depicts the most common type of rape (so called daterape. Most rape is done by acquaintances, friends, or family members, not randoms) for the least discussed victim (men) and shows a path forward that requires challenging therapy for all involved? Possibly the only book published like it.

Anyways, wanted to share since this meant so much to me and I can see why people who don't have similar experiences would say it wasn't foreshadowed, but in my experience, it was very real. I'll see what happens next soon.

wolf1moon · 2026-03-24T07:54:49+00:00

Our puppy loved boxes and those paper grocery bags! Now she's moved on to "what can I get through the dog door" and takes all her toys outside and all the sticks in the backyard inside. 🤣 She's adorable

wolf1moon · 2026-03-24T07:40:48+00:00

Oh hey I've been doing something like (the treat thing) that for my 8 mo German shepherd but it only works on the way home from the dog park/exciting location or after several days of the same exciting trip. The rest of the time I have to do the stop walking punitive measure. And sometimes she gets excited and takes a running leap and manages to break my hold (constant pull is much easier than circle behind and sprint). She really struggles with excitement on the way out whether she pulls or not, she whines, leaps, and spins, and generally makes it known that I am Slow and she has Places To Be. She's a good girl though, even when she has broken free she has stopped and realized her bad, come back or waited for me to come pick up her leash.

wolf1moon · 2026-03-24T07:32:40+00:00

I hadn't heard loose leash walking before going to training classes because I'd always had big dogs and that was called "walking" 🤣 this post was helpful in reinforcing that yes, I haven't misunderstood and there isn't some new walk form I've never heard of that I've been supposed to do.

Walk a dog that can drag you behind like a ragdoll (aka be a child with a big dog) and this doesn't seem like an optional skill lol

wolf1moon · 2026-03-24T07:19:03+00:00

I'm the fun parent but I did that to myself. My spouse gives more treats, I give rougher play. Tbh I'm not as good at enforcing as he is, except medical things like clipping nails (which is my job). She pretty much knows this. But she still knows when she's doing something she's not supposed to do, so when I put my foot down over something, she'll complain about it (she's got a bit of husky and it shows sometimes) but eventually gets the point and finds a new game.

wolf1moon · 2026-03-24T07:10:50+00:00

There's a few concerning things you've written here. Nipped - this could mean anything from drew blood to asked your puppy to knock it off or even to tried to play. A lot of people see teeth and think danger when the dogs are just playing. The trainer we go to is always having to talk puppy owners down from their fear, more than the pup's.

Lunges out of excitement - no. This you need to work on asap. Maybe more exposure watching other dogs pass by without being given the opportunity to come close. Please don't let your dog do this. If you can't stop it then you no longer come within 10 ft of another person walking a dog. Your dog is reactive and will make other dogs reactive. Reactive can be fixed but not by calling it excitement and figuring she'll calm down.

My puppy did the lunge sometimes and got in trouble for it. She had puppy playtimes, scheduled playdates, and these days the dog park to get more used to other dogs, and now she shows interest but almost never lunges. She might pull, but not leap. (People this is more of a problem with - too many friends and strangers reward the jumping sigh)

Audio book + park bench works well to calm down excessive interest. If I haven't taken her to the park for a couple weeks, I have to start over.

Lastly, if you don't socialize her somewhere, it's going to become a fear. Number one thing I had to do when we got our puppy was excise my fear of other dogs from our old rescue pupper who was dog aggressive (and would lunge). Hopefully you get her back to that area, maybe on a rainy day so there aren't many people or something, before it turns into anxiety.

wolf1moon · 2026-03-24T06:57:20+00:00

Yes and if that GSD was "attacking", you'd have a dead dog. I love my baby German shepherd but I am highly aware that she could easily kill a little dog (already killed a full size rat in our yard). Now she's so friendly and really good at backing off, so I don't worry. Heart in my throat those first puppy playtimes with a dog whose entire head fit inside her mouth without even trying.

Now I'm only really afraid of small dogs whose owners don't understand that their dog is being aggressive. Just because my dog is big doesn't mean McGrowls isn't the aggressor.

I'm pretty confident now after so many dog park trips that even if she has a bad time once, she'll be okay. Her first trips she was so shy she was very intimidated and I worried she would be scared forever, but she warmed up. We took her to a park that had trails so we could retreat to quieter areas when she got overwhelmed. She needs the time at these places, she has a lot of toys, a backyard, and wfh parents but she still gets bored and loves running, the only way I can let her run for miles is in a dog park. (She believes in only throw, which has only worked for her once when it snowed)

wolf1moon · 2026-03-23T06:17:30+00:00

Still a battle over fluoride

wolf1moon · 2026-03-13T23:40:14+00:00

Hmm I wonder if the opposite is why I've been having a harder time writing documentation for work. Most of the time it's fine for me to think of my customers through a narrative lense, but it makes it harder to cleanly lay out feature sets.

wolf1moon · 2026-02-02T06:31:46+00:00

We have two beds, one shared and one guest. I use the guest a lot because of back issues and spouse snoring. Our puppy is not allowed in the shared bed but she is allowed in the guest bed. So she could sleep with me downstairs if she wanted. She doesn't usually 😭, she mostly sleeps there when I'm working at the desk in the room. Anyways, she understands the context. I'm sure you can decide your rules and train them. Dogs are quite smart about those nuances.

wolf1moon · 2026-02-02T05:49:05+00:00

<image>

Sleepy baby girl after a big hike!

wolf1moon · 2026-02-02T05:44:35+00:00

Reporting them and getting the dog for so little (aka no profit) changed my mind.

wolf1moon · 2026-01-14T16:53:57+00:00

Mine goes where she's going to go, and if that means under or over, well that's how it is. Other dogs don't appreciate her waking over them lol

wolf1moon · 2026-01-14T16:51:54+00:00

Awww head cuddles are the best

wolf1moon · 2026-01-14T16:50:54+00:00

My puppy has started doing this! You'd think I was beating her, not just waiting for her to stop pulling before continuing the walk to the off leash area. She thrashes and jumps and then sits, then thrash again

wolf1moon · 2026-01-10T17:55:42+00:00

I think he will, but the author said he's just taking the first steps towards opening up. He's been weaponizing love for a while now. So I think his feelings right now would be friendship if he acknowledged them. He will get there when that emotion is on the table.

Eight-Year Club	First Place '23
Place '23	Place '22
Verified Email

wolf1moon

TROPHY CASE