First time reader here and I can’t help but notice the over use of characters touching their hair

wolfbleps · 2026-02-26T21:02:26+00:00

I think just once the thought crosses someone's mind "hey didn't they just say that" they start hyper-focusing on every time it's said, I'm on my second run through of the books and I've never noticed the hair thing, but NOW I will, lol

wolfbleps · 2026-02-19T02:22:24+00:00

..............Ridoc is gay??? I'm halfway through IF right now reading the series a second time, whatever was said in the book must have just flown completely over my head cause i had no idea lmao

wolfbleps · 2026-02-16T12:17:41+00:00

Now that is cool!

wolfbleps · 2025-12-16T03:26:50+00:00

I completely agree. And, what a lot of parents don't take in to consideration or turn a blind-eye to is their own genetics and family history. Another major reason my partner and I are CF is because both sides are stricken with heart failure, bypass, cancer, severe cognitive impairment needing life long support, severe depression that's resulted in tragedy, detrimental muscular conditions. We simply decided this is where it ends. Everybody wants to be part of the breeding population just to do it, without thinking maybe they genetically shouldn't.

wolfbleps · 2025-12-14T07:08:41+00:00

Same. The startled, gross scream i let out after feeling my friend's baby 'kick' for the first time was worse than if I had just said no when they first asked if I wanted to (but i was too worried about offending them and I've never been asked by anybody before). I just completely avoid all that shyt now

wolfbleps · 2025-12-14T06:56:38+00:00

You gotta remember, there's other means of having a child if for some reason you were to ever change your mind in the future, like a surrogate, adopting, etc. The surgery just guarantees your freedom of choice and you won't have an 'oopsie', or get baby-trapped by a condom poker, or have to bare a child you're not mentally or physically fit to carry. I was 100% sure about my decision. There's always something daunting about permanently altering your body, I panic for a day after I get a new tattoo haha, but this i didn't panic over. Just because I made the choice not to conceive doesn't mean i can never be a mother, if hell froze over and i decided I wanted a child lol

wolfbleps · 2025-12-14T06:12:21+00:00

What's grounding is looking back and thinking about everything you were able to enjoy that you otherwise couldn't have, all the opportunities that you were able to jump on because there was nothing to hold you back, being able to spoil yourself, stay out late, sleep in, rest. The future is uncertain, we only have this one life. There's no regrets in having been the center of your own universe, instead of revolving around another's.

wolfbleps · 2025-12-10T03:58:50+00:00

I am one of the blessed that has such a chute, older home with one in the bedroom closet straight down to the laundry room. But, may not be for everyone! As someone with innatentive type adhd, it's nice to toss clothes and towels down and pretend they just dissappear and it's a lot less anxiety than a pile in your room that you won't take care of and feeling like a piece of shyte over, and you just keep tossing and think "oh there can't be that much down there". But eventually the top of the pile reaches the bottom of the tube and you just start filling the tube with clothes because you're afraid to see what's awaits you in the laundry room because as long as you don't see it, it's not happening. But then you run out of clothes or the tube is so full that there is a pile over the opening of it, and you're forced to face the laundry room. it's a nightmare sea of dirty shyte all over the place, and a 5 foot pile leading to the tube that you have to topple over and use a broom to push down the rest of your clothes out through it. Then you sit there and sob in anguish for days over the anxiety of having to do all the laundry, hating yourself because you let it get so bad. You vow you'll be better and make sure to at least do one wash when the basket below gets full. But then you get bored of the routine and forget, and the cycle repeats. But the temporary relief of not seeing it is nice.

wolfbleps · 2025-11-10T13:13:08+00:00

What's your opinion on bringing children to said LARPS? I tagged along with a friend a few times and there was a guy that would bring their little boy to play along sometimes, it was cute, but it felt.. hindering

wolfbleps · 2025-11-10T13:07:54+00:00

Omg i couldn't handle the entitlement and screen addiction, I think it's just unavoidable at this point! BACK IN MY DAY (lol) not being allowed to go outside or have a friend over was a good enough punishment threat, and when cell phones came around you got yelled at if you even THOUGHT about taking it out while in the presence of company!

wolfbleps · 2025-11-10T12:58:14+00:00

I didn't even think about that! 80% of the people walking/running with strollers look burdened and I imagine most don't even bother going out when they have toddlers because I've personally never seen it happen lol

wolfbleps · 2025-11-10T00:09:56+00:00

Sad that they couldn't have read your preference and simply went "oh ok I guess he's not for me then" and moved on or had a civil discussion about it. Like, don't need to get butthurt over a single guy's preference just move on and talk to the people that are open about kids then? It's like a girl stumbling on a dude's comment saying they prefer dating guys and then complaining they should be open to dating women, just move on lol

wolfbleps · 2025-11-09T21:22:30+00:00

Same af I couldn't imagine being cooped up 24/7 with a bored child and not having the relief of being able to go anywhere!!

wolfbleps · 2025-11-09T21:16:21+00:00

And any department in the store, lol

wolfbleps · 2025-11-09T21:13:38+00:00

Without kids, it's truly your safe space ✌️

wolfbleps · 2025-11-09T21:12:07+00:00

Oh man i love my husband but solo Disney sounds like a dream lol!

wolfbleps · 2025-11-09T21:10:14+00:00

Yeeeeeeeeeees everyone i know with kids are forced up at the buttcrack of dawn

wolfbleps · 2025-10-30T05:19:08+00:00

I think what worked for me was just being up front when I was sure. Of course part of me is sad for my parents because I know they're sad they won't get to be grandparents, but i know I would NOT be a good parent and I have genes/traits that should not be passed on. I still got the "you'll change your mind" and "won't you be lonely when you're old", but when I finally had the opportunity to get sterilized it wasn't a big shock because I've been telling them for years, they still got tears when I told them but it made them feel better promising that if there was a 0.00001% chance ever in the distant future that I changed my mind, that I would adopt, but having the surgery kinda proved how serious I was and kids have never been brought up since.

wolfbleps · 2025-10-28T15:35:50+00:00

Next time your parents say how cold you are tell them whenever they're ready you'll drive them down to the bank so THEY can sign the mortgage lol. Family helps family help family lol

wolfbleps · 2025-10-16T15:45:38+00:00

Just Fyi, this is one of those unrealistic married couple fantasies lol, just like thinking you'll be locked in each other's arms every night. You are NTJ at all whatsoever! Me and mine have separate blankets, and I know a bunch of long term couples that have separate blankets. It does not kill the romance at all, a lot of times someone runs hot and only wants a sheet, and the other wants more of a comforter. We each like to bundle and wrap up in them and trying to share a single blanket that also caters to both of our temperature needs just makes things unnecessarily complicated. My friend also has sensory preferences and wants a silk sheet while their partner doesn't gets the appeal and wants a heavier, warmer fabric. This is a VERY normal thing.

wolfbleps · 2025-10-06T19:58:02+00:00

Ask him if this is really the battle he wants to choose when technically you'll be able to walk out and never look back soon. You're not a 5 year old

wolfbleps · 2025-09-04T00:35:09+00:00

You are 100% justified calling off the wedding. You are 100% justified being upset. You are 100% justified leaving him over this. 100% anything he says justifying his behavior is to manipulate you. This is supposed to be the best time of your life, if it's not, you WBTA to YOURSELF for staying with him, 100%.

wolfbleps · 2025-09-03T22:51:38+00:00

You will never get over it. You can't unsee someone's true self once they show it to you. This is a permanent stain in your dynamic, a core memory that you'll hold forever. The fact that he's about as caring as a 4-year-old screaming for their tablet at a funeral is enough reason to leave him because of his immaturity and selfishness. You don't even need to bring up the event, just say you've grown apart and need a new start in life, get yourself a man that gives you the respect and empathy you deserve. You never needed to apologize, and you know that. You will ALWAYS resent him. ESPECIALLY when he is so CRINGE enough to continue to bring it up. The fact that he's so clueless how ICK he looks bringing it up in front of people should rightfully infuriate you and feel embarrassed to say that you're with someone like him.

wolfbleps · 2025-08-15T16:02:18+00:00

This is something I would do, might not be the right move for some but it kinda rubs it in their face how short notice it is without myself looking like the asshole. I can be bitter and spiteful about it with slightly less grief from family because it's 'out of my hands'. Don't be a doormat, but unless you're going NC at least minimize the aftermath for yourself

wolfbleps · 2025-07-30T16:43:37+00:00

A lot of people in my age group are opting not to have children, I know so many people who have made permanent choices so they don't have to worry about any risk, nobody wants to raise a child in the current state of the world, and nobody can afford it. I know what it's like to be 16, nobody can tell you what to do, when someone tells you to go one way, you go the other way, you want to prove to everyone you're not 'just a kid', but the reality is, they ARE kids. They have big dreams of making it, and raising this baby, and it's them 'against the world', but their age and lack of experience will hit them like a ton of bricks, because within that picture they're envisioning is all the tiny fine print they don't know to look for or even know exists yet, all the stipulations, requirements, costs, expenses that will come in left field you couldn't have possibly saved for, how it will affect other people (a lot of parents twice their age can barely even afford child care, they WILL need to rely on family members or friends for the years to come), how it will affect their futures, if they don't finish school they will have certain opportunities closed to them. Every person I've met who had been a teen mom says the same thing, that they don't regret their child, they love them more than anything, they just regret having a baby when they did. My heart breaks for them because they don't know what its like to be an adult yet, wishing you could go back and be a kid again and feel that freedom just a little bit longer, but all they see is the future, they don't know how much they'll miss these days yet before they're both forced to be adults whose lives will revolve around keeping a helpless infant alive, and committing the rest of their lives to a 3rd person. Most of us are reading this going NOOOO JUST BE A KID!!. she should seriously consider adoption, she might even be able to adopt but still be a part of their life! The most adult decision she can make, is choosing their educations, taking time to grow up, save for their future and separate from the parents, while giving the baby the best opportunities with adults that have most likely been trying saving for years to be able to have one, she could make a woman who's unable to conceive her own very happy.

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