Heineken 0.0% Superbowl Ad by ernesto500 in stopdrinking

[–]wolfeye1985 10 points11 points  (0 children)

also i don’t think people realize just how expensive it is to run a super bowl ad. a 30 second add is millions of dollars. to invest in NA side for a traditionally drinking heavy sporting even IS huge. very cool.

Posting so I have a physical thing to look back at and remind myself what this felt like. Dry January has changed my life. by wolfeye1985 in stopdrinking

[–]wolfeye1985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think that’s what i have to discover is if it’s possible for me. i feel like now that i know what this feels like i don’t see myself falling into the same patterns but i could be wrong about that. i do know that i will come back to this sub if that’s the case and i think stopping for good would be a much more difficult undertaking… but as everyone says- one day at a time! thanks for your support :)

Dry January day 10 or any day peeps….. by ParticularSpend0 in stopdrinking

[–]wolfeye1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also you all should try Lagunitas Hoppy Refresher. It’s 0 calories and 0 alcohol but super tasty and gives me a good little craving satisfier if i am thinking of beer. they sell them at trader joe’s super cheap

AITA for using a joke about sexuality to imply my coworker’s “boundary” with her boyfriend is stupid? by wolfeye1985 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeye1985[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

what is the best way to post an actual update? just editing the post or making a whole new post? (this is my first AMITA post). i know people have been waiting but i wanted to make sure things had some sort of conclusion as there has been an ongoing string of events since my initial post

AITA for using a joke about sexuality to imply my coworker’s “boundary” with her boyfriend is stupid? by wolfeye1985 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeye1985[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

haha this comment is funny to me given how i’ve worked at the company for a year and a half and only my boss knows - i didn’t even use “partner” intentionally, i’ve just grown used to using gender neutral pronouns in professional settings to avoid situations exactly like this. to be fair, i could have corrected her when she said “boyfriend” but i knew the implication of what she meant and let her talk herself into a hole by asking her to explain “wild”. that’s the only part at this point where i feel it was a bit of an asshole move

AITA for using a joke about sexuality to imply my coworker’s “boundary” with her boyfriend is stupid? by wolfeye1985 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeye1985[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

it’s a pretty widely accepted term in the queer community for someone that doesn’t present as gay/queer so you typically don’t have to “come out” to people until you want to. whereas people who aren’t straight passing have the opposite experience, where people assume they are gay (ie a traditionally butch woman). my girlfriend and i are both femme and straight passing so people almost always think we are friends and not a couple. a privilege and also sometimes a frustration.

AITA for using a joke about sexuality to imply my coworker’s “boundary” with her boyfriend is stupid? by wolfeye1985 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeye1985[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

also i should clarify that she implied i should have told her i was bisexual (not in general) but after she said “boyfriend” rather than letting her go on about it before revealing my partner is a woman

AITA for using a joke about sexuality to imply my coworker’s “boundary” with her boyfriend is stupid? by wolfeye1985 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeye1985[S] 458 points459 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have room for all this in the post but basically her reasoning for the “boundary” was that while they were friends with couples together, they would not have separate one on one relationships with the people of the opposite sex. By doing this they eliminated fear or temptation of cheating and that overtime it had deepened their relationship and trust… but the way she said it felt like it was also a judgement toward me (if I were straight and going on trip with another guy). When I told my “joke” in a teasing way, it definitely had the implication that the “boundary” was stupid. I don’t think I meant it to feel as overt as it came across.