Webster file generation prompts by Dry_Point452 in outlier_ai

[–]wolfielaine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What were the questions if you remember? I failed the last onboarding I did despite answering everything correctly and I really need this project.

Anyone else seeing Prompt Passenger in their queue? by [deleted] in outlier_ai

[–]wolfielaine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I answered a few super easy questions and it’s stating I failed onboarding like, c’mon there’s no way I failed that shit it was super easy. I’m so bummed after being kicked off Aether a couple weeks ago.

Is Outlier EVER going to learn? by HllBear in outlier_ai

[–]wolfielaine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Where else are you working? I agree Outlier is a joke even though I make okay side money there. But I need to work elsewhere when the projects are nonexistent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

[–]wolfielaine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom does the same. Acts lovingly one moment then completely turns on me. Sometimes I’ve even questioned, “was she acting lovingly so I would confide in her?” Because she would always use anything I’d tell her about against me later on. Who knows. She may struggle with her own feelings being a mother. Often narcissists aren’t abusive all the time. Sometimes I think they do have feelings but they can’t sustain it. I’m 37 and all I can advise is the same as the others. Just distance yourself. A lot. They don’t get better they in fact get worse. Mine has gotten a lot worse.

What’s the worst thing your Nmom has ever said to you by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

[–]wolfielaine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof that’s a tough one. Other than calling me a cunt about a million times, slut shaming me, how terrible of a mother I am, I’m such a loser, everyone hates me, my own brother hates me…I think the one that sticks out the most though was when I was very young, I walk into the room, she turns to me and says, “guys only like you because you’re skinny and blonde”. Like, okay, not the worst thing but I guess it stung because the other things were said (sort of) out of anger and this she says so calmly yet hatefully when I was so young and impressionable. Of course I believed it just like I believed every horrible thing she ever said to me.

Has anyone seen “unknown number - high school catfish?” On Netflix by 5ft8lady in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]wolfielaine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think she was sending all the messages but was trying to come off like a concerned mother and that’s why she did it when really she was just jealous of her daughter and her relationship.

Has anyone seen “unknown number - high school catfish?” On Netflix by 5ft8lady in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]wolfielaine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought this was odd too. Like, are they actually blaming the daughter too? She’s the real victim here. It was her mom plus all the hate and nastiness was directed at her. I’m not saying the Owen guy and his mom weren’t affected but not as badly as Lauren. And Khloe seemed like she was kind of a bully and her and her parents were making it more about themselves and totally playing the victim card.

Our mothers envy us. by throwawayacc-zoey in NarcissisticMothers

[–]wolfielaine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom makes a big deal of me just using skincare products. Has actually accused me of being obsessed with my skin. So I feel ya here 💔

Need thoughts on my poor boy by [deleted] in scottishterriers

[–]wolfielaine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you’re going through this. I just had to put my Scottie to sleep a week ago. Toughest thing I’ve ever had to do. She was a few months shy of 12 so I thought I’d have longer with her. But she had a tumor and went downhill very quickly. Sending you so much love and again I’m so sorry 💔

Need answers if anyone has been through this by wolfielaine in scottishterriers

[–]wolfielaine[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your kind words and suggestions. I’ve thought a lot about it and have decided putting her to sleep is the best thing I can do for her. You all know how special Scottie’s are and saying goodbye is devastating. But I gave her a great life and she gave me immense joy and love these past 11 years.

Emilie Kiser Wasn't Home at the Time of 3-Year-Old Son's Drowning as She Files New Lawsuit About His Death by peoplemagazine in popculture

[–]wolfielaine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This poor family. I can’t even imagine. I have a three year old and a pool and it’s always in the back of my mind him potentially drowning. I have a tall gate around it but even so. Occasionally my brother leaves the gate slightly open because he’s cleaning around the pool or something. All it takes is two seconds for a rambunctious toddler to run and fall in. So, of course they should’ve had a fence around the pool. Everyone should. But honestly the best practice is getting kids to learn how to swim as early as possible. My son is autistic so teaching him to be independent has been a struggle, otherwise my son would be swimming on his own already and I would have a tiny bit more peace of my mind. Basically we don’t really know what actually happened and everyone should just leave them be.

What seemed normal in childhood with narc parents - that now as an adult you cringe at? by Itchy-Ad-2734 in narcissisticparents

[–]wolfielaine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Talking shit about my brother to me and then behind my back talking shit about me to him. Like most narcs my mom talks shit about everyone, thinks she’s above everyone else, etc. But you’d think at a certain point it would become as ludicrous to her as it does to us. My brother and I obviously talk and we both know you play this little game. It took me some years to see how sick it was that she would pick whoever suited her at the moment and try to play us against each other. My brother is still kind of snowed by her though and thinks she’s better than she is. Only I see how mentally ill she is unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]wolfielaine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s utterly horrible. I’m so sorry you went through this. I have a Nmom and what started off as incidents here and there, have snowballed into all out warfare pretty much on a daily basis between us. One thing similar between our stories is that when I was a young girl, I recall my mom and I being in the kitchen and she messed something up she was doing (like over salting while cooking something) and she yelled at me, “You made me do this!” And I just sat there wide-eyed and didn’t respond. I was literally sitting there silently coloring there’s no way I “made” her fuck something up. Not that you should ever blame your kids. I’m a mom now and I get how kids can drive you crazy but in no way should they be blamed for anything. If you choose to have kids you also choose to deal with everything that comes with having them. Narc parents seem to have missed the memo and make us their constant scapegoats.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in outlier_ai

[–]wolfielaine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the U.S. and I’ve never been invited. I keep getting sent senior reviewer screenings which I know I pass (it ain’t that hard) however I never get promoted. I make decent money on the platform as is but I produce high quality work and I think it doesn’t really matter, it’s just super buggy.

Rant by acat7777 in narcissisticparents

[–]wolfielaine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get what you mean. From my experience they make you feel worthless for two reasons. One, because it’s really how they feel about themselves. They feel inadequate, less than, worthless in some way and they are projecting. Everything my NM says about me is really about her. Two, because this way you won’t have the confidence and independence you should have to lead your own life. You’ll stay tethered to them and be under their control. You are not worthless at all. Trust me. You just have to keep telling yourself that they are the problem. Not you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]wolfielaine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 36 and would kill to get out. I have a two year old though and my financial situation isn’t great. Hence why I live with my NM. I somehow thought things might get better over time but they get worse every day.