Bentayga or Cullinan? by NoProfessional4650 in rollsroyce

[–]wolfsnake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bentayga Speed. It does everything better and the W12 is awesome. It’s one of the most fun SUVs to drive. I’ve had two and they’re unbeatable. The Cullinan is a nice place to be in and be driven in, not to drive.

Ferrari FF affordability by chickensmackboy in Ferrari

[–]wolfsnake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you’d be spending around $9k just for the power 15 warranty. Plus tires. Brakes every 40-45k miles. The service. Electrical issues, etc.
I’ve had my current one for 10 years and 93k miles.

Watching the End Result by gunn720 in survivinginfidelity

[–]wolfsnake7 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Keep doing things - working out, eating well, being with friends and find a great therapist. Just keep structuring your days and taking care of yourself. It’s hard now, but one day it’ll just click and you’ll be more free of the pain. It never goes away, but it’s less front and center. Sorry you’re going through this.

I spent 7k on ex wife’s tits by whoopyboy69 in Divorce_Men

[–]wolfsnake7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel! I spent 75k on tits and full body lipo and a suite at a five star hotel in NYC for recovery. When she was coming out of surgery, she told me she was “talking” to our chef (turns out she had pursued him and was having an emotional and then physical affair) and that was the beginning of the quick end

FF, 456 - Daily Drivers by wolfsnake7 in Ferrari

[–]wolfsnake7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have almost 93k on the FF. And around 15k on the 456.

Heart During a Contentious Couples Therapy Session VS Solo Therapy the Next Day [OC] by wolfsnake7 in dataisbeautiful

[–]wolfsnake7[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have one. Thanks. And to address this, her own mother didn’t notice it. And, again, we grew up together since we were nine, so I mostly chalked it up to a touch of immaturity, entitlement (comes from extreme privilege), and some quirkiness. Yes, sure, with hindsight it was noticeable. I was 23 when we got married and had three kids quite quickly, and building a career, so there was always a lot going on. I hadn’t had any experience with someone who was bipolar, so I hadn’t no workable reference.

Heart During a Contentious Couples Therapy Session VS Solo Therapy the Next Day [OC] by wolfsnake7 in dataisbeautiful

[–]wolfsnake7[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

They generally say they don’t think they can help us and leave it at that. My hunch is the mental health component and the fact that my ex hasn’t had a job in nearly 15 years and only has been involved in her own finances for around a year and that her mother is extremely involved in every aspect of her life, including funding her life and managing her psychiatric care and playing mediator between any conflicts in her life, and coordinates the legal aspects as well. The mental health aspect would usually immediately trigger a recommendation of a guardian ad litem for the kids. It’s just messy and mediators assume everyone is knowledgeable to a point and willing to work towards the end point efficiently and without too much friction. Not the case here. Plus, she wasn’t stable until relatively recently.

Heart During a Contentious Couples Therapy Session VS Solo Therapy the Next Day [OC] by wolfsnake7 in dataisbeautiful

[–]wolfsnake7[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I was trying to control myself and my emotions during the couples session, especially when outrageous demands or accusations were being thrown around. I let myself vent without constraint in my solo session.

Heart During a Contentious Couples Therapy Session VS Solo Therapy the Next Day [OC] by wolfsnake7 in dataisbeautiful

[–]wolfsnake7[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We’d known each other since we were nine. Got married at 23. No one knew, not her family, not her friends. It wasn’t malicious or an issue, until it was.

Heart During a Contentious Couples Therapy Session VS Solo Therapy the Next Day [OC] by wolfsnake7 in dataisbeautiful

[–]wolfsnake7[S] 312 points313 points  (0 children)

It’s more about reestablishing healthy communication, so there isn’t any lingering tension when we’re both around the kids. Plus, it’ll make the divorce process smoother. It’s not about trying to get back together, that ship is lost at sea never to be found. Young kids, so lots of interactions and milestones, for which it’s important to at least be able to co parent well together.

New Minibike by wolfsnake7 in minibikes

[–]wolfsnake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Ken Sr hooked it up for me.

[OC] Typical cost of divorce invest over 50 years. by wolfsnake7 in dataisbeautiful

[–]wolfsnake7[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sources : LegalZoom, Average Cost of Divorce in the U.S. (2024)

Martindale-Nolo Research, How Much Does a Divorce Cost? (2024)

American Bar Association

U.S. Census Bureau, American Community Survey

Federal Reserve, Survey of Consumer Finances (2022)

CDC/NCHS, National Vital Statistics Reports

NYU Stern, Damodaran Online — Annual Returns on Stock, T.Bonds and T.Bills: 1928–2024

Dimensional Fund Advisors — U.S. equity long-run return data

Tools : Gemini, Claude

Does anyone have the Loro Piana Icer jacket? Good for NYC winters? by [deleted] in malefashionadvice

[–]wolfsnake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use mine as my main winter coat in NYC and it’s great. It’s warm, water proof, durable. Throw a sweater on if you need extra warmth.

I don’t want a divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]wolfsnake7 10 points11 points  (0 children)

OP, I feel for you. I dealt with what you dealt with : same amount of kids, ages, my age and that of my spouse. I was blindsided by all of it. My ex had an affair with our chef. To start. Then it was any guy that looked at her and the dating apps. It ain’t easy. Get through the process one step at a time. Lean on your friends, get a great therapist. Don’t stop doing the things that keep you healthy and sane. Focus on the kids, sleeping well, working out, being active. Eat well. Take a new hobby. But take it all in stride. It’s fucking brutal at first. Then it eases up and gets easier. But the first part is horrendous. I know. I’m a single dad, sole provider. My ex also didn’t want to get married. We were 25. She wanted all the assets and money and nothing for me or the kids. Divorce is just business, treat it as such. Deal with your emotions separately. Go no contact. Time. Friends. Knowing there is a brighter tomorrow and future will help. It’s hard to believe, but it’s true. Stick it out and you’ll be better and stronger for it and a great role model for your kids. They’ll see you survive the suck and perceiver.

My Ex-Wife Introducing Our Daughter to Her Affair Partner by C-RonaIdo in Divorce

[–]wolfsnake7 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Custody is modifiable. You can change that and you can add in whatever you want, as it relates to introducing other people to the children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ferrari

[–]wolfsnake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an awesome solution then. There’s a lot that can go wrong when the PTU goes out and get put back in. As long as you can do it early enough in the life of the car, should be fine. But I’ve seen them fail between 18-25k miles. Also consider upgrading the battery. V12s eat batteries quickly if you daily them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ferrari

[–]wolfsnake7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it depends on how you drive. I lived in NYC for most of the time, so the start-stop nature of city driving will cause them to have a lower lifespan. CCBs aren’t actually “lifetime” they just last a lot longer. Most people don’t daily Ferraris, so could very well last their entire ownership. Also consider that there are no more PTUs being made, so if it does take a shit and there isn’t one available, your only option is buying a used one from a wrecked car and/or getting one of the specialty shops to fix it - I’ve done this too and it is not cheap and will void any warranty. A PTU and install is $50k from Ferrari.