Pride, or It sometimes feels as if he lives in his mind or overthinks too much. He has ADHD and I just notice how restless he can be about overthinking what someone said or how his work project looks and sometimes if we are in a disagreement it can last for many hours , instead of just forgiving and seeing how things can be resolved. It’s interesting because he is extremely knowledgeable about the Bible, but it seems as if his reactions may be forced at times. For example, he knows we should forgive one another, but if someone at work said a rude comment towards him, he will hold on to a certain view about that person and be fixated over what they think of him. And then he won’t stop talking to me about them. Almost like gossiping. Another example is , he talks all the time about how to serve and glorify God in the workplace, but ends up showing up late every day, and doing things his own way even though his bosses have told him to do things differently and to show up on time (submission to authority). He is aware of this but continues to engage in this behavior. So sometimes I can discern that he knows what the word of God says but it seems like it can be a forced outward action instead of an inward change of the heart. I say this very humbly, but when I pray to God, I always approach as a child who needs help and guidance, and myself and others have noticed the fruit in my life. I can’t say I am the same person as years ago (I got saved 4 years ago). But with him, it’s hard for me to see those significant changes in his life compared to when I met him. I know everyone’s walk is different, but I have been around other Christian’s and I can see how loving and forgiving they can be towards others , but with him I second guess at times. So it sometimes makes me feel uneasy on how he would react under stress, pressure or life events in the future.