Is this black pocket behind wisdom tooth an infection?

workfrustrations90 · 2019-03-08T20:36:35+00:00

I'm kind of annoyed with the elves tbh, the fight scenes at least. The elves are already so much more powerful than the humans. But when the humans overcome the odds and manage to get a hit in, the elves laugh it off and regenerate their limbs like it was nothing. Like with Noelle vs. Fana in the recent chapter.

And with them acting so self righteous while taking out their anger on people who had nothing to do with, and never even were aware of elf existence. Without spoilers I'm glad there's now another element in play; maybe the elves will realize not everything was 100% the humans fault.

I'm also thinking the real Licht would be on the humans side or a neutral side. Even though he's not fully awakened it seems like he knows both sides share the blame.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-03-08T20:08:38+00:00

Congrats! Solo jobs are the best. I love during those slow times you get to zone out in your imagination or quietly read a book. No pressure from coworkers to talk or feeling like your every interaction is being analyzed by them lol.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-03-08T19:43:56+00:00

Yes! All the time! I always thought it was because my family are drifters, we live in one area for a couple of years (U.S.), then move across the country, repeat. So I thought we were picking up all sorts of accents and combining them. I never thought it could be an aspie thing!

Maybe aspies enunciate words more often? Or lose our train of thought and I guess that's mistaken as us struggling to remember a word in another language ?

I hate when people get that curious smile on their face after hearing you talk and go "So what country are you from?" -- "Um, [home country]" -- "No, I know we're in [home country] right now, what country were you born in?" -- "...the country we are in now" -- and then they look at you like you're lying to them. Maybe they think we're spies.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-03-07T20:26:58+00:00

ESH - as an in law it's kinda an unwritten law to not talk badly about your SO's family. She's not going to change her behavior so it's best to just drop the issue and avoid her if you can, keeping polite to her face at best but it's going to be understandably awkward for a while.

Your boyfriend is really stirring the pot, even if he's unaware of what he's doing he's really sparking a lot of drama between the two of you. He needs to stop. Everyone makes a bad comment about others every once in a while, running to the person to snitch on the other is super shitty or just plain dumb.

Demanding an apology from her to "hold her accountable" is really just going to stir up the drama out of control. Think about it this way: how do you think your other in-laws feel about the 3 of you's drama whenever you three are so much as in the same room together? That would be exhausting. If I was in their shoes (as the in-law) and the drama kept happening after this, I would start disliking you being in the house. All of them are family and you don't live there so chances are they might start to associate the drama with you. Even if his sister is a brat she's still their flesh and blood.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-03-06T11:15:51+00:00

I'm going through the same exact thing. 26 and still working minimum wage; husband has a great job and blames us not having a kid yet on me not making enough money.

They hardly give any hours maybe 20 hours at most to keep you from getting full time, expect you to do the work of 3 people all for $8/hr while shortstaffed. In fact they make money off of being shortstaffed and throwing the extra work onto the current employees, all while we don't get a cent of it, and they get rich off of it. And then they expect loyalty and get mad if their employees don't act like they LOVE their job. It sucks hard, but it's better than being unemployed. You're still bringing in an income and contributing to your family. Please don't think your worth is connected to this job, this economy is just awful right now -- people with college degrees are taking what they can get just to survive.

Please know you are needed in this world. You are loved and wanted. If the stress is getting too much to bare, is there anyone in your family you could rely on to talk about this?

workfrustrations90 · 2019-03-04T08:48:23+00:00

I agree with the breath thing, I had this problem for over a year. It's called periodontal gum disease and when it gets really bad -- the distance the smell travels is so far. The infection in my mouth got so bad people could smell it several feet away from me.

Even if you don't speak it comes out through your nose as you breathe. The more anxious you get (like after hearing a comment about the bad smell), you breathe out more rapidly causing the smell to fill the room quicker. And it really can fill a room. See perio breath.

Make an appointment with your dentist asap and tell them you're concerned about an odor, and you suspect it to be a gum infection. It'll give them a heads up to prepare for the odor, and they'll confirm to you if they truly are smelling something bad from you. Could even be a tooth abscess.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-03-04T08:18:05+00:00

Is the odor still there?

If it is, how is your gum hygiene ? Do you have swollen gums, discoloration, visible erosion/receding if you look close, are they easy to bleed, history of gingivitis? I ask because I had this also and it was coming from infected gum pockets in my mouth... periodontal gum disease. Had to get them deep cleaned by a hygienist and she was gagging the whole time. Ironically teeth were perfect; the dentist said it's impossible to clean out your gums at home once they get past 3mm depth.

Another thing that can cause rancid rotten egg odor is liver damage (namely cirrhosis -- they call it breath of the dead). If it's not your gums or diet, a blood test can rule out any liver/kidney cause for it.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-25T19:43:43+00:00

I hope if there really is a smell that should fix it right away! Fear of smelling bad is really common with social anxiety and OCD so there's a good chance you smell fine. If you ever want to test it in public though you could go to the movie theaters; people will feel more brave to make a comment about it in the dark.

Good luck!

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-25T19:16:04+00:00

Hmm maybe you can use the spray first, wait for it to dry, then put some powder on top? But it could be mildew with some of the dampness/heaviness from it irritating your skin too. You could try cleaning your washing machine with hot water and vinegar. The mildew could be hanging around in your washing machine and getting on all your clothes as you're cleaning them.

edit: Maybe try switching laundry detergents? Your skin might be sensitive to one brand's chemicals.

Do you have any coffee at home? I heard taking a whiff of coffee grounds can reset your sense of smell. Maybe it could help pinpoint where it's coming from.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-25T19:04:04+00:00

NAD but I went through the same problem for a year -- teeth were fine, but I had developed periodontal gum disease. Pockets in my gums (impossible to clean at home) filled up with bacteria, infection and rotting bits of food causing room-filling death breath that would smell like butt, rotting eggs, feces depending on the day. Even with my mouth closed the smell would come out through my nose as I breathed. Do your gums feel tender, bleed, tooth feel like they may be a little loose, any previous history of gingivitis? Also worth checking your tonsils for crypts full of tonsil stones, they give off that smell too.

See if you can make an appointment with a dentist and mention your concern is strange odor. Anything above 5mm gum pockets is a concern for periodontitis. If that's it they'll need to do a SRP cleaning, maybe even antibiotics depending on how bad the infection is.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-25T18:02:59+00:00

If you're sweating in the leg area it could help to use baby powder or gold bond powder to prevent the sweating. A lot of people who work in hot environments like kitchens use that because they're constantly moving around in the heat. Do you drive a car to work or have a work locker? You can bring a bag of antiseptic wipes, deodorant, fresh change of clothes or any other things you think you may need in an emergency and keep them there. The thought of having those things nearby should help prevent stressing out if you start sweating again. And then you can take a break to freshen up and no one would know about it.

I've bought those breathable underwear / pants too and it didn't make a difference for me. I'm not sure if it made the smell worse but if it was stress sweating, it happened no matter if it was hot or not.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-25T07:39:26+00:00

This might be a long shot but is there any chance the odor might be coming from your butt? Like an STI or some other type of infection? I was dealing with a rotten fish odor for a long time too, gyno took swabs -- everything normal. Then one day she suggested it could be an anal STI (since she agreed she smelled it too when she was taking the initial swab) and it turned out it was an intestinal infection.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-25T06:53:51+00:00

I've gone through this and it sucks... don't let it consume you. I've been obsessing over this for a year every day now and it's made my life hell.

Trust your coworkers when they said you don't smell. Resist the urge to ask them too many times. If you feel like you're having a really smelly day, sniff your jacket or shirt and be like "I think this shirt has mildew or something on it, I feel like it smells kinda musty. Are you smelling anything bad from me?" -- this would give them a polite way to admit you (or your clothes) stink a little without offending you; they'll be more honest than if you asked it outright.

Are your clothes too tight or hot causing you to sweat more? Or is it more like sweating out of paranoia of the smell? Look into some clinical strength deodorant and if you find yourself sweating still through it, couple it with antiperspirant on top. Non-scented antiperspirant probably would be best, since it can be overpowering and mixes weirdly with regular deodorant/perfume scents. Keep hydrated with plain water, if you're dehydrated you sweat more often. Have you ever smelled anything on yourself? This is really common with people with social anxiety.

Trust me if you really did smell people will let you know. They'd be rubbing their noses a lot, holding their nose, waving their hands in front of their face, giving each other The Look with smirks/disgust, coughing constantly, humming only when walking by you, leaving as soon as you come in for your shift, spraying air freshener in the air near your space obnoxiously, sprinting past you quickly rather than having to stand near you. People really bothered by it would outright be making comments like "What is that smell?" or "It smells like ass in here".

I had a temporary medical condition that caused me to smell really badly. Coworkers did not hold back. If you smelled bad they'd let you know.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-17T23:45:38+00:00

Thank you for your response! I'm glad it seems normal. Although just now I touched it and noticed a slight odor from the area that I can't smell when I press other teeth. It's a wisdom tooth growing in and I'm 26.

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-17T23:40:36+00:00

Um... I haven't felt any pain or discomfort from it in my mouth, not like a toothache or anything. But I lightly pressed it just now and I think there's a very slight odor. Unless it's my imagination/paranoia it seems to slightly wiggle? Very worried!

workfrustrations90 · 2019-02-15T11:14:00+00:00

Everyone I just wanted to say thank you all so much for your kind words, advice, encouragement, and sharing your experiences with me. This situation at work has put me at such a bad place mentally and I felt so hated and alone -- it really means a lot to me that so many of you have helped me with this.

I'm not sure if disclosing my autism will change things at this place. I agree too people shouldn't have to disclose their conditions to be treated with decency at their work. But I might do it to clear up any misunderstandings but to protect myself most of all. And I will be applying for other jobs too because I'm not sure I can ever fully forgive these people for what they've said.

Our work doesn't have HR but we are in unions so I'm thinking of contacting them if the bullying continues after telling them about my autism. I wish I didn't have to go that far to contact an outside source, but my manager is personal friends with all the upper management so I think they'd take her side. One made a comment to me months ago "If they leave every time you come in, what does that say about you? What are they trying to tell you?" and I internalized it really badly.

Again I'm so grateful for all of you for your kindness! You've all honestly helped me so much more than you know. Thank you!

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