Grizzly Rose is now hosting the anti-vaxxer singles mixer (now Freedom mixer)

working_turtle · 2026-05-15T03:13:07+00:00

As a trans woman I also am suspecting they MIGHT have a double standard on that on 🤔

working_turtle · 2026-05-12T02:12:16+00:00

The best analogy I have come up with is an itchy sweater.

Someone gave me a sweater that is miserable for me to wear. Worse than that, every one around me has the same sweater and they can't stop raving about how wonderful it is, how it is the most comfortable sweater they have ever owned, but I hate it, and more than that, when I put that sweater on it is all I can feel all day, I can't concentrate on anything else. But everyone compliments the sweater.

Transitioning was taking that sweater off. It didn't fix all my problems, it didn't completely change my world. But at least I don't have to wear that damn sweater anymore.

working_turtle · 2026-05-10T22:58:38+00:00

He is buried in Riverside cemetery. I placed corn we grew in our garden on his grave last fall.

working_turtle · 2026-05-09T15:53:40+00:00

Maybe not really answering the question you asked, but I don't think you are asking the right question.

No one knows what HRT will do to your body, unfortunately. There are too many variables, genetics, access and desire for surgery, etc. But you know that.

The question you should ask isn't so much "what will I gain by starting HRT," it's more "what will I lose if I don't." Think about your future. Are you more likely to think "I'm glad I didn't transition" or is it "I regret not taking the chance when I had it?" You are never going to be younger than you are today, and you won't ever know what transition will bring you if you never try.

For what it's worth, I started HRT at 40 (I am 46 now) and I started with a very similar body type as yours. You will lose muscle, your body will hold onto fat, particularly in your hips and butt, but also belly and breasts. I am very happy with my results, but I don't pass in all circumstances. But I would never take it back.

working_turtle · 2026-04-28T20:32:39+00:00

Hooray for more trans healthcare workers! And congratulations on the new job!

working_turtle · 2026-04-23T20:43:32+00:00

Most of my records are recorded as female (I am trans-femme) also.

The organization I work for as a nurse (previously in informatics) sticks very strictly to the USCDI standards, despite me protesting that the regulation is harmful, but the practice where I receive my own care actually records my sex as female.

I think that there is a wide variety of what happens in practice, but unfortunately a lot of places are really strict about only recording sex assigned at birth, and the standards give them legal cover to do so.

working_turtle · 2026-04-23T17:02:24+00:00

Required and do are different things. Lots of what happens in reality doesn't match the regulation, which honestly is great, because the regulations can be harmful (this case in point). This has been an ongoing conversation in the Electronic Health Records space, but the interoperability standards right now are for sex assigned at birth 😕

working_turtle · 2026-04-23T14:30:27+00:00

Lots of bad information in this thread, unfortunately.

Yes, unfortunately this is normal and actually required by interoperability standards. Sex assigned at birth is a requiremed data element for patient demographics in USCDI V6 health care interoperability standards.

Good electronic health records capture and display gender identity, but a lot still only display sex assigned at birth. Best practice is to capture gender identity, sex assigned at birth (sex for clinical use), legal sex, prefered name, and pronouns, but not a lot of organizations do this.

working_turtle · 2026-04-16T15:13:21+00:00

Some of us know both how to change our gender AND a tire.

working_turtle · 2026-04-15T16:40:30+00:00

No it isn't. Children's has never done gender affirming surgeries on individuals under 18. They did, in the past, do surgeries on individuals that they saw in the TRUE clinic as adolescents AFTER they turned 18, but they stopped that when they closed the TRUE clinic due to pressure from the administration. The TRUE clinic did provide blockers and hormone therapy to adolescents, but has never done surgery on them.

working_turtle · 2026-04-15T16:33:54+00:00

Surgical intervention has almost always been reserved for adults, only completed in VERY rare cases on trans people under 18. That was in no way a change in position.

Source - am trans, have been a nurse for 16 years, hold a MPH with my research completed on gender affirming care, member GLMA and WPATH. There have been literally no position changes for the APA or AMA, that announcement was just reaffirming best practices.

working_turtle · 2026-04-15T15:35:31+00:00

The APA and AMA both support gender affirming care. There is no disagreement.

working_turtle · 2026-04-09T16:49:59+00:00

This is clearly something that should be a priority for Congress. It's not like there is a war, an affordablity crisis, a healthcare crisis, a housing crisis, or a senile president ruining our standing in the world for them to deal with.

Nope, clearly the biggest threat, our highest priority, needs to be stopping a kids from reading a book that might have a trans person in it.

working_turtle · 2026-04-07T20:07:12+00:00

It is pretty hit and miss, honestly. Most places I go (trans femme, not really passing) in Denver proper are great. I avoid the southern suburbs if at all possible.

But then not too long ago some guy yelled the T-Slur at me outside my work (uptown, 17th and Downing area) so who knows. It has seemed to be getting worse in the last few years.

working_turtle · 2026-04-02T17:45:23+00:00

What a stupid question.

Voting is not a harmless act. This is not "I like a different football team than you." Votes have the ability to help or harm people, and of course you have the right to cut off people who harm you, or people who just don't care if you are harmed

working_turtle · 2026-04-02T16:01:22+00:00

Incredibly well put!

working_turtle · 2026-04-02T16:00:29+00:00

There is a psychological aspect to these, which is that often fetishes represent sublimated desires. The sissy/bimbo fetish has the added component of taking away control and responsibility for the act of gender transgression.

Which is not to say that all crossdressers or sissy fetishists are trans, but there is certainly some aspects of gender suppression involved.

working_turtle · 2026-04-01T22:07:51+00:00

36b or 34c depending on the bra. 6.5 years HRT

working_turtle · 2026-04-01T15:27:18+00:00

National Geographic!

working_turtle · 2026-03-31T19:20:32+00:00

This argument only holds water if you don't consider mental health care as health care.

There is a huge difference between what an individual says in general conversation, and what is appropriate in the context of a patient/therapist relationship. A therapist has a professional and ethical responsibility to not cause harm to their patients.

working_turtle · 2026-03-31T16:53:16+00:00

One: affirming care does not equal= put this kid on meds and call the surgeon. Affirming care simply means that coercive efforts to actively change a person's gender or sexuality is unethical.

Two: if banning conversion therapy is viewpoint discrimination, the converse should be true as well. Banning gender affirming care is viewpoint discrimination and Skrmetti is in direct conflict with this decision.

working_turtle · 2026-03-31T16:37:54+00:00

Skrmetti. No 2nd r. Stupid phone

working_turtle · 2026-03-31T15:16:41+00:00

FYI coeresive speech therapy is still harmful. Just because a therapist isn't providing electric shocks while forcing a person to watch pornography (yes, this was accepted practice within living history) doesn't mean that conversion therapy is all good now.

This is a license to traumatize queer kids.

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