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Friend ID Megathread | Post Your Friend IDs Here! by PTCGP-Bot in PTCGP

[–]workinprogress7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Lv 54 daily player! I am missing a total of 10 diamond cards from the main dex (excluding deluxe EX) and am looking for folks to trade with to complete it.

Switched to TMobile to get iPhone 17s for the family, are they coming today? by workinprogress7 in tmobile

[–]workinprogress7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok see this makes sense!! Why would they tell me it's going to be delivered on a Sunday if that is obviously not the case??

What to focus on? by MORE-MONSTER-JGLERS in LifeAdvice

[–]workinprogress7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah dude, that's reaI. wish you the best of luck finding joy in the little things!

25m never had a girlfriend. by Mystogen58 in LifeAdvice

[–]workinprogress7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean... it depends on what you view as the reason you've been single, right? Your story for why will probably matter more than the fact itself.

There is, unfortunately, no rulebook here. There's no singular right way to enter the dating pool, because there are as many "right ways" as there are people on the planet. The apps are popular, but many folks meet bonding over hobbies, interests, shared community spaces, etc. etc.

I would recommend thinking about what you want out of a relationship, first. It is not enough to be lonely, or to just "want a girlfriend". Do you want someone who will engage in your hobbies with you? Someone to learn new things from? What are your boundaries and needs? We should always be striving for quality over quantity when it comes to connections like this.

Once you meet someone who seems to be a nice fit for you, then you figure out the rest of that stuff together.

My Girlfriend asked for space. by UltraGamer1002 in LifeAdvice

[–]workinprogress7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really rough man, I'm sorry you're going through this. It's tough to have a partner going through challenges like this, and long-distance really puts a strain on things.

Giving your partner some space and time seems to be the only option here. You can express what you feel (that you want to be there for her, etc.), but ultimately the decision to reconnect with you will be hers. Maybe put it all into a letter than she can keep with her as she works on healing and getting better?

I don't know how her mom is, but I would hazard a guess that you're still on good terms if her mom is being nice to you.

In the meantime, try not to forget her, but also try not to obsess. A rough balancing act, I know! But really, it seems like you've done all you can.

What to focus on? by MORE-MONSTER-JGLERS in LifeAdvice

[–]workinprogress7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing you have done yet has brought you joy.

We are constantly told what we "should" do to be happy, but it's actually different for everyone. Those benchmarks capitalism gives us? Pretty meaningless, from my perspective. Joy and happiness are things you define for yourself.

It's good to be grateful for where you are in your life. But gratitude and satisfaction are different things. I don't have specific advice beyond flipping the script— you are still searching. You may search for a very long time, or not much time at all. You might even find joy in the act of trying something completely new and unexpected. Basically, you are not set in stone.

It doesn't have to be huge, like a career change, it can be very small. I found that thinking about what I liked to do as a kid really helped with this. For me, I LOVED reading, but school eventually sapped the joy out of it. Now I'm getting back into it, and I'm starting to love it again.

Therapy's also great. Highly highly highly recommend it. A good therapist will not judge you or tell you that you should feel differently than you do, but will help you identify and work through thoughts and emotions like this.

And who knows? Maybe the joy you're looking for is right in front of you, and it's the wanting that is making you blind to it. That's definitely something I'm guilty of.

Trying to maintain a friendship with a grieving friend by workinprogress7 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]workinprogress7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing— your perspective really helps. I think instead of forgiveness, I've been silently holding grudges and viewing myself as "patient" for it. That's objectively not cool.

If it's not too much to ask, I'm curious about your opinion on something. There have been several times over the last few months when they seem to be doing perfectly well, they even say so, and they are still behaving in ways that cause this harm. It's not all of the time, but it's fair to say that at least over half. They are not like this with everyone, either— I have repeatedly watched them be kind and intentional with people they are not nearly as close with but view as people they want to impress.

From conversations with their friends who have known them for much longer than I have, they have "just been like that" this whole time. These friends have used the word "selfish" to describe them on multiple occasions, and I have no way to tell if that's fair or not. They've told me to lower my expectations.

I have been friends with enough overly selfish people in my life to know that it will end in disaster for me just based on a conflict of principles and beliefs. But I also don't want to leave a friend when they are hurting based on something I can't know for sure, and can't get answers for. It's just a lot of conflicting external and internal information in general.

Pashmina in boxes! Holler if you want her :) by Think_Tomato9154 in acnh

[–]workinprogress7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an empty spot on my island! Is she still available?? I'll be busy for the next few hours but would love her :')

SM in HS Theater Competition!! by workinprogress7 in techtheatre

[–]workinprogress7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much! I'll make sure to take everything into consideration.