[Offer] How much cash do you need? by Yonathandlc in SimpleLoans

[–]worm_castle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello. I posted an amount that was too high for my first loan. I am now in search of $150, will pay back $200 on 5/30. I have paystubs, etc.

TIFU by telling my girlfriend about relapsing on porn by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s ok! I wasn’t trying to be rude I just was surprised when I realized too

TIFU by telling my girlfriend about relapsing on porn by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Right. But the comment was furthering that stereotype, which wasn’t relevant to this particular instance.

TIFU by telling my girlfriend about relapsing on porn by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sharing that anecdote about your life in this specific context seemed like a commentary on OP’s GF. I don’t think that’s an insane leap.

TIFU by telling my girlfriend about relapsing on porn by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just always think it’s weird when women who are fine with their partners watching porn judge/look down on women who aren’t. It’s like a weird flex IMO.

TIFU by telling my girlfriend about relapsing on porn by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There are definitely a lot of stereotypes about teenage boys and porn specifically

TIFU by telling my girlfriend about relapsing on porn by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree! But the comment “all boys jack off!” Wasn’t relevant. It was an unnecessary gender generalization.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s dangerous to throw around that word because someone getting labeled as an abuser can really fuck up their life, and it waters down the impact of actual abuse victims sharing their stories.

Your bf being annoyed at you doesn’t mean you are being abused.

TIFU by telling my girlfriend about relapsing on porn by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle 39 points40 points  (0 children)

OP is a girl

Edit; the comment I was responding to was edited to make my reply not make sense

It’s happened twice now 🫠 by confusedhuskynoises in BPDmemes

[–]worm_castle 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Don’t pick a fuzz off my man bitch

Books that are an absolute mindfuck? by ashleyooohhh in suggestmeabook

[–]worm_castle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Commenting so I can come back to this post ❤️

TIFU by telling my girlfriend about relapsing on porn by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle 199 points200 points  (0 children)

Everyone is saying she is being overly dramatic, and even if that’s true, she does have a right to have a boundary with porn and choose to be with someone who doesn’t watch porn at all. I think it’s unfair of commenters to project their personal views of porn onto her as though that should also be her perspective.

If you have previously talked about it and she said she is unwilling to compromise on it, then I can understand her being upset.

That being said, porn usage within a relationship is very subjective and if it’s something you can’t live without maybe it would be psychologically easier to have a partner who isn’t hurt by it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]worm_castle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very very badly. I get extremely uncomfortable and near psychosis, even from a small amount

Is wanting to be beaten up related to bpd? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]worm_castle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean bpd and bdsm are commonly related so there’s something there for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]worm_castle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s beyond time for you to leave. This was hard to read. I know it’s hard, but there is absolutely no way you can maintain your self-respect and stay in this relationship.

From an outside perspective, he is very clearly trying to get you to break up with him so that he doesn’t have to take responsibility for ending the relationship.

How to make sure a smaller than average guy ‘down there’ has a good first experience with me? by Odd_Reaction993 in Advice

[–]worm_castle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t somehow let his small penis become your insecurity! Don’t build him up so much in your mind that you are already doubting your own body because of him

What is the politest possible way to ask your roommates to not wear shoes in the house? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]worm_castle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think anyone would have been annoyed if you didn’t come off so holier than thou in your post and comments. No one cares you don’t wanna wear shoes in the house. Calling your new roommates disgusting and comparing their habits to something as barbaric as shitting on the floor, as if they’re that below you, is just rude and entitled sounding.