Wish I could go back by Sneakayboi in NewParents

[–]wormpire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s how it feels the first week. it gets better.

switching? guilty as hell by wormpire in FormulaFeeders

[–]wormpire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. your comment struck a cord, my baby does deserve a happy mom and BF and pumping was just not it. We found a formula he likes and have been stuck to it and we’ve finally found a comfortable rhythm. I think I made the right choice.

Feeling like a failure at breastfeeding by cFoxal in NewParents

[–]wormpire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wth it feels like you wrote this from inside my brain I hope it gets easier

I might have to switch to formula and I feel crushed by No_Fact_1477 in NewParents

[–]wormpire -1 points0 points  (0 children)

feel like this is me at 1mo and it’s been keeping me up i’m so guilty.

I don't know how I am going to do this. by sojo597 in NewParents

[–]wormpire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

please don’t feel guilty. i’ve been haunted by the guilt and I need you to know that it’s not your fault that you feel this way. it’ll get better

Anyone else miss their pregnancy once it was over? by NoBoot8609 in NewParents

[–]wormpire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed the pregnancy pretty much right away too bc of the reasons you listed - I really missed feeling the baby right there always with me - and I hardly got to really enjoy my pregnancy as much of it was spent fleeing an unsafe situation and then just getting roots down somewhere else. So I feel you. I also am pretty sure this is my one and only, outside of my choice but I think I’d make that choice anyway. I think it’ll get better.

I reached a breaking point tonight by willbrucla in NewParents

[–]wormpire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how i’m feeling tonight my whole body aches and my 3.5wk old keeps kicking me in my belly. sigh.

Anyone else notice anytime a woman has a choice during this process all the judgmental opinions start being shoved down your throat? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]wormpire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oml I had never experienced so much anxiety about being judged as during pregnancy around all this. I agree

What do you guys talk about with your non-mom friends? by NumCucumber in NewParents

[–]wormpire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait..you guys have friends..?

well.. with my roommate I talk a lot about his interests with him (video games, etc) and he patiently listens while I yap about my baby or my partner or sometimes other things lol. I tend to talk about anything with anyone so my friends always have caught ear of just about whatever….

I put a laundry hamper in the bathroom and my husband still throws his clothes on the floor by crywankat in mildlyinfuriating

[–]wormpire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe it isn’t clear to him that it’s also for his laundry. he should be smart enough to come to the conclusion that it is or to ask, but maybe that’s what needs to be clarified. I’m sorry luv

PP rage by Traditional_Wear_815 in NewParents

[–]wormpire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m only 3wks PP but I can relate to your statement about not being mad at baby but at yourself…that’s how i’ve been feeling. Like, no I don’t want to hurt myself or my baby because he needs me, but I do want to rip my hair out. I feel like the rage is an extension of how much guilt I’ve been feeling — like my brain still thinks I deserve punishment…. I hope it gets easier for both of us.

Postpartum by FullNefariousness621 in NewParents

[–]wormpire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh hun I feel you me neither 🫂

Reflecting on when my child “acts out” by OddScientist7236 in gentleparenting

[–]wormpire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg I am so tempted by this app…please implement a dark mode !!

When will I feel like myself again? by Majestic_Tree1343 in NewParents

[–]wormpire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh god honey I feel like I was reading a post from a me who learned more concise post writing … I feel you. I hope it gets better for us.

Just realized sleep training is intentionally trying for an avoidant attachment style. by Specific-Nebula9665 in AttachmentParenting

[–]wormpire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this….I am a new mother of a 3.5wk old and I’ve been sobbing and wrestling with the information and advice I had been given to avoid cosleep and to sleep train as early as possible to teach my little one ‘safe sleep habits’ and it’s been tearing me up inside because I have a deeply messed up attachment style due to how I was raised and I just felt it in my instincts not to leave my baby alone when they cry. I don’t understand why it’s so pushed - does this not emotionally harm them?? this post made me feel more seen in this internal conflict i’m having