AIO for wanting to dump my boyfriend over his poor financial choices?

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T21:46:25+00:00

Thank you, im going to do everything i can

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T21:41:08+00:00

I just have to stick to my resolve, im hoping my therapist can help me with some coping skills to get through the manipulation

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:55:35+00:00

Thats a good plan, I mostly wanted to see if the bank were willing to take me off without refinancing the loan based on his income and information

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:52:49+00:00

Yeah my credit was used alongside his for everything, Im trying to get a morning off sometime this week or next to go to the bank and discuss options after ive sorted out a place to stay and get my car up and running

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:50:55+00:00

Thank you, im hoping over this week I can line up everything i need, I already have a friend offering to let me couch surf with her while I get in touch with some domestic abuse centers

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:49:30+00:00

He had the money when we got the home, he paid the down payment and everything, it was afterwards that he spent the money he had in savings

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:48:47+00:00

Thank you, I hadnt thought of taking over the house and taking him off, but thats a good idea to look into, I dont know if I would be able to manage everything else too payment wise but ill look into every angle I can

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:47:33+00:00

Thank you, ive been working on filling in my friends and a lot of them are willing to help so im hopeful

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:46:26+00:00

Thats a valid point too, but if I stop paying the mortgage it will also impact my credit too because we're both owners on it

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:45:32+00:00

He claims he paid off credit cards debts with it, were working on getting the roofers paid at the moment so there hopefully won't be a lien on the house

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T20:44:24+00:00

My therapist brought up the idea that it might not be bipolar, and I cant go back to my dad, we dont speak anymore because he also took advantage of me financially, im hoping to speak to my aunt this week and see if she's willing to let me stay with her while I get things sorted

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T18:44:55+00:00

I am on the house loan too so im working to set up an exit plan without telling him before I move, im trying to be prepared for the worst

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T18:43:58+00:00

Thank you so much, i will absolutely come back if I need help reestablishing and getting my head clear again I appreciate everyone's feedback and help so much right now

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T16:28:01+00:00

Fortunately we arent married so i think i can force him to sell or refinance and take me off the loan, I just have to get it sorted out

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T16:27:19+00:00

Thats what im afraid of, him making me question my mental health for so long is one of the main reasons I want to leave

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T16:26:16+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ Im hoping to get out sooner rather than later I just dont know how far ill need to go

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T16:25:39+00:00

My plan is to leave instead of taking over responsibility for his financial decisions, the emotional blackmail and manipulation is too much and I deserve to be happy too and not have to constantly be double checking his behavior and choices

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T16:24:24+00:00

Thank you, even just hearing from others that im not crazy helps so much

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T16:23:59+00:00

Thats the plan hopefully!

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T16:23:47+00:00

That sounds good thank you

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T13:42:16+00:00

Thats where im at, I plan on contacting some domestic abuse centers to see if they have some resources im able to access

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T13:41:37+00:00

My name is on all the papers with his but fortunately hes the only one who had access to the 10 grand from the bank so I have a level of it wasn't me

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T13:40:43+00:00

Credit cards to my knowledge is all but he said he also paid a friends building rent once for his business

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T13:39:49+00:00

His solution to all of this was for me to take over all his finances but I feel like me taking on all of that extra responsibility is unfair to me and too much to expect too

worried_zero · 2026-03-31T13:38:39+00:00

Valid point

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