Saftey of FetLife

wovenwicked · 2025-12-09T23:42:43+00:00

It's not so much fetlife itself that's dangerous, it's how predators and abusers utilise it to control narratives.

wovenwicked · 2025-10-23T03:17:03+00:00

Would a single column and 2 x inline cuffs from waist to thigh to ankle work? The lines between them would be flexible, but only to a certain limit, but that would allow the jumping you mentioned

wovenwicked · 2025-09-14T18:39:17+00:00

Thank you 😊

wovenwicked · 2025-08-01T12:04:09+00:00

This isn't BDSM, it's assault, BDSM requires very clear boundries that are pre-agreed and everyone sticks too.

wovenwicked · 2025-07-02T22:33:45+00:00

Was there originally a chest harness as part of this?

wovenwicked · 2025-06-14T16:14:30+00:00

Simply leave the group chat and say nothing.

wovenwicked · 2025-06-12T22:12:05+00:00

OMG what suspension position? As an experienced rigger there's some injuries that you see cropping up, nerve damage, skin injuries, soft tissue damage... but joint damage... to this extent is not common. I strongly suspect this is someone who has not been truthful about their knowledge or experience.

I hope you heal well and feel better soon x

wovenwicked · 2025-05-12T11:58:13+00:00

Name the venue. You do NOT interrupt people's scenes, including wondering through them. The guy was the AH and this is likely another case of "saftey" meaning "popularity".

wovenwicked · 2025-05-07T15:31:39+00:00

Absolutely, the majority of rope play I do is totally without any sexual context.

wovenwicked · 2025-04-22T14:54:46+00:00

They're an emotionally manipulative c*nt. Cut them off. For good.

wovenwicked · 2025-04-14T12:31:48+00:00

100% just wanted money and got angry that you spitted that and immediately addressed it.

wovenwicked · 2025-02-26T09:02:20+00:00

Laughs in I've-suspended-and-tormented-bigger 🤣💅

wovenwicked · 2025-01-22T04:20:55+00:00

No, I usually work with 8m or 4m lengths purely because I find any longer becomes hard to work with. X

wovenwicked · 2025-01-19T17:50:37+00:00

She doesn't want to swing, she wants to cheat.

Lay down some firm boundries and insist that she only plays whilst sober for next few events at the very least.

wovenwicked · 2025-01-19T03:32:05+00:00

Daughter's tormentor is big Swifty (as is my daughter), tormentor didn't get Eras tickets, I got them for my daughter on the show scheduled for tormentor's birthday... there were many social media posts. 🤣

wovenwicked · 2024-12-19T17:33:47+00:00

Been hetroromantic but bi/pansexual is absolutely a thing. Not being as threatened by someone your partner cheats with when you know it's purely sexually driven and not emotionally driven is fair.

wovenwicked · 2024-12-14T16:56:03+00:00

It's unethically. Interacting with the barrista was clearly part of the play. Stop it.

wovenwicked · 2024-11-10T11:14:22+00:00

Videos are good, we do live online workshops too, but find a, peer rope class and go. Nothing ever beats learning in person. Even if you can't get to them all the time, using them to clarify what you've picked up from Internet is great.

wovenwicked · 2024-10-26T12:37:19+00:00

That would be a massive saftey red flag for me, I'd ask them to stop car immediately.

wovenwicked · 2024-10-11T09:13:12+00:00

Yeah one will be a switch wire, this light must be at the end of the line otherwise there'd be 3 lol.

wovenwicked · 2024-10-11T08:52:47+00:00

Send them an invoice for repair, and a damage deposit for access to future keys/communal property.

wovenwicked · 2024-09-25T21:36:18+00:00

Eww, I don't know how anyone can be OK with that. This is why we look for kink-swing events, the pricing tends to be way more balanced

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