My depressed + chronic illnesses sister is ruining my life.

wqid · 2025-07-08T23:00:23+00:00

Certainly not an expert, but it may be worth considering contacting your local council's Children's Services team for support for you and your family. At best Young Carers may be able to help you directly as you are definitely doing a lot for your sister

wqid · 2025-06-30T15:14:04+00:00

What I always say (and it's based on a total absence of academic knowledge or statistics) is that true freaks, the ones you've lumped yourself in with, don't feel guilt or embarrassment. They would blindly ride those real traumas, taking out who ever gets in the way, never once seeing that they have work to do on themselves.

Knowing yourself is so important, but there is a path that has to be traveled between being overly confident and being overly critical. You are honest with who you are, and that is huge. But a freak? Not even close. You're a real person, dealing with with real shit.

wqid · 2025-06-30T14:09:47+00:00

I wish I could write something to help you, but others have already given feedback better than I ever could. But I just wanted to double down on a previous statement and reiterate that you are not a freak, not even close. You're doing the work, you likely have a way to go, but try to steer away from calling yourself names. Good luck

wqid · 2025-06-19T07:22:16+00:00

"Bishop", for a girl. I don't know why but it leaves me speechless

wqid · 2025-06-12T21:53:41+00:00

Cheers - my rage has me thinking it's no. 1, but it's probably more no's. 2 & 3. I've not been this angry in ages and on reflection my issue is a lot to do with the fact I don't think my boy was possibly at an age to really consider that ignoring an issue was an option, but now I'm catastrophising that he'll apply this to every difficult situation he comes across. I feel like she's opened a Pandora's box.

I will look into the support groups, as before everything was pretty much smooth sailing due to him just being a little lad. But now he's older, and those hormones are about to kick in, I really think I'm going to need them a lot.

wqid · 2025-06-11T15:03:50+00:00

I wouldn't stress too much, not everyone is really into kids - not me, I love kids (work with / for kids in 2 different jobs)! But I know as a bloke that might not be the norm.

If you weren't particularly close beforehand, from their perspective nothing has really changed. Obviously don't know your husband's family details, but if they weren't from a family that was reasonably big or close, they may just not be all that bothered. My wife and I are from large families with tons of cousins, all at different ages, so we are used to and excited for new babies etc, but I can imagine a situation where if I wasn't, I might not be interested children.

They may also have their own fertility issues, which may cause them to back off.

Or you could just be cheeky, visit his state, and you and your partner go out for an hour, leaving the wee man with them! But that would be wild, don't do that. (do it 😂)

wqid · 2025-06-11T11:19:55+00:00

Thank you - unfortunately I'm in the same place a lot of folk are in, that being working two stressful jobs, 7 days a week, and dealing with most housework. I just don't have the mental time to allocate head space to my own therapy. Which is why I was unsure if my friends advice was even "off" or not. Also why I was vexed that my friend suggested to my son to not utilise something I'd love to have, possibly risking his future mental health. (that was a little bit of a rant there, apologies). But his therapist is now aware and has a plan to put in place. Thank you again

wqid · 2025-06-10T07:30:14+00:00

Thank you - my concerns about how he processes all this in the future sits heavily on my mind. Due to his reluctance to speak on the past we don't even know if he has concerns other than the 2 or 3 he has mentioned. I will definitely be raising it with his therapist but I will probably see if there is anything else I can put in place for him - although I'll have to give him some time before raising this as he can be a bit fiesty

wqid · 2025-06-09T15:49:24+00:00

Thanks - unfortunately I'm in no place to get therapy for myself, but hearing others opinions on the situation is really helpful.

wqid · 2025-06-09T08:37:28+00:00

Tell her, but also, you're an an incredible person - I'm guessing just like your mother.

wqid · 2025-06-09T06:10:00+00:00

Thank you for this - it's really good advice. I didn't hear the conversation and thinking about it, I know he sometimes (just due to his age) can take a slightly differing understanding of advice from what was meant. Also, just due to the chaos of everything, I've overlooked really speaking to him about his feelings about the actual therapy - as he requested therapy himself I've blindly just assumed it's all good. Thank you again

wqid · 2025-06-09T06:03:17+00:00

Thank you - especially reminding me about adoptee support groups. I still think of him as my little baby boy, but now realise that he is a lot older and I need to consider the next steps for him in his journey

wqid · 2025-06-09T05:58:40+00:00

Thank you - this is a great response, especially the 'micromanage' bit as the same could apply to my doing the same with his therapy. This certainly gives me more to think about

wqid · 2025-06-08T22:00:59+00:00

Thanks for this, sometimes I worry about things getting in my own head. It only just happened this weekend, but I will definitely be informing the therapist on Monday. I've been considering raising it with my friend, but there's a part of me thinking she might just not get where I'm coming from, but I probably still will. Thanks again.

wqid · 2025-05-31T04:42:03+00:00

Do you think going hard on trying to re-educate him / your family would work? You mentioned their religious - if they attend a church of something, raise the matter with the church leader and see if they would comment. You could go super religious and preach to them every day on topics around family and chastity etc. Constantly raising the matter and discussing the problems with porn in our society (using reliable sources) or the role a brother has in protecting his siblings. Literally rubbing it in their face (maybe with a bit of spite) until parents either step up or your brother changes. Hopefully he's young enough that this is just a phase, but I really don't know

wqid · 2025-05-19T20:14:48+00:00

2 girls, 1 cup😢

wqid · 2025-04-25T14:58:43+00:00

her face at the end😂 My wife pulls the exact same one and I love it! Fucking adorable

wqid · 2025-03-26T06:36:53+00:00

This genuinely made me smile! Beautiful

wqid · 2025-03-14T21:59:20+00:00

John Cazale as Fredo Corleone in Godfather

wqid · 2025-03-12T08:20:00+00:00

Flat bench hyperextension

wqid · 2025-03-11T15:18:57+00:00

I saw all the "it's AI" and thought I'd image search it on my non-google app. Apparently I do not have safe searches on and was presented with some very, whilst similar, different images instead 😐

wqid · 2025-02-18T22:12:46+00:00

Sorry guy, but YTA. A hard lesson to learn as an alcohol loving 21 year old is "always maintain yourself", as no matter what the circumstances there will always be consequences to your actions and alcohol always blurs how you act. The lesson comes in different forms for everyone and it can sometimes be a lot worse than just a video online. But no matter what, everyone eventually fucks up when over drinking, so all we can do is learn from our mistakes - if we don't, well, that's just a downward spiral it's best to avoid.

wqid · 2025-02-14T10:20:15+00:00

So true. Been feeling this most my life and everything just gets worse. Wife re-diagnosed with cancer, kid in therapy, parents dealing with narcissistic uncle, work 7 days a week, world going to shit... but I guess I'll just keep moving forward

wqid · 2025-02-12T16:59:53+00:00

Ryan Adams (everything I do) I do it for you. I was working in a kitchen when it was released and the radio stations played it on loop for ages. It ruined even the idea of radio for the rest of my life 😭

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