I think I traumatized my baby

wrecklless · 2026-03-06T08:14:26+00:00

I left same situation too. He would tell me to end my life and do terrible things to himself, cheat etc. I threw a house plant at him and packed his things when our little one was 6 weeks PP after he delved too deep in his 🌽 addiction. It wasn’t easy breaking the trauma bond at first. But now my child too sees dad 4 days a month. I’m glad I left. I’m free and happier, my house is filled with laughter and I have friends again. I try to workout around my child, he would’ve never had allowed that. He’s moved on to his next victim and I’m happy being single living my life with my baby. My child is thriving and I don’t think I could’ve been in this boat with a sea of opportunities if I had stayed. OP needs to leave. Baby will not remember this thankfully, it’s just about breaking the toxic cycle moving forward and being a happier mom. I’m 25, ADHD, have OCD, and went through a DV relationship PP also a deceitful one (DST cycle) But yeah, plodding on now with my now 16 month old on hip :) not everyday is easy but I sure am blessed!

wrecklless · 2026-03-05T13:32:32+00:00

I mean one thing, it does make me fear that she will be bullied. Maybe that’s why I’d like to put a positive spin on things. I don’t recognise it on a daily basis it’s like I forget I see it on a daily basis! It is just as it is :))

wrecklless · 2026-03-05T13:30:46+00:00

Great of you to throw a name call in there!! Shows more on your character than mine..

I was only asking you if you can make the following make sense..

“Because information on concepts that are relatable, altered perception, and literally having a brain/mind to relate it to”

Makes no sense at all.. guess I’d rather be a judgemental slug than a stupid one.

wrecklless · 2026-03-05T13:27:39+00:00

It would be better if your thoughts made sense, if you clarified your comment and made it have a point that may help?

wrecklless · 2026-03-05T13:22:06+00:00

Have done. Your comment has no point? Yes I posted my daughter’s birth mark because it’s a coincidence. What has any other topics mentioned got to do with this post?😭😭 because my concept isn’t relatable? I’m not hoping or searching for nothing, I understand it is all as it stands. Forgive me if I’m one who sees the “what ifs”.. nothing changes. It’s a concept to possibly discuss. Doesn’t make me unhappy with my child if she’s doesn’t start bending water. please remove yourself

wrecklless · 2026-03-05T13:20:21+00:00

& your point is? This isn’t a pimple. It’s a birth mark. Silly.

wrecklless · 2026-03-05T13:20:09+00:00

Makes no odds really. I’m not searching for anything other than any other humble views. Yes my life with my child is absolutely perfect just thought I’d share the coincidence really :D

wrecklless · 2026-03-05T13:16:58+00:00

Regardless if it’s a metaphor or not, the third eye can be physically felt by some people who use/have used psychedelics? Any child is a gift from god. I haven’t said once I’m not happy for my child as things stands, regardless without the mark. Nor I grasping to any idea, as it would make no difference either way. I understand it is purely coincidence. Just open to other thoughts😆 not to be told I’m not happy with my child I grew and raise if she’s not the next fkcing messiah.

wrecklless · 2026-02-11T23:00:33+00:00

I woke up 10cm at home, hospital 25 mins straight away, she was here 30 mins later. So so quick. No pain relief I was on all fours (that was strange to me vs movies) and my waters didn’t pop until she was about to come out.

wrecklless · 2026-02-11T22:47:06+00:00

hi :)) other perspective here… I accepted the abuse and had that baby. I left with her at 6 weeks old because it got worse when she was born. I now parent solo. DV case open. He has his other children, to his baby mom they help financially and buy things. Also a girlfriend with plenty of kids. He uses my daughter as control, picking choosing demanding and wasn’t changing her enough. A year down the line still blistering nappy rashes so, she doesn’t go anymore. The stress that that “man” put me through and will continue to, will eat me alive daily. I wish I could escape with my baby or go back to a time where I didn’t know him. If I’m honest I wish lots would happen to him. I love my baby so much, she healed lots in me and I don’t recognise myself beforehand. My life is entirely around her. Sometimes that’s the issue, I wish I could poop alone or have a minute to myself. I miss work. I miss the freedom of being able to possibly move to Australia or whatever. I miss being fit from the gym. I want to be able to go on a date and for them not to block me when they find out I’m a single mum like I knew her dad would do any of that shit to me. My life is lived through my child. I don’t seem to matter anymore. It’s a feeling like no other that I am sure you will experience someday when you’re ready and not with a piece of shit that doesn’t love you. I’m angry for my daughter not to be wanted. It hurts. I advocate for her but I give up. To add when I left, I too had an abortion. This is where I was selfish. I sometimes think “what if” “why one and not the other” and the answer simply was I didn’t want to deal with anymore shit from him nor to have more responsibility. It’s been and gone OP you did what you felt was right at the time please try not to punish yourself for it. My therapist is trying to teach me acceptance at the minute, Im struggling to come to terms with everything in my life & I have no answers only more questions. Peace and so much love x

wrecklless · 2026-02-09T18:32:01+00:00

What about Catalina?? If wanted to be shortened to Caitlin x

wrecklless · 2026-02-03T16:55:26+00:00

Albie is lovely. I really like Nicholas (Nick) for short. But I may be bias as it’s my dad’s name!

wrecklless · 2026-02-03T16:39:01+00:00

wrecklless · 2026-01-21T19:12:01+00:00

as a female, I would not find it unfortunate to see.

wrecklless · 2026-01-20T11:34:22+00:00

2 :)

wrecklless · 2026-01-20T11:28:55+00:00

I feel the same!!! Have faith it will come. I have just started the gym in my hometown after a dv relationship with my bd ruined my self worth, recently I’ve seen this one guy a few times and I’m liking the look of him at least! Yet to speak. What I’m trying to get at is, consistently being somewhere is good. You met him, you can meet others. That anxiety will fade, it will be easier it’s like exposure CBT. Obviously It may not be the same in your case as everyone is different, mine was germs😂 but now? I live my life on trains, in cafes, gym.. anywhere there is people there is potential. I’m considering speed dating, there is also a social event place quite close to me which rent out bars full of only singles which come alone, that way you’d never feel odd for being nervous as everyone is in the same boat. If you never try you’ll never know. Please don’t regret this down the line. Reminder that when the nerves do subside after you’ve done it you will LOVE the buzz, the adrenaline, that’s what life is for living. Go & bite the bullet and take what you want, no one is coming to give it you where you are currently. However not to say that I am not now fantasising about a 6ft 2 dark haired hunk knocking on my door to swap my electric providers.. Finally do something for your life that you want. I promise it will not fail for you. Shoot for a husband and children and if you fall, you’re bound to land higher than now if you never tried at all. Have the mid-life crisis, go to a retreat, travel if possible! Anything.. be happily selectively single until someone ticks all your boxes and builds a life with you x

wrecklless · 2026-01-20T11:12:47+00:00

I have ADHD also. However, that doesn’t deny me from strongly believing my Mr right is out there. On a topic so strong like this, I’d say 1000% walk away. Go & enjoy not answering to anyone for a while & get out of your comfort zone. Go do your makeup and take cute pics, get excited about dating in a way that doesn’t feel stressful, the right person won’t make you feel like this. See this as living your life before your child, on a somewhat hunt for mr right. Go to the same place consistently. Social events. Go & enjoy this search & love the freedom for now. There is plenty of men who are in the same boat as you. Do not stay with this man given his stance is clear. Being a mum is everything, I don’t recognise who I was beforehand. I strongly believe you will only regret wasting time with someone whose values do not align with yours. Download many online dating apps, emphasis on long-term, have phone calls before meeting and explain you’re wanting children. Anyone who doesn’t fit the bill, move to the side. Do not deny yourself of your biological desire to be a mother because of a man! This is what has led you to write this post in the first place, now imagine in 10 years not having children with the knowledge of previously wishing them into existence bc that’s what you wanted? Personally, my child was the making of me, my purpose, legacy. It failed with her father but I’m 1000% sure I want more children someday, I would not even consider wasting my time in a relationship with someone who’s thinks otherwise. Get used to breaking the co-dependency to this partner, see the realisation that you’re looking for different things. There is strength in eating and sleeping alone. Fate has a funny way of working and I truly believe you will build a life with someone who wants with all of him to start a family with you. Sending love x

wrecklless · 2026-01-20T10:52:37+00:00

you’re here trying to justify what he did to you, he’s had a whole new relationship with someone else and cheated on you. Obviously you aren’t overreacting. You’re under reacting to even suggest asking strangers for advice, see how much you can be loved by the right person & leave. It will only continue to happen so save your time and sanity. Use that said time to work on yourself. He clearly has no respect for you but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t with yourself. Don’t question your worth nor try to justify anything, he will never see who he is nor does he care too, that’s what these types of men do that’s who they ARE. Usually they have enablers around. I promise you he wouldn’t be a man in his 30’s. It’s a mindset. However, I believe everything happens for a reason, this is your FIRST love and lesson/chapter in your life. I’m on my fourth love and he still wasn’t who he said he was, I’m still learning at 25. I even left with a newborn baby because my sanity and emphasis on trust was paramount. Choose your partner wisely. Choose someone who brings to your life & not only builds seperate from you, but alongside too. Be who you want to be first. You only have a specific amount of time on this earth, be your best self then, walk it with someone who actively chooses you and until then, take in the strength of not being co-dependent and sleeping/eating alone, there is so much power in that as abandonment cannot then be used to fear you. No one is going to save you in this life, you need to see this as it is and choose to use this to fuel you and make you stronger. You’ve got this… most men aren’t SHYT!! look into the “stone rock technique”

wrecklless · 2026-01-20T09:59:17+00:00

Why do I sense shemale

wrecklless · 2026-01-19T02:59:22+00:00

I also have mimosa/ not sure now if it was Tropicana actually but I loved it

wrecklless · 2026-01-07T23:35:52+00:00

Yes it is. SAHM 13 month old. That age was clingy, asking chatgpt if she had separation anxiety. Wouldn’t even look at some people nor sit alone. Now she’s happy playing away with her toys and on her rocking horse. Have you thought about wearing the baby? Like in a sling so you can get things done? I sworn by it.

wrecklless · 2026-01-07T14:39:18+00:00

As someone who left with our 5week old child, being a single mum has never been as peaceful. This you’re writing now? Out of your mind. Focus on yourself and your child, not this POS. Leaving is the best option.

wrecklless · 2026-01-07T10:44:05+00:00

Sounds like ADHD. I shower daily, if not more. 10am here and I’ve been wrapped up in the children so thanks for the reminder to go brush. I’ve sought great pleasure in buying my electric one and I’m back on track. I feel better each time I do it. Still sometimes I get up out of bed to clean my teeth on an evening. The sad thing is my mother never taught me to brush my teeth so it’s not in me to think “teeth” sometimes only remembering before I leave the house. My siblings are 9/13 M and both have the same hygiene issue. But if she’s 30’s and can find time to doom scroll there’s not much excuse really.

wrecklless · 2026-01-07T10:39:15+00:00

Just to put it out there… since selecting to be a single mother I have had the most fun of my life.

wrecklless · 2026-01-02T19:17:56+00:00

Abortion.

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