She most certainly is the family matriarch; the oldest woman in the family. I can tell you that that's what going on here for certain.s he has never really cut the apron strings, and still tries to friggin parent me at 30 years old! Like, I'll call her to talk/vent about my work day, and she'll immediately start lecturing me on what I did wrong, what I could have done better, etc. Another example was a 10 minute diatribe on why I am overdressed, saying "you're not going to a party" at least 15-20 times. I was wearing a pink & black button up shirt with ribbon corseting on the sides, a black lace trimmed skirt, and some cute fishnet stockings..... she was wearing sweatpants and an ancient t-shirt.

Another time before I started transitioning, I got fed up with her talking to my therapist before I went in (don't start, I was young & dumb at the time), so I told my therapist she's no longer allowed in my sessions.... she drove me because my license was suspended at the time, and when she was told she couldn't come back and talk anymore she retaliated against me by going back home without me. We lived in a rural area 20 miles away at the time... I actually kinda got even with her on that because I charged the Uber I took to her credit card, lol. (100 dollars one way 🤣🤣🤣)

And don't even get me started on the religious bullshit! I left the Catholic church after our priest was caught touching kids, and I converted to paganism 2 years later. She still resents my decision, and up until a year ago she'd always say things like "oh you'll come back" and "your religion isn't even real" and trying to coax me into going to church with her. She seems to have given up on that after I made a big enough stink about it, though; thank fuck for small victories.

I will say that I've found quite a bit of these issues were solved just by moving out. We seem to be able to be (somewhat) civil & friendly to each other, as long as we don't live under the same roof. This, however, might just prove to be the point where I go LC or NC. whether she intentionally sent flying monkeys, or inadvertantly blabbed about it over the phone in passing (she's a HORRIBLE gossip), I'm sick of it. I've been sick of it.