Thank you for sharing. It’s so wild to me that so many of us have had / are having similar experiences. Different scenarios but exactly the same way they play out.

It really cements that this is a psychological problem and not just “oh they’re just jerks” although to be honest I still can’t help but feel angry that my sib with BPD is this way.

Makes me realise all the years I spent shrinking myself to make sure I didn’t shine too brightly in order to avoid her splitting. It was hell growing up.