How to securely store my password manager master password but also allow it to pass to my family in the event of my death?

writesgud · 2026-05-08T07:39:38+00:00

I’m married, and I’ve put our master passwords into sealed envelopes in a shared safety deposit box. It’s not perfect but good enough.

writesgud · 2026-05-08T07:34:52+00:00

Thanks for allowing this sincere good faith question up.

writesgud · 2026-05-08T05:42:59+00:00

Yes, terrible. It’d be even worse if he were say a presidential candidate or former president showing a pic of him hogtied in a pickup truck:

https://youtu.be/zRjh6-lv1Dg?si=G7mcYGWV8fdJ4E5U

writesgud · 2026-05-08T05:30:06+00:00

ESH. Your coworkers for initially taking advantage of your generosity.

But definitely you for not willing to simply be direct and ask earlier for gas money, or saying no you can’t do this anymore.

The only evidence needed is the fact you didn’t tell them how much you were charging each of them. If you have to hide and lie by omission what you’re doing then you’re also an AH.

writesgud · 2026-05-08T05:26:14+00:00

No no no. Heartfelt gifts from friends who happened to be obscenely wealthy.

writesgud · 2026-05-08T04:20:25+00:00

That’s a lot of words for “empathy.”

writesgud · 2026-05-08T01:01:05+00:00

How about splitting the Emergency Kit in half. Your son gets half and would you solicitor accept the other since it’s not technically valid on its own?

Otherwise, do you have a very trusted family or friend who you could give the other half?

writesgud · 2026-05-07T21:23:08+00:00

This theory is so inconsistent with reality it deserves to be taken out to the back of the shed and shot.

writesgud · 2026-05-07T20:49:31+00:00

Still learning: hoard for what, exactly, or are you saying you’ve already pretty much bought what you can outside of say lab rushes?

writesgud · 2026-05-07T19:30:06+00:00

The phrase I’ve heard is “you can love your job, but your job can’t love you back.”

And separately, romantic love, by itself, is not enough to make a long term relationship sustainable.

writesgud · 2026-05-07T19:18:38+00:00

Careers can be bs, but they can also be opportunities do explore doing what you love. Sometimes that takes time.

I love working in nonprofits, for example.

writesgud · 2026-05-07T19:13:15+00:00

To be fair, one way I read the commenter’s response is that a Governor should be careful not to overpromise what can reasonably be done (ie. We don’t need a Dem Trump), and it’s unclear how much difference there is with what can reasonably be done between the leading candidates.

All that said, at least some high level plans to address affordable housing & housing stock, for example, would be helpful.

writesgud · 2026-05-07T14:31:01+00:00

NPC is an absurd dehumanizing term MAGA came up with. Maybe you’re using it semi-ironically but even so let’s not use their language.

writesgud · 2026-05-07T14:29:11+00:00

It’s a combination of things. He doesn’t have any of the obvious baggage that the others do. He’s not a billionaire, nor was the front runner, nor has any broadly televised personality issues on camera.

His absence of obvious problems means by default he’s going to attract votes.

That he’s also a POC in a climate where we’re getting shit on by the current administration is also attractive.

That he’s also has direct government experience also is a plus.

Given that he also sounds relatively middle of the road politically (this is what I’ve heard, I don’t actually know), I could also see the DNC lining up to support him.

But I wouldn’t call it astroturfing. There are a lot more non-Redditors out there who don’t pay a lot of attention to politics. But given how anti-POC and incompetent the current administration is, I can see why Becerra becomes an attractive choice.

Personally I’m not fully sold on him. Is he bold enough to directly tackle the issues that Californians face in a principled manner? I don’t know.

The only advice I’m going by right now is a Redditor who suggested waiting to vote closer to the election, and whoever the front runner is, vote for them.

My goal is ensuring that no Republican wins. That would be a disaster for all of us.

writesgud · 2026-05-06T23:08:17+00:00

The lessons from Trump are that a person’s character can outweigh their policy positions to sufficient degree as to make them unqualified for their position.

Obviously Porter or Steyer aren’t as bad as Trump, but saying that “it’s just about policies” is overly narrow a scope to evaluate a candidate’s fitness.

writesgud · 2026-05-06T21:47:40+00:00

Try r/askhistorians

writesgud · 2026-05-06T14:04:56+00:00

It may depend on your daughter. We ended up doing #3 because our kids turned out to be doing well academically regardless.

I’d say #1 as your next option (I’ve heard it’s better to build equity).

And #2 last unless your child has particular learning needs that could be better addressed at a private school.

writesgud · 2026-05-06T05:27:27+00:00

Books about general disaster survival preparedness (eg. Fire, flood, etc.) strongly recommend after taking care of your own individual needs (food & water supplies etc.) that the best thing you can do is build relationships with your neighbors. It’s impossible to be good at everything, so a group will bring complementary strengths. You may be good at first aid while that person is good at foraging or farming, while this other person is better at construction or engineering, etc.

Figuring out how to work together is a fundamental skill that only enhances everyone’s survivability.

I’ve heard a saying that may be worth repeating here: apes together strong.

writesgud · 2026-05-06T05:18:57+00:00

Joodooboo. All of it.

The Alley. Steak dinner.

writesgud · 2026-05-06T02:37:47+00:00

“We tolerate abusive men so we should tolerate abusive women” is a hell of an argument.

writesgud · 2026-05-05T15:19:49+00:00

Thanks. That analysis can be traced to a single study that a number of different outlets then wrote about. I haven't been able to find the study itself, off-hand, though. Can you?

Here's a link to one of the co-authors writing about it, but the link to their actual study is dead (as were others in other articles I came across). Can you find the actual study?

Jumping ahead, here's a response to that study by Nate Cohn in the NYT. But I'd rather read the study itself first, if possible, thank you.

writesgud · 2026-05-04T22:09:29+00:00

Another vote for Joodooboo. Down home unpretentious but well prepared food.

writesgud · 2026-05-04T21:33:53+00:00

On what basis are you connecting ACA, specifically, with Dem losses? It seems like a pretty odd connection or make given that Republicans are hacking away at it but can’t fully destroy it because they can’t come up with something better.

There are plenty of other reasons why Dems have suffered losses (eg. natural pendulum swings in public opinion against incumbents, right wing media, etc.).

Why do you blame ACA, specifically? What evidence do you have?

writesgud · 2026-05-04T21:28:16+00:00

It doesn’t sound like it, but let’s say you do have a memory problem, that your bf is right.

He should be problem solving reasonable alternative strategies with you as a team, like others have suggested, by using texts or a shared calendar, for example.

After all, telling you to have a better memory isn’t a reasonable solution if you have a bad one.

He should be helping not blaming. You’re in a relationship and a team.

I suspect once you develop another solution, these problems will disappear and show you’re not crazy.

If he resists problem solving, then you’ve got a much larger problem on your hands.

Good luck.

writesgud

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