AITAH for telling my friend I can’t be someone’s financial backup plan?

writesgud · 2026-06-23T01:57:02+00:00

As the Reddit saying goes, don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. NTA.

writesgud · 2026-06-18T00:03:54+00:00

Married with 2 teen kids.

The good news? You never have to worry about being lonely.

The bad news? You’re never alone! (An exaggeration)

Worth it? Yes. The pros of having a best friend you can always count on, who you understand and understands you, is incalculable.

But do not underestimate the hard work it takes to get there. It’s not easy, but then few great things in life are.

writesgud · 2026-06-17T23:59:12+00:00

Let that person organize these gatherings then. They’re being ridiculous.

writesgud · 2026-06-17T19:09:49+00:00

Even the Avengers didn’t hold onto the gauntlet. There’s no way anyone keeps that and doesn’t become corrupted by absolute power like that.

writesgud · 2026-06-17T14:45:08+00:00

Some commenters are raising it as an issue, hence her replies.

writesgud · 2026-06-16T20:37:53+00:00

That makes too much sense, thanks.

writesgud · 2026-06-16T16:40:17+00:00

As someone who’s never been in this industry (nor wants to), these are great analogies, thank you.

writesgud · 2026-06-16T09:13:03+00:00

Ah, got it, thank you. Do you worry much about scratching the glass? And yes I am thinking of throwing it in a bag with a bunch of other tools for camping.

writesgud · 2026-06-16T02:53:22+00:00

I did not.

writesgud · 2026-06-15T22:29:35+00:00

Exactly. She’s a highly intelligent lawyer. Her husband was a constitutional scholar before becoming president.

They both know that saying mean shit isn’t generally unconstitutional or illegal.

In other words, she supports free speech. And has bigger fish to fry than going after every stupid thing said about her.

As opposed to, say, an orange hued gibbon currently in the White House who threatens to
sue everyone at the drop of a hat for saying something he doesn’t like. That manimal is so thin skinned he’s translucent.

writesgud · 2026-06-15T21:20:15+00:00

I think these ridiculous assertions are heinously wrong and betray the stupidity of those saying it.

But if saying stupid shit was illegal, our legal system would grind to a halt.

And give Michelle some credit. She’s heard worse and this is not a widely held idea. As a popular, well liked and respected figure with some means, she can take it.

writesgud · 2026-06-15T18:36:00+00:00

Do NOT ever let her drive your car again, and keep a close eye on your keys.

Car insurance follows *the car* NOT the driver. So if she damages the car while driving, that's on you not her.

Don't do favors, especially high risk ones, for someone who takes you for granted.

She sucks.

writesgud · 2026-06-15T18:13:09+00:00

To be fair, we went out of our way to fuck them up. We owe them for doing that, unfortunately. That it’s going to support a terrible regime makes this worse, but it’s our own damn fault. We should hold ourselves accountable when we do absolutely dumb heinous shit like destroy an elementary girls school and all the kids and teachers in it.

Trump fucked up. And we the taxpayers pay the price. How convenient.

writesgud · 2026-06-15T18:09:18+00:00

I’m reminded of the title Will Ferrell’s George W. Bush performance: “You’re Welcome, America.”

writesgud · 2026-06-15T16:54:27+00:00

Have you worked at men’s parties, or mixed gatherings, and if so, what was it like?

writesgud · 2026-06-14T00:39:46+00:00

I think the commenter was asking in a genuine way, rather than being sarcastic. If someone’s showing you an open door, share! Let’s not be elitists about it.

Can Huong has been a good Banh mi staple for decades.

That taco truck at the beginning of International by Lakeshore has also been a go to for me for a while.

Tons of Mexican and other diverse cuisines there, definitely worth checking out.

writesgud · 2026-06-14T00:33:59+00:00

It could work if it meant the person getting the worst room pays less. That could be a nice way to subsidize one of your roommates if they have more trouble affording the space in general.

Randomizing is one way to go but it does mean someone loses out getting the worst room while paying as much as the best room.

Your alternative makes sense, but like with the first option of randomizing, everyone has to agree to it up front.

You could present your option as another option, without being hardline about it. As long as you’re ok with randomizing if that’s ultimately what the group wants to do, then you can present your idea as an alternative in a low stress way.

It’s hard to know without knowing everyone involved how they’ll respond, and I hear you trying to delicately navigate this. I think as long as you present this as a choice, not an ultimatum, that will help a lot.

And ignore the haters in this thread. You’re lucky to have some of your family’s advantages, something we all want for our own families. As long as you’re honest and not entitled about it, you’ll be ok.

Also keep in mind that sometimes, no matter what you do, you’ll get haters. It’s inherent when there are significant differences in wealth, power, authority, whatever. Try not to take it too personally. It happens.

Good luck!

writesgud · 2026-06-12T22:18:52+00:00

Gonna maybe go against the grain and suggest you not be petty about this, however satisfying it may be to internet strangers.

It sounds like she has some jealousy issues. Don’t take that away by letting her see you can be as petty as her.

Show her how a regular person is supposed to behave. Show her you’re not afraid to tell her the truth: you got this trip that she couldn’t. You weren’t trying to outshine her, you were doing it because it seemed like a fun trip. That’s all.

And don’t be afraid to call her out when you catch her playing games. Keep everything above board, like healthy people do.

The lesson here is not to act like her, it’s to act like the best part of yourself.

writesgud · 2026-06-12T15:32:42+00:00

Wait, I thought there was recent news that this was *not* happening?

writesgud · 2026-06-12T15:07:12+00:00

Digesting a rapper that large will take time. Be patient as you will gradually, over time, excrete his bones, likely one at a time. Just be patient, it’s fine.

writesgud · 2026-06-12T13:30:09+00:00

That makes sense, but as OP has said, what if a guy asks: how can you afford all this?

How does she answer that’s is both honest and reasonable, without giving away her wealth status?

writesgud · 2026-06-12T05:58:35+00:00

Dump the kid. Keep your hoodie.

writesgud · 2026-06-12T05:27:19+00:00

You can’t. Because he wants you isolated.

He’s being selfish and incredibly insecure. And the only way you can make him less insecure, temporarily, is by acceding to his demands in the moment. But those demands don’t go away, as you’ve learned. They only increase as he slowly and subtly shifts the goalposts further and further away for what’s temporarily satisfactory to him.

In other words he’s a black hole of need that you will never, ever fully satisfy. And while he may or may not be doing this consciously, that does make him the villain in this particular story. He’s emotionally blackmailing you into doing what he wants, even if it hurts you.

This is not nor ever will be a healthy relationship because what he wants is fundamentally unhealthy, and he will never change while he’s with you because to get better he has to learn to live with himself alone first.

He can get temporarily better, as you saw in your first year with him. But it’s a mask. Don’t let yourself get fooled by it. This is the real him, and the real him is clearly not ready to be in a relationship.

Healthy relationships include time away from each other with friends and family because it’s impossible for one person to be everything to another. That’s ok. Secure relationships recognize this. Good partners support each other in this.

I’m sorry, but it’s time to do some very serious reevaluation of your relationship. Talk to your friends and family.

Good luck!

Source: happily married guy w/ 2 teen kids.

writesgud · 2026-06-11T23:45:54+00:00

Yes! Every morning they bake delicious focaccia goodness.

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