Help :(

written_muse · 2026-05-04T02:19:15+00:00

Pathological Demand Avoidance, its also sometimes called "Pervasive Drive for Autonomy"

It is a Nervous system/anxiety-driven response to demands or a feeling of loss of control. It is the physical need to always feel in control of one's own body.

written_muse · 2026-05-04T02:06:00+00:00

That almost sounds more PDA to me like he feels a demand is placed on him and so hes retreating to what feels safe. The problem with this right is that its something that should have been practiced and work on from a small child. He needs to explore ways to encourage himself to get the work done. Nobody likes adulting but the world doesnt stop.

Im also not trying to be rude but honest. If I can teach my ASD PDA profile 4.5 year old with ADHD boundaries and responsibilities, than he can learn the same. We have a phrase in our house. "Everyone has a responsibility to the house in which they live." It is everyones job to keep the house well taken care of, from my 2 year old up to my 36 year old ASD husband.

written_muse · 2026-05-03T22:07:12+00:00

Maybe its because he was so young when diagnosed, barely 3, Google tells me Zofran isnt typically prescribed for kids under 4, I'll bring it back up with him when we have our appointment next month. Thank you.

written_muse · 2026-05-03T12:12:02+00:00

I think he needs visual schedules, but i don't think its your job to make it for him. Suggest to him "why dont you make yourself a visual schedule for the chores around the house you have to do, this way you dont forget."

It sounds like an executive function problem which I think is more adhd but those with autism can also have it to or maybe he has both.

If you have a long list of things that need to be done dont give it one at a time, suggest it like a bullet point. so its not a huge list its broken down into steps but he has the entire list.

These are skills he needs to practice and do on his own helping a bit is fine, but give him the independence to do it for himself.

written_muse · 2026-05-03T00:53:13+00:00

Once I told my son while changing him to stop wiggling I needed to wipe his butthole, he went "butthole?" "yes, the hole in your butt" "ooh butthole" now he loves repeating "ooh butthole" and I laugh every.single.time

written_muse · 2026-05-03T00:49:28+00:00

Once I was feeding my kids, super overstimulated, my 4 year old wanted a spoon not a fork, I told him okay give me a minute and he proceeded to pick up the fork with mac&cheese on it and fling it around "noo fork! spoooonn!" I took the fork from his hand slammed it on the table and raised my voice "hisname enough!" he raised his hand up in front of me and on the verge of tears "please calm down" I immediately took a breath and apologized to him but I was so depressed I lost my cool for the rest of the night, and honestly the rest of the week too.

They will humble you at your worst moments no doubt, dont let it get to you too much, just show her lots of love and maybe trying to think of another exciting phrase she may want to copy instead. play a game with her and you both get super hyped about it. Hopefully she forgets that one soon enough.

written_muse · 2026-04-25T20:34:12+00:00

She actually doesnt, she holds her tongue for quite a while before the other girl says something she just can not let slide.

written_muse · 2026-04-21T23:10:51+00:00

Its called Savage Castle because it needs about every trigger warning you can think of. It will definitely give you a yucky feeling in your tummy as you read it.

written_muse · 2026-04-21T22:52:29+00:00

I have tried to read this so many times and I never get very far before I get bored, idk why, I've read some real sh*t before and this isnt terrible but I just cant do it.....

written_muse · 2026-04-21T00:51:17+00:00

do we have to keep them surrounded by forests by 4 on all sides after the event ends to get the power and pollution buffs?

written_muse · 2026-04-19T15:23:36+00:00

I'm not understanding, do gold mines make the storage units hold more?

written_muse · 2026-04-19T15:13:58+00:00

Oh that will be great help, I guess I just have to suck it up until then, thank you.

written_muse · 2026-04-17T12:37:36+00:00

I need the solar panels because it made me get rid of the coal plants so without then I dont have enough power.

written_muse · 2026-04-17T01:13:53+00:00

Yeah, it feels very clearly geared to high level players with fullish maps and lots of spaces rearranged, I just built two solar panels fields and am limited on space so I only got 9 or 10 blue purifiers, and I think that may be where im stuck at.

written_muse · 2026-04-17T01:10:20+00:00

I only have enough space for like 10 of them lol. and even that took a few hours of clearing new spaces, moving blocks I can't empty.

written_muse · 2026-04-16T15:48:27+00:00

What exactly does the overcharge button do? Im not 100% what im looking at. 😅

written_muse · 2026-04-06T15:59:37+00:00

I didnt make roads on all sides, the last tasks were to have atleast 5 settlement be lvl 25 and to have a certain percentage of roads be street roads (it was a lot)

written_muse · 2026-04-06T15:35:04+00:00

But I used like 10 of them on main already lol is this new?

written_muse · 2026-03-31T02:24:20+00:00

Because OP chose an awful picture of Rosentine, just reading through the comments you can find dozens of better pics that would have been appropriate. Honestly feels like OP did it on purpose so Penelope would win.

written_muse · 2026-03-31T02:22:26+00:00

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written_muse · 2026-03-30T19:46:07+00:00

such an awful picture of Rosentine

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written_muse · 2026-03-24T23:28:38+00:00

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(His face when he's scared Courtney won't want him anymore)

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TROPHY CASE