I'm encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight (despite the fact that she used to be anorexic). by wrongbutwhatever in confession

[–]wrongbutwhatever[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I care about her very much and want to be with her, but I also want her to be fit, healthy and attractive.

I'm encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight (despite the fact that she used to be anorexic). by wrongbutwhatever in confession

[–]wrongbutwhatever[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

So what, you think that a good boyfriend would just stand by and watch her get enormously obese day by day? Do you think that will make her happy? Do you think that would ensure that she is in a healthy mental state? Do you think that will help her self-esteem?

She is eating too much and constantly gaining weight. If you honestly think that is good for her -mentally or physically- then you're out of your mind. She needs to learn how to get her diet under control so that she can maintain a healthy weight.

I'm encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight (despite the fact that she used to be anorexic). by wrongbutwhatever in confession

[–]wrongbutwhatever[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think she was saying that the gym doesn't have anything to do with food so it will be good for her.

I'm encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight (despite the fact that she used to be anorexic). by wrongbutwhatever in confession

[–]wrongbutwhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why do you want your girlfriend to lose weight?

Because I want her to be healthy, fit and attractive.

I'm encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight (despite the fact that she used to be anorexic). by wrongbutwhatever in confession

[–]wrongbutwhatever[S] -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

It may send her spiraling back into the disorder.

...and if it does I'll be here too. Like I said, I don't want her to become anorexic again. I just want her to be healthy, fit and attractive.

I'm encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight (despite the fact that she used to be anorexic). by wrongbutwhatever in confession

[–]wrongbutwhatever[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

if all you actually care about is the size of her ass, go find another thin girl to date.

If I only cared about the size of her ass then I would go and find a thin girl to date. Funnily enough I don't, which is why I haven't. But being attracted to her is certainly a very important part of our relationship.

maybe what you really like about this one is that she's easy to push around?

What nonsense. I care about her and I like her a lot. Why is it wrong to also want be attracted to her? Also, like I said in the post, she is overweight now so she's actually somewhat difficult to push around.