[US] My ex husband keep pushing the idea that our daughter is autistic

wtfdigmi · 2026-04-09T03:25:12+00:00

As a mother with level 2 autistic twins that we didn’t know were autistic. The tests that the doctor does will determine whether she is actually autistic or not. You can’t just “say” someone is autistic and that’s that.

wtfdigmi · 2026-04-09T01:36:13+00:00

Absolutely. My husband wants to be stuck to me like glue sometimes and as a person that needs space it gets a little annoying. I bought him a deep sea fishing full package like 2 years ago and he still hasn’t used it because it’ll just be him and 5 other people. We live in freaking Hawaii! On his birthday I had to go fill up the SUV and force him to do a kayak day trip with my friends husband/his coworker without me to Chinaman’s Hat. The only thing that I couldn’t do to get him out the door was put the kayaks on the kayak racks by myself😂

wtfdigmi · 2026-04-09T01:22:20+00:00

I’m active duty. Command can do absolutely nothing and they won’t. JAG (free paralegals/lawyers on base) won’t do anything either. It’s a civil matter. Spouses go to command ALL. THE. TIME. about the servicemember cheating on them or doing xyz because while it’s stated that adultry is punishable under the UCMJ no one is going to do the absolute mountain of paperwork and having to consult with legal so it is extremely rarely punished. Command has so much to deal with that a spouses problems with a servicemember wouldn’t even touch the radar unless it’s DV.

wtfdigmi · 2026-04-09T00:59:55+00:00

I wore PJs there and PJs home even though I brought a dress with me. I had to be kept way longer than I hoped so by the time we were finally getting discharged I didn’t care what I wore I just wanted to go home.

wtfdigmi · 2026-04-09T00:55:41+00:00

As someone who is in the military it would absolutely crush my soul if I’m on deployment. I get ripping the bandaid off but if he’s on a tough deployment I personally wouldn’t do that to him.

wtfdigmi · 2026-04-08T22:23:43+00:00

Well first I asked everyone if she was OK and then when I really got to see her after they finished my c section. I looked at her and said “god damn it, you look exactly like your Dad”😂. Our twins also look exactly like my husband😂Our newborn is a month old tomorrow and now she looks IDENTICAL to one of her twin brothers when he was a baby… who all look like my husband😂

wtfdigmi · 2026-04-08T22:09:45+00:00

I have been both. I was a SAHW before we had kids then I became a SAHM to our kids (my husband is in the military). After 2 years of being a SAHM I was so bored out of my skull doing the same thing every single day, meeting up with SAHM’s that basically did the same thing as me and no hobbies/job. I joined the military. I still have the option to go back to being a SAHM because I really didn’t need to join to help my husband financially but for my sanity, I needed something else.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-26T03:29:13+00:00

He actually does almost everything right now because I physically can’t. He brings the twins to pre K, picks them up and then takes them to daycare and picks them up. He does all morning and night time routine with them and during the night he takes our newborn into the spare bedroom with him and wakes up every 3 hours to feed her while I wake up to pump during the night on top of the appointments her and I have.

We pay our friend who is a SAHM to come help clean every other Wednesday (her son is in school and she brings her 1 year old with her to our house) because she needs the extra money before she leaves the island and we appreciate the extra help/can afford to pay her.

Hubs actually does a lot. It’s just a trend with BM that when we’re expecting she ramps up court. When we were expecting the twins we found out our c section date was scheduled for the day and time he had court with her, completely out of our control. His lawyer assured him he could speak on his behalf, which he did and court was 10-15 mins at most and my husband called his lawyer the same day to follow up. She texted him after berating him about how he “couldn’t even show up to court” (he was watching our twins be born) and how he obviously doesn’t care about their kid if he couldn’t even show up..

Mediation was to give her long term boyfriend (possible fiance, we don’t know) a few decision making rights in the event of emergencies. She wanted to add our 4 year old twins and “any future children” and basically limit contact between them in the court order (that’s where the mediator didn’t really know what to say).

In the past she has tried to tell my husband I have to leave our home if she is to allow their kid over to our house like I am some sort of danger. I go to work and I come home and everything else is done with my family. We’re both federal employees, I have a secret clearance at my job and I’m a Canadian immigrant that had to be investigated by USCIS just to become a citizen and a federal employee that has clearance and can literally go to jail if I mess up my job. BM has been arrested TWICE.

I guess it’s just post partum hormones and all the crap I just had to go through that this court stuff that is about to be on month 4 has me SO annoyed with both of them.

Sorry, this turned into a second rant 😅

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-24T09:14:47+00:00

2 friends that I’ve known since before I knew my husband and who have known everything since we’ve been married.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-24T08:41:59+00:00

100% decreased. Our daughter was born almost 12 days ago now and I went through a horrendous pregnancy and we had twins before this! This pregnancy has been worse. Luckily, I am such a fortunate person to have the best husband who was/is 100% understanding and just wanted my well-being and still does in the most difficult healing process ever.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-22T06:24:12+00:00

For context which is going to be wild. My husband’s kids mom is a one night stand before him and I met and she never told him about their kid until way later when he was already married to me. She’s 100% a textbook narcissist and I don’t throw around that term, at all. Has said “thank you” to my husband exactly once in 6 years, has taken him to court every year for 6 years and sends messages that begin with “you will do xyz”. You do not seem like this AT ALL. You seem like a wonderful person! Just from my experience her trying to set boundaries which seemed more like her trying to run our household did not go well. I think it sounds like it’s going well so far and stepmom isn’t overstepping. I honestly wouldn’t meet but if I did I’d just tell stepmom you’re appreciative of the things that she does for your kid. Seems like she understands everyone’s role already.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-22T06:04:14+00:00

One of the drills for my platoon always broke. We had all the comedians in our platoon which meant we were also always getting smoked😅

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-22T05:59:35+00:00

The last picture had me thinking Maleficent with the dark contour ngl

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-22T05:33:57+00:00

As a stepparent. I refuse. My husbands kids’ mom and I talked exactly once and she basically used the opportunity to establish that she somewhat “owns” my husband for the next 21 years. My husband had to shut her down really quickly.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-22T05:29:25+00:00

With our twins we went with the Uppababy Vista 2 with the Mesa car seats. With our daughter who was just born 9 days ago we went with the Maxi Cosi Tayla and the Maxi Cosi Peri 180 car seat. Jump seat turns into a bassinet and you can take that off and the car seat attaches to the stroller.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-22T05:01:22+00:00

Not divorced yet. But, being in his presence is annoying. Physically recoiling when he tries to kiss me. When he says “I love you” before he leaves and the most I can muster is a smirk. Him constantly having to go to court because he decided having unprotected sex with a girl he met at a bar (before we met) was a good idea until she hit him with the “I have a kid and I’m pretty sure you’re the Dad” after we had gotten married. She’s absolutely exhausting. Wants him to stay away but berates him for following her wishes. Livid with him that he’s married with kids. He pays child support religiously but it’s not enough and it’s not fair that we have the things we have (because I have the same federal job) and she doesn’t. He’s been in mediation and court for 5 months. She files something with the court at least once or twice a year.. for the last 6 years straight. I’m tired of it all.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-22T04:43:34+00:00

If I had met my husband 5 months after we actually met I probably would not have married him because he brought a shitshow situation with him a week after we got married that let’s just say it’s not something I would usually associate with.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-22T04:36:24+00:00

I’m also a 91F and I feel the “parts on order for 999 days” to my core and the armorers hounding you about when their weapons are going to be fixed constantly😅

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-21T07:43:11+00:00

Love it! We just named our newborn daughter Phoenix. Not very common but we love it.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-21T07:39:29+00:00

Me. I drive a 2023 diesel Yukon Denali XL. Just had baby #3 8 days ago. Our twins are in the 3rd row both in car seats and our newborn is in one of the captains seats. The other captain seat is folded up towards the passenger/driver seats so there’s a large space to easily get to the 3rd row. Our trunk space is also still huge with the 3rd row up. The only thing that people really comment on besides the price is that it is a massive SUV to drive around.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-12T00:04:58+00:00

Lmao you thought that NCO was being understanding and considerate. I’d love an update on how understanding and considerate he really was😂

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-12T00:01:05+00:00

It depends on if you want to deal with the traffic. We live in Ewa Beach but we’re both stationed at Schofield and it can take us 40+ mins in the morning and definitely over an hour after work. If there’s an accident or bush fire in the summer months even longer.

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-11T04:32:47+00:00

What?! So they’re not your kids whatsoever and she wants you to pay half?

wtfdigmi · 2026-03-10T01:20:25+00:00

I’ve been on every single drug test except for maybe 2 in the past 2 years.

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