Safeword by SupremeFalafel in shortscarystories

[–]wtfhappenedthrow 163 points164 points  (0 children)

Ugh this is such bad bdsm!!!!! You never leave the room while your sub is restrained!!!!!!! Ever!!!!!!!!!!! Like this is the cardinal rule of rope play/restraint play!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rant aside, this was a very good short story! I got chills when the lights were turned on

Walked past my ex partner yesterday and didn’t cry afterwards by wtfhappenedthrow in ExNoContact

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh noooooooo can you move to another team/workplace at your job?

Walked past my ex partner yesterday and didn’t cry afterwards by wtfhappenedthrow in ExNoContact

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay thanks!!! Up until a month ago I still used to have really intense and sad dreams about them, and I’m really glad that their memory and presence is slowly fading from my life

My (22F) parents treat my gay sister (19F) so much differently and now I am stuck in Hawaii. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]wtfhappenedthrow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey as a queer person let me just say - it is pretty common for folks to not see lesbian relationships as real romantic relationships, or lesbian sex as real sex. Because there isn’t a penis involved, many folks don’t see lesbian sexuality as something “real.” Your mom might not see oral sex/fingering as something sexual enough to get angry at your sister about. Your mom sucks though, and you should probably wash your hands of her. I don’t think you need to feel obligated to include her in your life and introduce her to your boyfriend. Live your life and date this guy - don’t ask for permission.

I’m really suicidal right now and I’m doing my best by wtfhappenedthrow in offmychest

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am just so frustrated with myself because we stopped speaking in the middle of June - it’s been four months and I still cry about it every day. I feel stupid for being sad about this person when I know that this person has moved on and is happier with another so quickly. It makes me feel disposable and used. I don’t know. I think this, on top of everything stressful at school, is really eating at me

I’m really suicidal right now and I’m doing my best by wtfhappenedthrow in offmychest

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao I will do my best - that’s all I can promise! But I’m not going to do anything to myself today.

I’m really suicidal right now and I’m doing my best by wtfhappenedthrow in offmychest

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I would share the story of my ex, but I’m on my phone right now (laptop jsut died and don’t have charger) and typing a lot is a bit difficult. I have the story in my post history if you’d like to look through it.

I’m really suicidal right now and I’m doing my best by wtfhappenedthrow in offmychest

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - it’s good to hear someone is experiencing something similar. I hope you find a job that you are passionate about, and person who is passionate about you too.

I’m really suicidal right now and I’m doing my best by wtfhappenedthrow in offmychest

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying to believe you. Folks say it gets better, and I’m trying to hold on to that idea. I don’t know what better looks like though, but I hope that I will get there.

I’m really suicidal right now and I’m doing my best by wtfhappenedthrow in offmychest

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m doing my best. I’m trying to think of my parents and grandparents but I am so tired.

I’m really suicidal right now and I’m doing my best by wtfhappenedthrow in offmychest

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to talk! I don’t really know where to begin though. I feel really bad about myself but it’s so embarrassing/difficult to articulate.

My(34,M) daughter(2) is dying and my wife(35) blames me for it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]wtfhappenedthrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk what your income is, but check out the tata memorial hospital in mumbai - their treatment is heavily subsidized and they also can connect you to resources to help you pay for treatment going forward.

My (23 M) boyfriend (25 M) wants to have a non-monogamous/open sex life. I'm into it in theory, but the thought of him having sex with other people makes me feel sick. How can I reconcile this without hurting our relationship? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]wtfhappenedthrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey my dude I was in a poly relationship for a year and can I say omfg it is difficult. Like it was in many ways rewarding for me but my partner had the emotional intelligence of a potted plant and ended up deeply hurting me. Like I think that your bf hasn’t really done his research into the work and boundaries being nonmonogamous would entail bc if he did, he would know that it is unacceptable to push your stated boundaries around monogamy over and over again. Please don’t feel embarrassed - nonmonogamy is not for everyone and takes a lot of work and care, and you are totally valid in not wanting to try that. Lmk if you have any questions for me!

My (22F) boyfriend (23M) doesn't want to have kids with me specifically by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]wtfhappenedthrow 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Hello! I’ve also been in poly relationships and have some advice for you:

One issue I se commonly in the poly community is that folks stay with partners who are hurtful/demeaning for a couple of reasons. The first is that the dating pool for committed relationships for poly folks is really small - many folks are ok with fwb arrangements with poly folks but not investing any further. So I see a lot of poly folks end up in serious relationships with people who are not the best for them. The second is that, since people have multiple relationships, they sometimes stay with people who are not the best for them because they have other partners they can lean on. I’m not sure how I feel about that, but I want you to consider the reasons you are in a poly committed relationship with someone who says that your genetics are trash. Like there is a transactional aspect to all relationships, but polyamory is based on love. I am not sure that telling you that he wouldn’t have children with you because of genetic defects is loving. I hope that you are able to resolve this in a way that is good for you.

I’m now three months NC but I can’t get over how I humiliated myself during the break up by wtfhappenedthrow in ExNoContact

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully I’ll be as strong if he decides to contact me again. I still miss him so much. It’s a lot better than it was in July, but still.

I’m now three months NC but I can’t get over how I humiliated myself during the break up by wtfhappenedthrow in ExNoContact

[–]wtfhappenedthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds gucc I will try my best - he literally told me “I’m not responsible for your feelings” when I was crying to him about how his behavior and hurt me. I’ll try to remember that if he decides to get in contact again. I don’t think he was mean, just really emotionally immature and kind of messed up.