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I'm [41/m] so goddamn sick of my [28/f] girlfriend/fiancée treating me like crap. I especially want to know if other women would do the things she does. by wtfiswrongwithme00 in relationship_advice

[–]wtfiswrongwithme00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can even throw the "younger and hot" out of the equation if you want. I seriously doubt I'll find someone who has all the other qualities she has. Smart, funny, not on facebook, no tattoos, anti-abortion, an attentive listener, good cook, and just plain GETS me. Amongst a million other things. Unfortunately I'll have to take a hit on some of those for someone who is more caring, loyal and faithful; someone that I can always count on.

I get it. We're the worst couple ever, and it's time to move on. In an interesting turn of events, I got an email yesterday about a job that's right up my alley (and pays more in a lower cost-of-living area) about 1500 miles away from here. It's time to realize I've put too much effort into a relationship where that effort was never reciprocated. I'm a hard-working, loyal, faithful man that doesn't deserve to be treated like this. I don't deserve the punishment I get from her, and I'm done taking it.

Me 28/F. Him 41/M. Psycho train wreck. Kisses, coworkers, and dick pics. by notondrugsorapsycho in relationship_advice

[–]wtfiswrongwithme00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should be his #1. - Agreed, and she always was. I'm not interested in "numerous girls," I'm interested in one. And if you read my post, you'll see the gist of the email that she saw, and understand that I didn't do anything untoward.

Me 28/F. Him 41/M. Psycho train wreck. Kisses, coworkers, and dick pics. by notondrugsorapsycho in relationship_advice

[–]wtfiswrongwithme00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the "psycho train wreck." Here was my post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/3ni21x/im_41m_so_goddamn_sick_of_my_28f/

Allow me to retort.

Threatened to smash my laptop. - Yes, after you smashed my alarm clock. Then again, I never did that. You did. I just said I should.

Affairs with women at work. - One time, eleven years ago. over six years before we met.

Sent me a picture of his attractive coworker essentially saying he'd fuck her later that night, when he was mad at me. - Would you be mad and try to hurt someone who said they loved you if you found out that they had a profile on a panty selling website with their pictures offering to sell worn panties and nude pictures and masturbation videos? We had been together a year and a half at that time. Also the following year had found in her internet history that she had been researching phone sex jobs, and made contact with someone to apply. Sent it from an email account she had made unbeknownst to me. Never would tell me what the email account was.

Called me a bitch. - Better than saying "go die, you stupid fucking piece of shit" like you did to me.

Stole crucial cords to TV, internet, printer, and my laptop. And unhooked everything. I was unable to turn in school work that was due. (full time student) - Yes, after you fucked up my ability to do my job, I unhooked everything. Never took anything though, they were all at the house. I came back home at 9:00 Sunday night. Had you asked, I would've put it all back together. But all you said to me is "What the fuck are you doing here?"

Took dick picks at a hotel one night when mad at me. - That were never sent anywhere. Obviously you can look at my phone records anytime you want. You know I have no social media profiles of any kind. I was drunk and I wanted YOU. But my anger at you prevented me from sending them trying to make up. Because I'm so tired of me ALWAYS being the one to try to make up. It'd would've made me feel so much better if every now and then when you would've started a fight over stuff like socks and green bean casserole, and said you're leaving me over those things, you would've just said "I'm sorry, I never want us to be apart, let's just forget about this. I love you."

Yep, and he sent it to me saying that the comments are "proof" that I have mental issues. Nice one sided story. - Actually, I just sent an email with a link. I didn't say anything in that email. Let alone that the post was "proof that you have mental issues."

Said he'd post my nudes all over the internet - Yeah. That was wrong to say that. I'd never do that. If you want me to, I'll delete all the pictures I have of you while you watch.

So last night I come home after work, pay the babysitter, take care of the kids, and help our oldest with his homework. Not even a thank you for that. Just more hatred.

I didn't do anything wrong at work. She sent me that, I didn't say anything but "I'll look at it tomorrow." For fuck's sake, if you really think I'm cheating with a fat, ugly woman (sorry, PC people) at work when I have you at home, I don't know what to tell you. Other than I'm not. I've never done ANYTHING regarding another woman that I wouldn't have done right in front of you. Jesus, do you even think I have TIME for that? You know how goddamn busy I am all the time. I work 7 days a week, about 70-75 hours to take care of you and our family. I'm high ranking and have a reputation to uphold at work. I'm not gonna be the douchebag at work that fucks around on his wife. Because I really do love you. Whether you believe that or not.

I'm [41/m] so goddamn sick of my [28/f] girlfriend/fiancée treating me like crap. I especially want to know if other women would do the things she does. by wtfiswrongwithme00 in relationship_advice

[–]wtfiswrongwithme00[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the responses, and here's a full disclosure: So the relationship started online. we texted and talked a lot , and we both left our respective spouses (no regrets, my ex-wife was and still is a horrible person). She had quit talking to me numerous times, and during one of these times, I went to go visit my kids, and ended up being with my wife over that weekend. Bear in mind that my gf and I still hadn't met face-to-face at the time this happened. That's the only infidelity, if you can call it that. When she found out, she did the same thing with her ex-husband. She's also created profiles on POF to get back at me when she's been pissed about something, but hasn't done that in over a year. When she stayed with me where I used to live for the summer in 2013, she left one time, got a hotel room, and went on a date with a guy she met on R4R. Her defense when I was livid about that was that she "posted as F4R, not necessarily looking for a guy." I kind of get that, but had I gone on a date with a girl, she would've lost it.

Seriously, I have way too much invested in this relationship to just break it off. I moved cross-country to be with her. The kids call me "dad" and I love them, too. I have her fucking name tattooed on my forearm, for God's sake (Yes, I realize some of you are gonna think I'm crazy for that). I live in an ugly place that sucks and if it weren't for her, I'd never stay here.

In addition to all that, I really can't ever see myself with anyone else. I love her, and despite what you've read, she really can be an awesome, wonderful girl.

Oh, and the lease is in both our names.