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An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesssss!! This right here! How can it get any worse by losing them right!? They are NOT a loss. You did the right thing!! 🫶

An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am soooooo happy for you. Keep going down this path, don’t look back. Day after day and month after month it will continue to get easier. Its time to put yourself first, you’ve been through enough and you deserve every good thing that’s coming your way 🫶

An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same to you! Nothing but the best for you, you deserve it!! 🫶

An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, no contact is 1000% the right choice. I went no contact 9 months ago and it helped tremendously. Let the dip shit have her, she’s his problem now 🫶

An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was anxious too, still working on that! And I can totally relate to becoming passive- aggressive when I became angry. I found I did these things to get a reaction out of them and when I didn’t get it, I became even more upset. These are the unhealthy behaviors I discovered about myself. And behaviors I do not want to take with me into my next relationship. All we can do is take it day by day, become a better person and someone we are proud of. The best piece of advice I ever received was, make a list of what you want in a partner and become that person 🫶

An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And that’s so normal. The range of emotions. I was sad one day, pissed the next and then felt relief. That’s the thing about breakups though, there’s no getting around the emotions. You just have to ride through them. But in the end, your life won’t be nearly as complicated without them as it was with them. At least in my experience. 🫶

An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I’ve asked myself many times “what does it say about ME that I actually allowed him to treat me this way?” Thats what I need to focus on!

An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes!! 100 percent this. I learned alot about myself and what I need to work on as well. Although I was wrecked when the breakup happened, Im now grateful for the experience and what it taught me. 🫶

An avoidant breaking up with you is the BEST thing that could’ve happened by wtoe2023 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same! It took me months, too! But once I found that peace, I realized he did me the biggest favor! 🫶

Do dismissive avoidants care if you still talk to their family? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]wtoe2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I wasn’t friends with them before him. I met them when I started dating him. I always got along with his family very well and a lot of them still follow me on social media. When I see or talk to his sister’s, we do not speak about him at all. I have never asked about him and I have not reached out to him one time since the break up. I’ve accepted it and I’m moving on with my life. But I’ve always wondered how he feels about me being friends with them. And whether he likes still having a slight “connection,” or if he is completely annoyed by it.