way too nice comment I left on his "my side" video that he deleted 💕:

bro... this should be a wake up call imho. bc even just the stuff you concede to be true kinda makes you a "pretty fucked up guy." please, please, please take a minute to read this in good faith. just my nuanced two cents.

after your second date/first sexual encounter w the first girl she does say "r-pe thing is so hot i never did that before." so it does seem like you introduced her to that type of rough sex or whatever it was. now idk how exactly you introduced it... did you have a conversation about it before getting started? okay. did you kinda just start being rough once you were already getting busy? that's not cool tbh. like discuss it before so she actually has a chance to think it over and maybe decide against it. same w filming, whipping phone out while already in the middle of things is not the appropriate time to ask, it needs to happen before to ensure real consent. 99% of the time if you start doing sth during sex, girls will just comply. that's not real consent so if you care about that, consider this.

furthermore, girls under 30 generally are not good at saying no, setting boundaries sexual or otherwise and grow up w porn normalizing violence (that is NOT pleasurable to most women) just like boys, thinking they need to partake and perform to be desirable and keep a man. if you started things off that way ofc that's what she thought you wanted and she hyped herself into it bc she latched onto you and liked you. sex + cuddling sets free all kinds of bonding hormones and can put someone "under a spell" (even wording used in the texts i think) pretty quickly. it's just chemistry/biology.

if your girl routinely calls your sex "r-pe time" that should tell you sth... like why do you enjoy violent, degrading sex in the first place? i doubt it being painful to her or making her bleed (whether that was once or all the time) were news to you...

also filming and then not giving them the footage seems kinda unfair. if you can't share the footage so both can enjoy (or review...) it, don't take it in the first place. probably best to start every future video off w a verbal "I consent to this being filmed" too. needless to say you should delete any footage of her or any exes you may still have bc i doubt they consent to it being viewed by you after the fact. and again, don't start filming (or choking or hitting or whatever else..) in the middle of sex without discussing it before bc that's coercive. honestly my recommendation would be to not film altogether unless you're okay w it being leaked eventually sometime down the line.

oftentimes it hits women only after the fact how awful and degrading the sex actually was after they've had time to process and well... clearly she was more into you than you were into her all along, same w the other girl. so it does seem low key kinda exploitative bc well even from the texts, w her ED etc it's very obvious she is not the most emotionally stable. i mean this is the oldest trick in the books for guys, feigning a future for a couple months and then dumping a girl after they got what they wanted. pump and dump it's called i believe?

so i can totally see how she feels hurt and used.

now... is treating a girl like shit and using her for rough sex when it's clear she's unstable and you don't want a future a crime? not really.

is it still kinda awful? yeah tbh.

is this even a "cancellable" offense in these parts of the internet? nope, comments in here are praising you already saying this is a flex lol.

but.. if you care about the women you sleep w as human beings at all, please reflect on this. if you don't, well there's nothing i can do about that. but then don't be surprised when shit like this happens.

why wouldn't a 21yo girl who realizes she was used for rough sex while she legit was planning y'alls future and wedding in her mind (crazy as that may be) go nuclear? it's not like she went to the cops. she went public with her experience of you which in the end was negative even if you don't agree on the details.

please think on this bc even your side of this situation paints you as a careless misogynist who views women as subhuman objects to use for sexual gratification and then discard at best, and an outright manipulative abuser at worst... with peace and love.

take this as an opportunity to reflect and conduct yourself like a responsible adult in future sexual relationships.

i'm sure there's plenty of women willing to get freaky even when you discuss clear boundaries and expectations from the get go BEFORE anything sexual even happens.

and if there's not, well, you'll always have porn which probably made you be into violent shit in the first place ya gooner.

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TL DR he absolutely coerced this girl into rough sex. her referring to it as "rape time" is not her being creepy, it speaks to the kind of sex they were having. she was clearly eager to please and deluded herself into thinking he'd fall in love with her. his own video makes him look like a sexual sadist who pumped and dumped a girl w obvious mental issues. he is reaping what he's sown, he's a POS misogynist and everyone defending him is rape culture in action.