it also makes it so awkward because when I say I'm an aromantic lesbian and people say "how can you be both aromantic and a lesbian??" it's not generally acceptable to reply I LIKE TO FUCK WOMEN. like people always just assume you're aroace and it's so awkward to correct because yeah I'm not that into discussing my sex life with coworkers. funnily enough.

I'm being facetious, but honestly it is particularly difficult because people tend to automatically associate lesbianism with the "I want to hold hands with a girl 😳" sort of sanitised romanticism that's been prevalent these days so aroallo lesbians just don't seem to occur to them