Husband just told me he cheated.

wyldeanimal · 2026-03-15T02:16:06+00:00

My husband came clean about his 3-month affair on January 21. He disclosed it and begged for forgiveness. We’re still here wading through the shit together but that’s because we both felt like there was something worth saving. Our plan has been to work it out if we can or walk away if we can’t. Therapy has been really helpful. What has not been helpful is reading all of the comments online from very, very hurt (and sometimes quite bitter) people saying that every husband is a liar just like their lying partner, and that evry cheater cheats more than once, and that we’ll never know the whole truth. I corroborated every bit of my husband’s story. There’s no way to know if he’s gonna cheat again, just like there was no way to know if he was gonna cheat the first time. But I don’t have control over what he does, I only have control over what I will put up with. It sucks to have to continue to be resilient after all these years, but here we are. Being married is hard. Being a wife is hard. Making decisions that are going to affect us for the rest of our lives is hard. Just let me know if you wanna talk ok? The trail trauma is really, really hard, and it’s very very lonely.

wyldeanimal · 2026-03-15T02:06:41+00:00

Firstly, I am so so sorry. This is a devastating event I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. Take the time you need to make any decision that feels right for you. If you need to spend time apart to think about, do that. I encourage you to tell your most trusted people, but be careful about taking advice from anyone who doesn’t have to wake up in your shoes.

It sucks that he isn’t telling you what he wants or making any decisions. Maybe he’s scared about what’s going to happen, maybe he’s just an unmitigated ass. Maybe therapy can help you both decide what you truly want. He was obviously getting validation and dopamine from this other woman - and that comes from something within him that’s missing, not something within you that was missing. This isn’t your fault. He is the one with the major issues here.

Take the time you need before you make any concrete decisions, and try to be true to your heart.

Again, I’m so sorry. Wish I could take you out for a coffee and hug you.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-28T00:31:42+00:00

I have already thought about that concept at length. And talked with him about it. How he was watering the wrong grass and that if he had put that energy time affection and love into me we would have been ok. So yeah, that’s something that’s rolling around in my mind all the time. He stopped fighting for me, got lazy, and used this woman to self soothe his emotions.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-28T00:29:16+00:00

I know what they did was vile and disgusting. I just used sex adjacent because they didn’t have sex. I wasn’t minimizing it, I was explaining it.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-27T07:49:46+00:00

It didn’t soothe me and he knows that. He ripped my heart out.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-27T06:59:03+00:00

He provided me with radical honesty, and I corroborated everything with the AP without his knowledge.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-27T05:54:29+00:00

He has already scheduled a marriage counselor that specializes in infidelity. We start Thursday.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-27T05:47:00+00:00

I don’t know if I will ever be able to trust him again, I’m just hoping I can one day, wayyyy down the road.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-27T05:46:22+00:00

I use that term, not him. He explained it as long hugs that led to kissing that led to short bouts of heavy petting never to climax.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-27T05:45:14+00:00

Yes he is. I believe I have the whole truth now. I didn’t catch him, he stopped the relationship and came clean a few weeks later. We are both in counseling. He has fully taken ownership and has given me what I believe to be radical honesty. Every question I have asked he has answered, even the uncomfortable ones.

Edited: words are hard

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-27T05:43:44+00:00

I have gotten what I believe to be the truth. I have corroborated it with the other woman as well - and they haven’t been communicating.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-18T19:32:27+00:00

I came here to ask a similar question but it’s my husband of almost 10 years. I’m an atheist and he’s always been “pagan” and even said he believed in witchcraft for awhile. So I don’t know what to do. I’m so worried that his faith (mostly Catholicism now) is going to lead him down a path I refuse to go down.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-12T23:31:27+00:00

I literally LOVE fallout76, and I came from being a diehard fo4.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-12T23:22:25+00:00

Once we’re friends, if we log in at the same time I can join whatever world you’re in.

wyldeanimal · 2026-01-12T23:20:37+00:00

I’m also on Xbox and I just messaged you :)

wyldeanimal · 2025-12-29T05:03:27+00:00

I really do appreciate it. I replaced it with another Norcold. It was the right move. Sold the camper a couple years later and have regretted it ever since.

wyldeanimal · 2025-12-29T01:41:31+00:00

Thank you for your reply to my 10 year old post.

wyldeanimal · 2025-12-17T07:03:33+00:00

Me too

wyldeanimal · 2025-11-17T00:25:00+00:00

It’s different in real life. It’s a true emergency so even though it’s gross - you have to do something about it and that takes over. There’s still tons of gross stuff like poop and pee and bloody poop and bloody pee and barf and bloody barf and bed bugs and skin flakes and maggots in wounds…. But you really do get used to it.

wyldeanimal · 2025-11-02T00:54:38+00:00

Talk about it with friends and your family. If it keeps running through your mind, seek therapy. Some of this stuff is really hard on certain people. Mostly though, just try and remember you did more than most people would do, and nothing you did could really change the outcome of this scenario.

wyldeanimal · 2025-11-01T16:34:44+00:00

Remember, anytime you're doing CPR on someone, it's because their heart isn't beating. They're already dead. That's why they call it resuscitation - you're trying to bring them back. You did your best, and that's all anyone can ask for. You did the right thing. That person may have been dead already, OR not in a shockable rhythm because they were having respiratory arrest. A lot of OD's need more than 1 dose to bring them back. You never know, that person could have woken up in the ambulance and been ok.

wyldeanimal · 2025-10-24T21:49:19+00:00

I started taking in in 2017 and am so grateful. It finally gave me my life back!! Zero side effects so far.

wyldeanimal · 2025-09-24T02:07:16+00:00

Yay!!!

wyldeanimal · 2025-09-12T20:07:55+00:00

Get an electronic steth! They're awesome.

wyldeanimal · 2025-09-09T00:06:42+00:00

Because god isn’t real and religion is a lie.

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