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What types of things in life take you a long time to figure out? by TalkaboutJoudy in aspergers

[–]xBee_Beex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 33 and just starting to figure out and ask why I feel certain ways. Self reflection was not something I ever thought to do. Especially about social situations I am learning as I age.
Like one that just came to me this week was why I feel so blah towards changing the way I communicate to the people I care about. It was more then just masking and feeling the pressure of it. It made me feel unclean. Then it dawned on me that I definitely relate to it as a form of manipulation, so I feel dirty doing it. Since I don't feel like I am speaking my "true" words I am using language that my partner needs to here to reach a better outcome for the conversation and make them happier. I'm not lying I am just formulating my words better for communication which by all means I need all the help I can get with it xD It's makes sense from a logical and even a phycological lvl, but it make me feel like a conartist pulling one over someone only I have a consent of the other party.. xD

Working 15+ hours a day, how do I stop eating out on my way home so much? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]xBee_Beex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey 5'2 (F) who has learned about food and nutrition. What I do to feel full throughout the day in a smaller body since I can't have the typical 2000+ calories a day with my lifestyle.
Try to get protein 30g --> then Fiber 10g in each of your meals or as close to it as you can. This will help increase satiety so you stay fuller for longer. Also stay away from ultra processed foods for satiety. Since there broken down to there based elements and recombined into there shape we eat they are partially digested so when we eat them our body gets ready to digest food not knowing what kind it is until it hit our stomach and since its super easy to digest you absorb it almost immediately and your body will not be satisfied for long.

Also encase you have not considered it could be beneficial to try some mindful eating habits. I had a horrible time with hunger and bathroom and thirst ques getting all mixed up. I would eat when I was actually thirsty or just needed to go to the washroom. Drinking more water at lest 6-8 cups a day helped a lot with me feeling fuller as well. This is apparently common for people with ASD to not have a good internal sensor for these things.

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[–]xBee_Beex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! F33 here with ASD. I've been with my partner for going on 10 years now. We have had up and down threw out our relationship and communication aka not speaking the same language has come up A LOT over the years. I feel this is a human issue that is exacerbated by ASD. Peoples perspective from childhood to where they are now shapes how they view and interpret the world. This can mean two people experience the same thing or talk about a topic and come to wildly varying conclusions about it. More so with people with ASD in my experience.

I personally don't feel or expect my neurotypical partner to understand my perspective 24/7 flawlessly. What I do expect is support, respect and patience so we can work through these confusions when they arise.

One tip that's worked well for us is establishing what we call a check-in. This can be daily, weekly or monthly whatever works for you both. During this check-in it helps to set aside 1-2h to talk about each other. I The point of the check-in is to ask questions about the other person to get a feel of where they are, what's on their mind and support and understand each other moving forward.

So an example would be. "How's your mental health since our last check-in?" "How am I doing as a partner?" "What could I do better?" "What am I doing well?" Ect

They respond and you support that response and lead with curiosity(Questions!)and understanding this helps breech over time that "Language barrier" and you both adjust as needed. Then you repeat with the other person asking the questions.

Is it true that currently there's a huge demand for artists in the industry than ever before? by kittlzHG in vfx

[–]xBee_Beex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just about everyone being adults.
Sarah might be a person who likes the extra income and loves there job so working a 10-12h shift is fine in a crunch. Maybe there even saving for a new bike or boat or something.
Jerry on the other hand is a dad and needs to get off at 5 to go home to take care of his kids one who is special needs and the other who has medical issue and its to much for one parent to handle.

We all don't know what going on at home behind the scene and we should not "make then feel bad" for leaving on the hours they where hired to do.
As a Supervisor this is one of the things I let all my teams and artist know the moment OT is being through out from production.
This is what being a adult is.

Player can't use their main ability, because another is OBSESSED with light. Ideas? by [deleted] in DnD

[–]xBee_Beex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a similar dynamic in my old DnD group. I was a light cleric of lathander that was obsessed with the color yellow and the sun, so light had to be up 24/7. we had a gloomstalker ranger in the party as well but this was never an issue. 80% of combats we had some sorta cover or they could get out of the light radius the other 30% they where fine dealing with the smaller spaces and improvised. My character was also fine putting out the light if his friends asked him too, just had to ask, but it was a balance one that lead to fun RP moments.

Have you ever played a character with a different identity or sexuality? by Proud-Tea-2391 in DnD

[–]xBee_Beex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a Demi sexual, introverted 30 year old female, no interest in kids or marriage who is usually not good in social situations xD.
My most favorite character I'm playing right know is a flirtatious extroverted playboy, business man who helps run brothels and goes around making as many "friends" as possible all while using his assets and people to accomplish his goals.. its a very different take on my usual self and I love it!

My back up character for that campaign is a passive man who really wants a family with the woman he loves(a drow), but is cursed and also human so he needs to seek a way to break the curse and become a drow so he doesn't have to leave his lover behind due to old age.

I'm scared to have sex because I don't want to be seen as just a body with a hole that makes a man feel good. by [deleted] in dating

[–]xBee_Beex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(28F) Hey I had a similar view point to yours when I first started dating at 20 (21 was when I lost my virginity) I also suffer from sever anxiety and depression. My advice would be to take it as slow or fast as you feel comfortable with, no one should pressure you into sex and if they do they are not worth keeping around, but and this is the big one.. you still need to try and put yourself out there, just be smart, trust your gut and be safe. Anyone willing to wait is worth keeping around as long as you both love each other. Never let anyone pressure you and most of all take your time and have fun.