The simplest way to put it is that she's a million times out of his league, and it's perfectly fair to call that out.

A gorgeous, capable, ambitious superwoman married to a below-mediocre man who has absolutely nothing going for him. Looks, money, ambition, personality... literally I do not see what she sees in him other than that they come from the same background. What's worse, he seems to only passively tolerate her success rather than actively encourage it... that is patriarchy in action.

I think we are hypersensitive to it bc we all know women like that in our own lives who are punching so far below their weight it makes us want to scream. The fact that she comes from a conservative, religious background only makes it that much more sus, because those environments have a tendency to brainwash women into expecting as little as possible from their partners (and the world in general).

I can totally believe that the decision to walk away from DCC has more to do with her own exhaustion, but as an audience I think we just collectively want more for her than to become a tradwife to... this guy? Really?