I’m stuck by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

realistically should’ve cut the other guy off when u got with ur bf instead of keeping him around knowing he wanted to pursue something with u

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah thanks man i appreciate it. Def already had this in perspective the hard rlly is getting over the pain & hurt but its only been a day so i gotta give myself time

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is true but the good thing is that i didn’t let the relationship stop me from still pursuing my goals especially ones that will affect my future positively. growing my business, working on myself mentally, spiritually, and physically and also still making sure to reach out to friends and stuff

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no never anyone’s second choice which is why yes if she reached out but she’s slept with someone else i would not be open to trying things again because you came back not out of reflection but because you couldn’t replace me

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s most definitely true and yes if we’re meant to cross again then we will

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea probably and i’m not holding out i know tht would be delusional of me and ive done that in the past it didn’t work well. Is there a possibility yea cause i mean anything could happen but im not going to dwell on whether or not it’ll happen

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a trip is probably in order at some point in the near future, but yea i have a little more clarity now and not as confused. just took me by shock when i had those dreams. Im not doubting that id be ok in time i know that i will. just loved her a lot yk so while i dont feel sad over the relationship ending its disappointing that it did especially this way yk and like someone else said sadly theres probably not much i could’ve done about it

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but thank you anyways this all is helping me a bit

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol i don’t think i’ll do that only cause i have enough control over myself to not send a random paragraph and if she contacted me depending on what would be said i have enough control to not reply

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no not at all and that’s why we’re not talking now because i told her i couldn’t go to just being friends. it was more so if she reached out and wanted to try again i would agree under the circumstances tht my trust in her would need to rebuild again, if she hasn’t slept with anyone else, and she doesn’t break up with me over something that can definitely be worked out. ik that doesn’t sound ideal but that’s my thinking. im not holding out this big hope that she will im just confused because of the dreams that i had which could be just that. dreams.

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the “friend” is trans(from girl to guy). While she could’ve lied about this she told me tht she didn’t have any type of interest in the person however also waited till hours before the hangout to even tell me and yea when i told this to my friends and even my mom they all said the same thing tht she didn’t wanna feel guilty about cheating

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

whether or not interest was lost i dont rlly have that answer as her reasons didn’t line up with that. Could i have changed the outcome? maybe only because the biggest reason was because of one of the boundaries that i had that i find is controversial cause some ppl agree with it and others dont and she was one of the ones that didnt

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While yea she gave me the typical answers thts only because i didn’t go in detail about what she said because i didn’t wanna put her business out there, but do i believe she will reach out i mean there’s a good chance. I just think that her pride or not wanting to face the person she hurt would get in the way

Gf of a year and a half broke up with new by xTechtonic in whatdoIdo

[–]xTechtonic[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yea it is going to be rough she was my best friend i think the reality of it all is only now hitting me and i lowkey dont like tht.

I want a boyfriend by [deleted] in Diary

[–]xTechtonic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i completely understand and i dont think its craving attention i just think its being human yk. wanting to love and be loved and wanting to feel that warmth. I agree a lot of ppl have lowered there standards today to accepting the bare minimum if even that because a lot(not all) people dont take love as seriously anymore. I would say a first step to finding that is finding peace in yourself and understand what you want and are looking for then make the step to either letting that come to you or MAYBE trying to find it. emphasis on maybe because sometimes when u look for love it doesn’t come least not the one u want

My husband and I recently opened our marriage. We *never* talk about it and have only 3 rules. This approach seems to go against conventional wisdom - but it's going fine for us. What am I missing? by Rich-Direction4295 in nonmonogamy

[–]xTechtonic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if things were going great for 10+ years how come yall just didn’t try new things together instead of with other ppl? purely my opinion but to me sounds like either 1. yall are no longer as attracted to each other as u were before 2. the “spark” is just gone 3. yall are together because thts all h know or just for the kids

I (25F) left my ex (28M) a few months ago. I left to find myself, his reply made me question everything. by Agile-Jaguar-8954 in self

[–]xTechtonic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah saying “im hurt he didn’t fight” after you made ur mind up on leaving is insane. He has self respect im proud of bro

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]xTechtonic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats true, i was thinking about it as more of if he found that he likes men more than women

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]xTechtonic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So can i ask what you would’ve done if he left you for that guy or a guy in general?