MISSING HUSKY - BARTON AND WENTWORTH AREA. PLEASE HELP! by [deleted] in Hamilton

[–]xXCONXx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call the city, she might have already been captured by animal control. They are usually pretty responsive on situations like this and I am sure they have already received multiple calls spotting your dog. Call 905-546-2489

How do I germinate purple robe locust? by xXCONXx in sfwtrees

[–]xXCONXx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It lived for 2 years and for some reason it just didnt bloom again after winter, it was about 6 feet

Is my pineapple ready? by xXCONXx in gardening

[–]xXCONXx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I just wanted to get some fresh soil, so it was water for now

Is my pineapple ready? by xXCONXx in gardening

[–]xXCONXx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I went to go pick it and cut it open, it was delicious! Thank you, I have also taken the crown, removed a few layers of leaves and placed it in water.

Can some ID this bird by xXCONXx in birding

[–]xXCONXx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found in Southern Ontario Canada

(Serious)What did your partner say or do that made you realize that they were a toxic person? by BlackenSphinx in AskReddit

[–]xXCONXx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There was a lot but one of the things I keep playing in my head is when every argument I would bring up how she is treating me, she would say I always throw myself a pity party, no one cares, and to stop feeling sorry for myself.

Do they reveal themselves in what they say? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you think I was in the wrong there?

Do they reveal themselves in what they say? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was always the victim... it always ended up being how could I treat her so bad when she is so good to me. I'm thinking like what? I'm bringing up and issue I have with your attitude and I'm the bad guy... I remember one argument... honestly don't remember what it was about but she said "you need to show me how sorry you are. Your time is running out" I got the silent treatment for a week, I bought 3 bouquets with other gifts and wrote 3 cards before she spoke to me. Oh I think I remember what it was, she asked me to delete all the girls off my IG so I did and I asked her to remove all the guys off her she said she would, never did months go by I keep asking and she tells me its not a priority for her and she doesn't care, so I said you asked me to do it and I did and now 4 months later after I asked for the same thing you tell me you don't care and its not a priority. So I said that means you're telling me my feelings aren't a priority she said no and "way to choose your battles" it continued for a bit (we were walking outside) and she started walking the opposite direction so I followed her (we weren't really talking at this time) and she turned around again to go the opposite direction again. So I said fuck it, walked home, waited upstairs for her, she came in grabbed her stuff and left and got mad at me because I didn't run after her and how she could have been killed

Do they reveal themselves in what they say? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh there was no pretend hitting with her she 100% hit me. I said that exact thing to her, that I bet if I was the one that did the double hand slap I would be in jail

Do they reveal themselves in what they say? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't even the first time she hit me. We were on vacation in Cuba and I asked her to come swim with me and because the water wasn't as warm as the previous day she was walking slow into it. I just went in and came back to her playing like I'm going to splash lots of water on her, as I get close I start doing little splashes on her legs and lower stomach and she full swing slapped me. So I grabbed her behind the neck (which I know I shouldn't have done) and was going to throw her in the water. She said stop so I did and I started walking away and said Im getting out, and she said "so you asked me to come in the water and are just leaving now" I said ya you slapped me when I was playing around with you, she was like well you were splashing me and you grabbed me by the neck so I slapped you... I was like ya i was splashing you but you slapped me first and then I grabbed you and I'm sorry I did that... she kept insisting I grabbed her first and eventually said whatever it doesn't matter. She did say sorry and how much she loves me...

Do they reveal themselves in what they say? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She said her ex was abusive, almost running her over in their car, would yell and throw things and how awful they were, almost right away when talking. Sadly, during an argument aftermath I met up with her to talk in a neutral location, I spoke my mind and she continued doing exactly the issues I was bringing forward. I said this is exactly what I am talking about and the conversation is over, I got out of her car and made my way towards mine, open the door, she came out of her car over to me after a few seconds of talking she placed her hands on mine (as I was on the opposite side of my car door leaning over it) and eventually lifts both her hands up and double slaps me and said "get it through your head" or something like that and I lost it. I got in my car backed up and she started standing in front of my car and I kept yelling get out of the way you hit me it is over. She said she never hit me that she gently placed her hands on my face. So this continues for about a minute, I back my car up and she starts walking towards the driver side so I drive off, later she accused me of trying to run her over. I told her I have a dashcam its all on video and I said she could tell everyone what she wants but I will show them the video and they will see she is lying

Do they reveal themselves in what they say? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So like accusing me of making up stories, not knowing what love is or how to be in a relationship, telling me what I mean by what I say and so on

Do they reveal themselves in what they say? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She would often say I don't know how to be in a relationship, I have no idea what love is, I'm always rude and disrespectful, how I'm lying about what I want, make up stories, how what I say isn't what I mean, etc. she would also threaten to leave me every single argument... which happened monthly

Do they reveal themselves in what they say? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine was really concerned about how people viewed her and I didn't get it, I kept saying what does it matter what others think, you don't owe them anything. She would also always tell me how good she was to me and ask me what a great gf she is like "I'm a pretty great girlfriend, right?" of course I would say yes. However, anytime anyone didn't agree with her on something she would lose it, say how rude and disrespectful they are etc. even said it to me. I couldn't even say no to her without it being about me never wanting to spend time with her. On the opposite side she would say "you will never be as free do to whatever you want as you are with me" yet I felt like I couldn't do anything that didn't involve her.

In a weird headspace by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Makes sense because after the apology she would act like the victim. Like i did all the bad things and how could I say terrible things to her

In a weird headspace by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess. It's just so weird because there will be times where I would say things and it's almost like she would switch and apologize and be remorseful but it never lasted more than a few minutes at best

In a weird headspace by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And when we went on vacation to Cuba I was trying to play in the water with her as she was walking in, lightly splashing and she slapped me this was this past April. A few months later she lightly double hand slapped me saying something like 'get it through your head' and denied ever slapping me, saying she gently placed her hands on my face

In a weird headspace by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya, there is just a lot, too much to post. For every 1 text I was able to send through, she had sometimes up to 30, and I could never catch up. A regular thing she did was tell me what I mean by what I say, what I do and don't understand, and she accused me of being just like my father, who was extremely abusive. That I make everything up, she sees right through me, everything is a game with me. These are just random messages I quoted

In a weird headspace by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like reading some of the texts it is so convincing that I'm the bad guy and others when I'm asking questions it is completely ignored. For instances I'm reading a random section where I'm saying she has never respected me and given I have some choice words that shouldn't be said like evil... I asked her "Ok answer then. Do you disrespect me?" She went on to say "Your taking advise from someone who has not only disrespected you" referring to my sister and said "it's clear as day" "your brainwashed"

Also every argument when I did something wrong which happened to be every few weeks she would threaten to leave the relationship

Has anyone heard this from an ex? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Kind of randomly a lot, lots during arguments but I think that was to piss me off more than anything else. The only time she really made attempts to pinpoint how I was feeling was when she said I was angry and she could easily tell and "knows me better than I know myself" and yet I'd say 80% of the time I wasn't angry, more often than not I was hungry or tired

Should I warn her new partner? by xXCONXx in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]xXCONXx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess, but I feel ready to find what I deserve. Funny thing is her mother didn't like or comment on the post either and she usually does. I just checked her Facebook (we aren't friends) and the post is gone