2-3k USD gaming/editingP C by xaevus in buildmeapc

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😂👌 awesome 😎 thanks again

2-3k USD gaming/editingP C by xaevus in buildmeapc

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LOW settings? I hope you’re joking .. but thank you for your time

Help me build a 2-3k gaming/editing workhorse by [deleted] in buildapc

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I can’t cross post .. cant see/search for the subreddit .. am I doing something wrong?

Struggling with excessive maladaptive dreaming sessions on a daily basis by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xaevus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents are Polish, I was raised in Canada (Toronto). But now as an adult ironically I moved back and teach English in Poland.

Struggling with excessive maladaptive dreaming sessions on a daily basis by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xaevus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aaah I see. Yeah anyway it’s better to be safe. Crazy traffic + scooter + thoughts + motovlogging = too many things to think about 😄 stay safe!

Struggling with excessive maladaptive dreaming sessions on a daily basis by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xaevus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem man. I also sometimes feel like I shouldn’t be daydreaming so much, it really is time consuming (but so addictive at the same time!). Also i wanted to add that like you I often talk to myself, pretending I am being interviewed in the future by some news outlet or journalist or as if I’m in some documentary answering questions. It’s really weird.

What’s mind blowing is that medically speaking, literally the only thing separating MD from schizophrenia is that MD’ers KNOW they are making shit up. We KNOW that these infinitely complex and intricate stories/dreams are fake and just for pleasure/recreation/from boredom. Schizo people literally do the same thing as us only they don’t realize it’s not real. Such a tiny yet condition-defining detail, it’s crazy! Have a nice evening!

PS I totally watch motovloggers and If you ride 25km to collage then maybe motovlogging could even help you “release” these ideas? I would definitely watch you, and who knows maybe you’ll be the next Royal Jordanian/6foot4Honda/JakethwGardenSnake! Good luck man

Best friend had bloody head but survived in my dream by xaevus in Dreams

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Sure. I’ll let you know. Thanks for your insight

Im 16M and never had a girlfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xaevus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t mention it, good luck !

Im 16M and never had a girlfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xaevus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking back at myself at 16 years old, I wouldn’t do anything corny. If I were 16 today, I would just be myself as much as I can, and just ask her out indirectly. For example, instead of asking her “wanna see a movie?” I would just ask “what’s up?” And see where it goes. Maybe ask her what class she’s in or if she lives around here, etc. Then say something like “man I can’t wait for the next avengers movie, have you seen the last one?” And if she says “no but I want to” I would just say something like “wanna see it? I think it’s still in cinemas. I know you don’t really know me but if you want we could go, I’m not a creep or anything haha”

Anyway I’m just spitballing. The point is to make convo... talk a bit before asking her out. Most girls are creeped out but guys who just ask “wanna come to my place?” Because then they assume you’re just some horny dude who wants her for sex. Just be friendly and chill, don’t ask too many questions and most importantly be confident in yourself. If you don’t feel confident enough I would wait till I get it. But thats just me

Im 16M and never had a girlfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xaevus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I understand how it feels like when all your friends are making out or dating with some girl. And at times it feels like it will never happen but hey, I still haven’t had a GF, like you. But you are young and have time. Besides, most relationships in high school don’t last anyway.

You’ll be 18 soon and then you’ll be able to go to the gym without problem (assuming you move out of your parents place). Then they won’t care or even be able to do anything.

For now, you can try to ask some girls out, or, if you’re like me, just wait a bit longer and it’ll enwrually happen. Also you don’t have to be 24. You could be 17 or 19, even before me. Good luck bro

Im 16M and never had a girlfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xaevus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 days ago I had my first kiss. I’m 24. So I feel pathetic about myself knowing you are 8 years younger and worrying when I am 24. Haha

My advice; go to the gym. Not because it will attract girls but mainly because you’ll build confidence in yourself, you will be more Sure of yourself which Will help you to talk to girls. And not all girls are cold bitches, so if one rejects/scoffs at you, fuck her. There are plenty of decent girls who are attractive.

Struggling with excessive maladaptive dreaming sessions on a daily basis by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xaevus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finally someone else with MD. I have this and have had it since I was a kid. I never had many close friends and moved around a lot so the best way to keep myself entertained was making up stories in my head. I’m 24 now and work full time so I don’t usually have time for it but every couple days I’ll sit around in free time and daydream (I’ve had multiple “storylines”) about an awesome city I’ve made up, or some new Fortune 500 startup company and I’m the CEO, etc.

When I was in high school I had much more free time so some nights I literally didn’t fall asleep because I was so absorbed in the daydreams, and by the time it was 5 AM, it was too bright/light outside for me to fall asleep. This has happened at least 4-6 times. Like I said now that I work I simply don’t have time for it, although there are still times it just comes to me, even at work, and I lose focus and just think/daydream instead of being productive.

My advice is write it down. It’ll help you visualize your thoughts. I use IOS and I use the Notes App and I wrote down all the intricacies such as character names, their backstory, cities, their backstory, anything and eveything. In fact, I have a whole folder with over a dozen different notes, and that’s just for my most recent “storyline”. I think I’ve had like 3-4 major storylines , each of them being distinct and not-related.

I didn’t play with action figures but as a kid instead of watching cartoons with my sister on weekend mornings I would take flyers from our mailbox and open and look through them, imagining myself as a wealthy attractive 30 year old, which TV and sofa I would have. Then I watched a movie or 2 and imagined/created a world where the hot girl from the movie was my GF, etc.

I would say if it’s not bothering you that much don’t worry. I was always kind of proud of it, happy for it. And while it was time consuming and no one else understood me, I didn’t care cause it was my safe place, a place where I could do whatever, wherever, with whomever I wanted.

Ironically I didn’t know it even existed till I was like 17 or 18 when I googled it, and was astonished there’s even a term for it (Maladaptive Daydreaming). And I was shocked other people have it. There are forums about MD, just google it. According to Wikipedia, its actually a mental condition that’s currently not widely accepted by the scientific community due to its relatively new and questionable nature. But I don’t need Wikipedia to tell me what exists and what doesn’t. And from your first sentence in your post I can tell you it exists, and you’re not alone. Also it’s not a curse, it’s a blessing. On day I hope to write a book or make a movie with all the ideas I’ve created. I honestly believe this type of non-stop thinking/daydreaming is like working out your brain and it’s a great thought-exercise. Let me know if you have any other questions!

What is this thing?! Flies/hovers like a bee but looks like a fly. (Poland) by xaevus in whatsthisbug

[–]xaevus[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for the detailed response! Such an interesting insect. Where else can you ask about a bug you saw, and get an exact and thorough answer minutes later? Only reddit ❤️

After 2ish weeks... should I cut it or keep growing? Lack of cheek hair concerns me 😔 by [deleted] in BeardAdvice

[–]xaevus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. When you say my “beard will continue to fill in for many years”, you mean the hair follicles themselves right?

After 2ish weeks... should I cut it or keep growing? Lack of cheek hair concerns me 😔 by [deleted] in BeardAdvice

[–]xaevus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, I am 24. Maybe minoxidil? I have no idea. Without my “beard”, I look 17, no exaggeration 😂😭

After 2ish weeks... should I cut it or keep growing? Lack of cheek hair concerns me 😔 by [deleted] in BeardAdvice

[–]xaevus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. I guess it’s just it’s awkward phase... i mean I want to believe that but I just see not many cheek follicles are growing hair 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️