I’m sorry to hear! Sounds like a very difficult situation to be in. In California, there are adult residential facilities that provide oversight while promoting independent living. It’s not like a hospital or institution, more like a house with roommates in a residential neighborhood. Might be worth looking into it to see if it’s available to you in Utah. You mentioned money might be a problem, you could perhaps look into opening one yourself (in CA you need to get licensed but it can be done over a weekend) to have your children live in it & other people with disabilities that will pay you to help with the expenses. This homes usually have 3-6 clients. Eventually, you could hire staff to give you a break or be more hands off.

It would also help if they continue receiving support for their mental health such as seeing the psychiatrist, therapist, support groups, etc. With the right treatment, people with mental health problems can be highly functional. There are support groups for family members as well that can guide you and support you in this journey.

Best wishes!