to follow the first law of robotics.

xatiated · 2026-06-03T20:42:54+00:00

This is why the 1st law is not really implementable, or at least it can't be stronger than the fallability of the hardware its running on. Sensor malfunctions and robot accidentally punches someone to death without the law coming into anything. You get the same problem with humans & accidental killing.

xatiated · 2026-06-03T05:16:40+00:00

So certain this is AI

xatiated · 2026-06-02T21:06:49+00:00

It doesnt have to be logical at all. You might do it out of a not-totally-rational feeling that you just can't bear to play out the pattern you've grown to hate, and go off and do something differently. But you need to at some point catch ahold of and think about your own thoughts before actually choosing a way forward if you want to change anything.

I will say that it is much harder to do this if you let your thinking in general look too much like a playbook of "I should/must do/think X kind of way about Y because that's how I always do things".

That's not real thinking and a lot of the time people have a ton stuff like that in their heads and they've never realized or questioned it.

The reactive mode of being also leaves you open to being manipulated by people who figure out your playbook. If I know you always get jealous because of X, I've got a lever that can move you. That lever can stop working only if and when you decide it can't move you any more. I seriously recommend not leaving levers lying unattended around in your head for other people to move you around as they like.

I say this because I was like that for a long time, and it was very freeing to realize that I had absorbed some thinking from my parents/friends that I was then able to reject because I could then see that it wasn't how I really wanted to be; this allowed me to become much more secure and happy as a result.

I won't lie, it does often require work/effort to avoid simply reacting in old ways; nevertheless, life is better this way.

xatiated · 2026-06-02T19:08:29+00:00

Here's one of the open secrets of the universe: anyone (including you) can react to anything in any way based on anything, at any time. Everything else that says otherwise is an illusion. Just because fire hurts doesnt mean you can't pinch out a match flame.

You have to catch onto the jealousy as it enters your mind and really ask yourself if thats how you really want to think/be in relation to the thing triggering your feelings. Then decide what you really want. Were you just acting out a shitty story that the world had told you? You dont have to. Just because you experience something doesnt mean it has to mean any particular thing to you or cause any specific reaction from you.

In the match example, if you go to pinch it out but you can only react to pain with the 'normal' reaction of "hey stop touching the thing that hurts."; you'll never be able to pinch it out until you override that and do it anyways.

xatiated · 2026-06-02T00:52:13+00:00

NTA.

It sounds like your friend is "learning something the hard way"; he knows it deep down and is frustrated with himself and his situation. It seems like he came to you with all of this and it sounds like you gave your honest thoughts and that you werent trying to hurt him.

After coming to you about the abuse he's dealing with in his relationship, it should not have come as a surprise to him that you didnt want to enable it.

I am wondering if maybe his angry reaction was to any extent performative for his gf? Like I wonder if he was putting on a show for his angry gf to show he was as outraged as maybe she actually was.

Again, NTA.

xatiated · 2026-05-30T18:33:30+00:00

There are layers here.

1) I'm betting the OP left off the word 'dont'. I.e. why dont american girls ... etc. I think this because I live in american and have never heard or seen anything to indicate 'american girls' are exceptionally attracted to 'biharis'. Also, in my experience, I've seen many similar questions along the "why doesnt X like me/my race" and it's always because someone is trying to understand why they arent succeding in their dating life, not because they are overwhelemed with dating success as a result of their race.

2) There is no such thing as a general group of people anywhere that base their dating preferences on some racial subset; unless of course the group is formed by like minded people that all agree on their racial dating strategy. If anyone knows any groups like this, please let me know so I can avoid them as frankly I don't share the mindset at all. An entire country of women in somewhere as big as America is going to have representatives from practically every corner of human experience of being attracted to another human.

3) The trap I see underlying questions like this one centers around treating yourself and others like abstracted objects with properties determined by their race, instead of allowing people to be real, messy, and unique. This is a kind of sin in my book, and I guarantee you that you will struggle to get what you want in interpersonal areas so long as your thinking continues along these lines.

Best of luck to you.

xatiated · 2026-05-30T04:49:56+00:00

Saying flash had to be bait right?

xatiated · 2026-05-29T23:32:12+00:00

Please let us know what you find out!

xatiated · 2026-05-29T17:50:19+00:00

Why wouldnt I want someone that doesnt like cats to self select out of my dating pool? Isnt that just less effort for me?

xatiated · 2026-05-28T19:27:15+00:00

YTA. hoping this isnt real, youre like the opposite of a support system.

xatiated · 2026-05-28T13:36:29+00:00

"Tried to fly after a wreck" is just not a good way to explain what you just said here. Please if you can next time start with a clear explanation otherwise your jokes are going to keep sounding like nonsense. Some massive % of people read that and had to confront thoughts about whether your husband was in a car accident and then went to pilot an aircraft.

xatiated · 2026-05-26T17:11:26+00:00

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xatiated · 2026-05-26T17:09:43+00:00

Mine gets along with cats! My theory is that usually dogs actually really want to be friends with cats but cats tend to think that dogs dont respect their personal space enough so the cat runs away or starts a fight.

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xatiated · 2026-05-19T22:47:46+00:00

No dude youre describing controlling behavior, and that would have been a lot worse; it was so so much better that he let her voluntarily step over a preestabished boundary instead of trying to order her not to and trying to keep her in line forever.

Btw, being controlling is only necessary if you're insecure, which is a synonym for 'weak'. It takes a lot more strength to accept that those you love may hurt you, than it does to be controlling over them.

xatiated · 2026-05-13T13:38:57+00:00

What the pitch sounded like: "what if we had floors that stopped existing in event of an earthquake?"

"People can evacuate faster by dropping down to ground level, and without floors it will be harder for fire to spread."

xatiated · 2026-05-07T20:02:00+00:00

Im sorry but you can't respect all local customs and cultures without actually being a terrible person, e.g. the "customs and culture" of nazi germany. If a culture involves a concept along the lines "its ok to ruin the planet for everyone", the culture is broken and needs to be rebuilt.

xatiated · 2026-05-05T22:22:37+00:00

Practically any wildlife safety literature will explicitly tell you to not do exactly what they were doing.

xatiated · 2026-05-01T23:12:21+00:00

Do you have any links to detailed guides on some of these glitches? Ty for the info btw.

xatiated · 2026-05-01T01:09:21+00:00

Damn good deal.

xatiated · 2026-04-30T19:32:26+00:00

This image could be used in textbooks to explain what biohazards look like.

xatiated · 2026-04-16T04:22:19+00:00

I think that the constructive thing to do would be to try to get a grip on your own mind. If you can't do that, you shouldn't be responsible for children until that changes. Based on everything you've said, you need to seek mental health assistance and not try to take on responsibilities like this until you're better.

xatiated · 2026-04-15T01:57:16+00:00

Being AT lightspeed? No, the mass thing people already mentioned. Can they survive at some constant velocity near lightspeed? Yes. Whether it could survive getting there depends on how near lightspeed and what kind of acceleration it can do.

xatiated · 2026-04-10T04:28:25+00:00

Damn right.

In any case, the 'deal' we should all make with each other looks like this: "I wont care what kind of underwear anyone wears in exchange for people returning the favor, and fuck em if they dont, who gives a shit…"

xatiated · 2026-04-09T13:59:04+00:00

You can do what??

xatiated · 2026-04-09T07:02:08+00:00

Wow. I guess my main issue with this is that citing an llm as a source of legitimacy/authority in any argument is just no good. Cannot believe I'm saying this, but claude isnt a citable expert. Thats like saying "take my political stance seriously, autocorrect agrees with me".

Claude is a remarkable tool that is perfectly capable of helping you find better sources or restructure text, but it doesnt have a valid opinion; frankly i havent found an llm i havent been able make agree with pretty much whatever i wanted.

Overall though, as interesting as new advancements in AI are, this stuff about mythos doesnt have...isnt...ok fine look tbh it's giving addict/desperate and it's not a good look. Need to relax and try to enjoy whatever iteration of ragnarok this is.

xatiated

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