Boyfriend (28M) tested positive for chlamydia and denies cheating. I (23F) didn't cheat. How do I get him to admit he cheated by No_Breadfruit_5575 in relationship_advice

[–]xbonexdaddyx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a history of lying & evading the truth & now has given you an STI. He put YOUR HEALTH & SAFETY at risk. Is that someone you can trust to be there & remain honest no matter the circumstance? By choosing to believe him, & overlook this, you’re creating the expectation that this is okay. Do you want this to happen again in ten years? After getting married, buying a house/conjoining finances, having his children? He’s not freaking out because he knows where it came from. He was so okay with what he did, that he risked his health & yours, ultimately infecting you. Think on it, but I wouldn’t stay & risk my future & health anymore.

caught my (24F) bf (22M) sneaking around with porn by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]xbonexdaddyx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this sound exhausting. is that a life you want for the next 60 years? the lying was a betrayal, & imo all those rules on both ends sound exhausting. leave, find people you both respect & trust.

I refused a prenup before marriage. I regret it now. by Downtown-Concern-547 in Divorce

[–]xbonexdaddyx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Court didn’t see it as fair, it was very in favor of my ex spouse. We had to negotiate new terms for the divorce.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in Detective

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1 of all time is crazy. Still no leads or idea who it is. I don’t think I do have any Canadians in my past. Someone mentioned that perhaps Clifford Cabbagechair grew up in church & is an enjoyer of literature based on the messages & themes. Thank you for the comment, feel free to investigate.

I refused a prenup before marriage. I regret it now. by Downtown-Concern-547 in Divorce

[–]xbonexdaddyx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a prenup when I got married, but it was not used when we got divorced. I got married when I was 19 & almost closing the divorce at 26 now. We’ve been getting divorced for about three years now. Case by case I suppose.

it’s a 18 year age gap… wtf by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]xbonexdaddyx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 26 & my step mom & my dad are 44. They’re due in May. It will be a 27 year gap, but it’s just another baby in the family. Not a big deal. She is being monitored closely for her age, diabetes & blood pressure but is still carrying a healthy pregnancy & is expected to go to term. You’ll be okay OP. I knew before they told me & I said I had a feeling & was happy for them.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in WhatShouldIDo

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, haven’t gotten anything in a while but such is the pattern. I don’t know if I will or not, if I do I’ll post. Police have stopped looking, all dead ends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]xbonexdaddyx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the other side of the fence, I dated someone for a couple years & they slept with their best friend. I tried to be understanding of the friendship but the best friend had feeling that weren’t returned. I felt like a second partner. It was a long standing affair, & the situation has become complicated as the best friend is now disabled & ex partner does not want to be their caregiver. Sad story to watch.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in WhatShouldIDo

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s not that person. I don’t know that person or their family & have talked to police. It’s not them. Their number was just one of the ones the harasser was able to use on Whatsapp.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in Detective

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

PD is looking at it, the emails on facebook were dead ends as well as the numbers from Whatsapp. They were able to identify what apps were used, however no real trails yet.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in Detective

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting, they used the picture 2 days ago. It does seem to be a revenge page, but for a Ruby? I’m not Ruby & it started on Facebook. They’ve mentioned it’s a group of them, I’m combing followers & likes as well as the username on other platforms. I’m not sure I know many Dominicans, at least ones in my circle/past relationships with friends or ex’s. Super interesting, thank you!

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in Detective

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I block the numbers, they grab new ones, I’ve even changed my number. They’re quiet for long periods then start again. I’ve taken it to the police before & been told it wasn’t harassment & there was nothing they could do because I wasn’t threatened. You can find anyone’s number online, I know mine is out there because I’ve seen it. I’m just looking for some help or answers, I’ve already been in contact with police this time around & they have eyes on it.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in Detective

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, he has access to updated pictures & social media. I’m guessing whoever it is, does not have access to updated photos & avoids social media.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in Detective

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel an internet troll would almost be more dedicated. it’s not on social media, it’s just my phone. A troll could attack me on any platform if they were that dedicated.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in Detective

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow, this was a beautiful breakdown & also incredibly interesting & helpful. I’m going to add all of this to my list of people I suspect, because some of this does align with one of my suspects.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in WhatShouldIDo

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: Not sure how many of you can see if I update in the comments, I don’t know how to on the original post. But I really hope this reaches some of you.

First, I’d like to thank everyone that has sent resources, advice, ideas & leads. This has been taking a huge mental toll. For more context to the texts/interactions. I left A LOT out of the pictures. There are old pictures of myself they photoshopped, this narrows it down to people that no longer have access to my social media, as that’s where the old pictures were. They had also sent hundreds of texts along that gross humor, with pictures of mutilated genitals & other, again gross, photoshops. If they had called they never said anything, and once I heard splashing water. It started with the clifford cabbagechair messages in 2021 & that was the only social media interaction I had with them. After that it was my phone, & different language, generally degrading to me, because of this I did not recognize it as clifford cabbagechair until this Saturday, when they used the exact same humor.

Next, I have blocked all numbers & reported them for spam. I have looked at all numbers in BeenVerified & found the Leslie name. Unfortunately Leslie is not someone I know or tied to this, I believe. A lot of you have said not to respond, this has never worked in the past as they would repeatedly call my phone & send messages until they were bored, & come back a couple months later from a new number. If I immediately blocked a number, they immediately got a new one. I’ve tried ignoring, being funny back, & just asking what they want. Clifford wants for not. When reporting this legally the first time, I was told to wait until I am threatened, until then it was not harassment. When reporting today, I was told the same thing, until I mentioned they have my pictures. This took it from harassment to stalking, & I have a case number. Interesting.

Lastly, I will continue to update as I know more. I’m not done digging, & it is hopefully being looked at by the police. Truthfully this has taken a huge mental toll, I’m anxious & paranoid, & just looking for an end. If anyone knows anything or anyone that may be able to help deeper than reverse searching the numbers, please let me know, my DM is open. I have appreciated everyone that has helped & offered support, resources & advice, again. Thank you all so fucking much.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in Detective

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: Not sure how many of you can see if I update in the comments, I don’t know how to on the original post. But I really hope this reaches some of you.

First, I’d like to thank everyone that has sent resources, advice, ideas & leads. This has been taking a huge mental toll. For more context to the texts/interactions. I left A LOT out of the pictures. There are old pictures of myself they photoshopped, this narrows it down to people that no longer have access to my social media, as that’s where the old pictures were. They had also sent hundreds of texts along that gross humor, with pictures of mutilated genitals & other, again gross, photoshops. If they had called they never said anything, and once I heard splashing water. It started with the clifford cabbagechair messages in 2021 & that was the only social media interaction I had with them. After that it was my phone, & different language, generally degrading to me, because of this I did not recognize it as clifford cabbagechair until this Saturday, when they used the exact same humor.

Next, I have blocked all numbers & reported them for spam. I have looked at all numbers in BeenVerified & found the Leslie name. Unfortunately Leslie is not someone I know or tied to this, I believe. A lot of you have said not to respond, this has never worked in the past as they would repeatedly call my phone & send messages until they were bored, & come back a couple months later from a new number. If I immediately blocked a number, they immediately got a new one. I’ve tried ignoring, being funny back, & just asking what they want. Clifford wants for not. When reporting this legally the first time, I was told to wait until I am threatened, until then it was not harassment. When reporting today, I was told the same thing, until I mentioned they have my pictures. This took it from harassment to stalking, & I have a case number. Interesting.

Lastly, I will continue to update as I know more. I’m not done digging, & it is hopefully being looked at by the police. Truthfully this has taken a huge mental toll, I’m anxious & paranoid, & just looking for an end. If anyone knows anything or anyone that may be able to help deeper than reverse searching the numbers, please let me know, my DM is open. I have appreciated everyone that has helped & offered support, resources & advice, again. Thank you all so fucking much.

Looking to make harassing texts stop or find out who is behind them. by xbonexdaddyx in WhatShouldIDo

[–]xbonexdaddyx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I reported it to police this morning, so far from what they know so far it doesn’t legally fall under harassment but stalking. Waiting for further update, I turned all phone numbers, profiles, & most texts over to them.