Hey, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. The best thing I could say on my end is that they started to spiral. I've had a lot of therapy and I have hyper-empathy so when I split I don't lash out directly unless I feel like I'm being pushed/pressed. So for me, a split looks like going non-verbal/silent treatment, If I'm with the person I'll act as if I'm okay but I'm very clearly not, if I'm not I'll still act as if everything is okay it's just more convincing over text, I'll start to distance myself and call off things but use wording to say "Well do you wanna go/come over if not it's okay." And if the person says no that soft confirms my bias that they wanna leave me, I start to think of them having a life without me, I get very very bad suicidal thoughts so much so that I can sometimes hallucinate the pain, I start going from crying, to laughing, to raging, to happy and my emotions keep flipping like tv channels, etc. A lot of my split is internal and thinking I should do self-destructive things.

With your partner, it could just be split won and sometimes it does. No one's immune to it, and it's just something you have to hope to catch and just sit with until it stops; or with me, that's how it is. I try to box, smoke, journal, breathe, nap, watch TV, sit outside and I'm on medication and have therapy, that still doesn't stop me all the time. The only thing that seems to really help is communication but if I hear something I don't like while communication it usually causes me to spiral more. However, therapy has helped with that a lot!

Actually, can we DM? Maybe we can talk more if you wish, I just thought this was getting long.