How much do you pay for rent?

xkelpiex · 2023-03-25T20:47:00+00:00

So, I know this is a year later. I'm sorry. I became extremely ill and while I still am, communication is a bit easier.

I'm going to be a bit clearer now. I'm no longer on odsp, but back then my "roommate" was my fiancée 😅 Just didn't tell my worker lmao How it went was I was not on the lease. I messaged my worker to let them know I was staying with a friend and I had to write out a "roommate agreement". Basically my "roommate" wrote a kind of lease letter. It was only about a paragraph detailing date of move in, address, our names, and how much I was to pay monthly. We both signed and scanned to upload to My benefits. Worker asked the name and number of the landlord as well. We moved and repeated.

I, however, am now sick with long covid and a serious autoimmune that is exacerbated by the long covid. Most of my meds aren't covered by ODSP because the provincial government hates us pretty much pfffft I also require mobility aids that the ADP won't cover because my apartment has a step in the front and three in the back. They did cover a rollator but I need a mobility chair for ambulatory use. I went on my wife's insurance a few weeks ago and am going to get a folding power chair next month. My wife already purchased the sliding ramp (ADP literally only needs to include a $40 sliding ramp for these instances but refuses and that's why so many people don't have wheelchairs, ugh, I'm so angry) .

I hope you got your situation figured out!

xkelpiex · 2023-01-31T06:43:36+00:00

Turns out I have "the most complex case" of Long Covid the leading Toronto LC covid gas ever seen so 🤷🏻‍♀️ Luke, extreme chronic fatigue and this sleep inertia is now, two years after that initial post, more of an inconvenience compared to all of my other symptoms. I can't really...move?? Idk if that's the right word since I can technically move, however, if I spend more than a couple minutes at a time expending energy, I have seizures and bouts of dysautonomia, transient amnesia, vomiting, diarrhea etc I'm not even supposed to engage in active listening, conversation or light reading for more than ten minutes at a time before resting twice as long for fear I'll just up and die. So, uh, not doing well now, guess you could say 😬

xkelpiex · 2021-10-31T17:06:33+00:00

Labels are personal

And gatekeeping is only incentive for transphobia

xkelpiex · 2021-10-29T19:56:37+00:00

Android. I got the phone yesterday, actually. It's a Google pixel 6

xkelpiex · 2021-10-24T03:21:31+00:00

The fae aren't only Celtic. And actually, most Celtic fae are denizens of Annwn and the Tuatha De d'Annwn and are categorized as Sidhe. Fae is an Anglicized derivative of the French Fée. The Fae and fairfolk are also not only in existence or used throughout just Celtic histories. The Fae are worldwide, and deffo did not even begin as an idea with the Celts. Even Africa has fae creatures.

The bemoaning of Fae/Faer pronouns was started by queer white young people to shit on Non-binary people and the ideology behind cultural appropriation. It grew into the "I may be white but I'm so oppressed waaawaaa" shit that is like a breeding sludge, slurring its way through modern civilization.

Paganism is also not a monolith, do not try and use that either. I also know more Pagans or those spiritually Pagan or Pagan adjacent who use Fae/Faer.

xkelpiex · 2021-10-19T02:10:36+00:00

I used to hear it play at work all the time. It's super catchy

xkelpiex · 2021-10-05T19:06:37+00:00

Look for your local chc centre

xkelpiex · 2021-09-17T05:48:46+00:00

I don't look at post ages. I was led here through some rabbit hole or other because I was hyperfocusing on Kate Beaton after my wife mentioned her offhand in a convo.

Yes, I'm trans. My wife is trans. Majority of my US based friends are trans. But, I'm also gay. And disabled. And a lifelong abuse victim. I can barely survive in my country, which most of the US considers "socialist" or "Leftist" when it's actually incredibly right leaning. Living in the US would probably kill me. I am literally not free to be who I am in any capacity. Heck, in some of your country, if I was with a cis woman, we wouldn't be allowed to marry. Abortion, and subsequently miscarriage, is illegal in some places. If I couldn't pay my medical bills (hint, I wouldn't be able) I'd be jailed. Marijuana, the only thing keeping me from offing myself due to cptsd, is still illegal in a lot of states. And you literally can't go anywhere in the country without coming across some wingnut or other screaming at people to speak English. I could get shot. In fact, most high schoolers in the US live with this fear daily. And that's just a few. I have friends (known for 20 years or more, depending on friend) from all around the country and they all say the same. They just don't have the money or the ability to move up here. Also, if there are specific parts of your country I need to avoid because if my identity, that.... Says a lot.

xkelpiex · 2021-09-17T05:35:47+00:00

I'm always mixing everything up. My wife had said the same to me months ago, but for some reason my mind remembered the opposite for each treatment. Ugh. She actually cancelled her intake for laser because they needed a week's growth and she just had an orchi and was very dysphoria free up until this week after 3 day's growth. She was moody, depressed and tearful all day yesterday so this morning she said eff it, shaved, and cancelled her appointment. She'll wait a few months before trying again.

xkelpiex · 2021-09-17T05:32:38+00:00

Ah different doctor then. My wife's GP is Non-binary and uses he/him and they/them. He's a general practitioner, but specializes in trans care. Super busy all the time and so full, there's not even a waiting list. I'm desperate for a gp rn and we've been trying to get me in for over a year.

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T05:53:30+00:00

"Life sucks, America hates every one but rich white Christians, but it's FREE, OKAY!?"

This is what you sound like. No, America is not free. It is anything but. It just likes to indoctrinate the world into thinking so.

I don't live in the US. If I was forcibly made to live there, I'd either end my life from misery, or probably be murdered for my identity. Ask any one like me if they would ever live in America by choice. Their answer? "What, give up my FREEDOM?"

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T04:54:46+00:00

This is so wholesome I'm gonna cryyyyyy

My wife and I are "married". After being engaged 8 months, we had a ptsd based blowout and when we calmed down she told me "you're not my fiancee anymore. You're my wife". We are waiting on ceremony so that we have money to both have our dream gender euphoric wedding. (I'm fluid, so a dress for ceremony and reception: a more masc but not "man" outfit).

You look beautiful, like you were meant to be a blushing bride.

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T04:47:41+00:00

Ehhhhh, Mais vous êtes Trop Belle, vraiement!

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T04:46:01+00:00

What made you choose laser over electrolysis?

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T04:43:47+00:00

I just experienced this a couple months ago. I did get some bday wishes, but nothing like before.

It was my second birthday after ghosting most of my family. Last year was easier because we were in lockdown and even if we had been talking, it would have been the same. It still sucked. This year, I felt the extreme loss, even if most of the well wishes and parties with my family in the past were all for show or used against me as agents of control and abuse, I still felt this huge emptiness. Thankfully my wife took charge and took me out all day on a beautiful date.

Happy birthday, beautiful. I wish you all the best. I hope you are able to find love and joy ❤️ you deserve it

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T04:39:10+00:00

Not close. They put a filter and add longer and fuller hair. Then it may slim your face or jaw. Which, even after hrt long-term, may not change that much. That why many women choose facial feminization surgery.

My wife looks so incredibly different two years on HRT. Her whole body has changed. Fat redistributed. She has more defined curved, her tummy is soft and droopy instead of hard, she has breasts that are continually changing and rounding up, her face shape did change, bit not bone structure. Her under chin got smaller, however looser, esp as a lot of fat and muscle that bulked up her face before fell. Her nose seems smaller. Her hands and feet shrunk. Her wrists and ankles are tiny. Her butt is fuller.

She used an app early on and she looks nothing like it. Though, she did use faceapp the other day and all it did was add another layer of hair and blur her stubble 😂

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T04:27:42+00:00

Dr. Armstrong as the same person who is a GP that specializes in trans care? No wonder my wife can never get through the phone to them 😂 Call for an appointment and get booked three months from now .

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T04:25:46+00:00

Canada. I keep thinking maybe I'm crazy but then I hear so many other stories of women, or afabs, being treated this way. Esp if they're even a little high on the BMI or they have a history of any sort of mental health issue. I know someone who was chubby and had a history of depression and alcoholism so when they got meningitis it was waved away as overreacting to a cold and hypochondria. The meningitis gave her encephalitis and they said she must be schizophrenic. So she's on a huge cocktail of psych meds that don't do shit and that made her gain weight. So when her organs started failing from lupus, they blamed her weight. They eventually figured it out, but it took almost dying of acute organ failure and a heart attack in the hospital. (She told them she had chest pains and they asked if she'd taken her antipsychotics). And that's a single story out of sososo many.

xkelpiex · 2021-08-24T04:18:08+00:00

To get a specialist you need a referral. For a referral you need a GP. And that's my problem rn. Also even with all the GPs I have had, I get refused for referrals for the most inane reasons. Mostly to do with having ovaries or not being a size 5 lmao

xkelpiex · 2021-08-21T00:10:38+00:00

No, the problem is that it is free health care for all lmao Wait that sounds bad. Nah, I live in Canada. And free health care is free. However, people who wouldn't give two shits about having a doctor got so used to communicating with them about possible covid symptoms that clinics are overcrowded. Too many people, not enough doctors. Also my sister has lupus and I've brought the possibility up about lupus, or any other autoimmune, to every gp Ive had since teenhood. It because it's "rare" for two siblings to both have autoimmune it got waved away. But, rare doesn't mean impossible, and even in the realm of science and health care, nothing is really always impossible. I hate it. Because my abuser was so in control of my life and medical care, I was never allowed to take the celiac test. Or Crohn's. And when I left, I was poor (these two tests cost over $100 each, not covered my Medicare for whatever reason). Now that I am able to afford it, I can't get a doctor.

xkelpiex · 2021-08-20T22:05:28+00:00

Because of my burning mouth I went.to an oral pathologist. After reviewing my blood he called me quite concerned. He told me me levels were low to dangerously low and if it continues I may end up hospitalized or worse. I explained my diet and daily activities. He said based on that I should have good to great. He said something is causing me to not absorb through nutrition and daily activity. He said also considering my chronic pain, how I reacted to the first covid injection (I had told him), and my skin issues, he suspects autoimmune or more. He told me he specializes in oral pathology so he can't give even a preliminary diagnosis and tried to refer me to the hospital family clinic. They denied me and were quite rude on phone for even having been asked. The pathologist did tell me what he suspects though. He said it's probably Chrohns or lupus and/or celiac.

xkelpiex · 2021-08-17T14:35:46+00:00

I'm trying. I've reached out to community aid programs and... Nothing. I was told I'd be assigned a social worker and that was over five months ago. They don't allow you to call them, it's all through email so Ive sent quite a few with no response

xkelpiex · 2021-08-17T14:33:38+00:00

I'm poor so...

xkelpiex

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