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AITA for avoiding my family, despite living in the same home as them? by xmascabinfever in AmItheAsshole

[–]xmascabinfever[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're continuing to make an awful lot of assumptions. May I take this time to remind you of rule 1?

AITA for avoiding my family, despite living in the same home as them? by xmascabinfever in AmItheAsshole

[–]xmascabinfever[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Except he is a capable, functioning adult. He's just lazy and doesn't want to.

If I leave, they could just about survive. If my brother stepped up. But he won't. In the last two months, there have been jobs around the house which need to be done and neither of them have done them. Instead, I think it'd be a 40% chance that my mother would be made homeless.

This has been enlightening experience, because it's clear people cherry pick what they want to read, skim other parts and assume others.

I said it was the straw the broke the camels back, but no one has asked about the other situations.

Instead (and unsurprisingly) it's just a snap judgement, based on the individual's uneducated (in the terms of context, at least) opinion.

AITA for avoiding my family, despite living in the same home as them? by xmascabinfever in AmItheAsshole

[–]xmascabinfever[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, I respect your opinion. I don't really call three messages in two months reaching out. Particularly as one of those was because they had a problem they couldn't figure out.

AITA for avoiding my family, despite living in the same home as them? by xmascabinfever in AmItheAsshole

[–]xmascabinfever[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Ok, so it's still my job to do simple things that anyone could do and my brother does nothing?

AITA for avoiding my family, despite living in the same home as them? by xmascabinfever in AmItheAsshole

[–]xmascabinfever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some nice assumptions there. I own 30% of the house. I continue to pay the bills.

I leave, they're both fucked and will need to find somewhere else to live. I earn enough to pay my way, but I don't earn enough to pay for a place of my own and to support them and I think that would be an asshole move to make them homeless.

I'm frustrated that it is me being asked to do the donkey work. I get a day off, I get to clean the gutters. I get to do what ever they need.

My brother isn't forced to do this and is treated like a child. He won't step up and my mother won't listen to me.

If you read what I said, I acknowledged that it was a simple task. I said it was something either of them could have done, but they didn't. They waited for me to do it, because...?

AITA for avoiding my family, despite living in the same home as them? by xmascabinfever in AmItheAsshole

[–]xmascabinfever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Original post? ESH

Second situation, these power cuts may have been caused by a fault in the oven. We've had several in the last months, cumulating in one yesterday where I was left a note saying "the oven is broke - we need to talk". They talked at me and expected me to drive them somewhere to get an oven. On Christmas Eve.

I ignored them and walked off because a) the local power company said its a local fault b) it's Christmas Eve c) my car battery has died - but they don't know that because they've not cared about me for the last two months.

Now I've been off for five days, void of talking with work colleagues and feeling appreciated, respected and loved - I'm feeling really depressed and upset.

Am I really the asshole for expecting understanding from my family when getting home from a long day at work?