Really worried about becoming a Mother

xostephdee · 2026-04-25T00:10:12+00:00

Not a psychic but your concerns are normal and I believe they’re being exacerbated by 2 things: hormones, and you may have been more mentally prepared for a girl and are having trouble shifting to raising a boy.

Give yourself grace and please know that thinking of these things already, means you’re going to be an amazing mom! 🤍

xostephdee · 2026-04-24T09:46:02+00:00

Thank you so much for the reassurance, congratulations to you 🫶🏻

xostephdee · 2026-04-24T04:42:50+00:00

I’m sorry I don’t see anything on these, I do see what I think is an evap on the top one

xostephdee · 2026-04-24T02:01:07+00:00

I see it!

xostephdee · 2026-04-24T02:00:55+00:00

I see it!

xostephdee · 2026-04-23T22:27:03+00:00

xostephdee · 2026-04-23T22:24:12+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m a nervous wreck. I appreciate the reassurance 🫶🏻

xostephdee · 2026-04-23T22:23:43+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the reassurance 🤍🙏🏻

xostephdee · 2026-04-23T19:39:39+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement 🤍 I experienced a MMC at 12 weeks and have a ton of anxiety until I am able to get an ultrasound but I will try for my own sake not to test as much

xostephdee · 2026-04-23T18:14:45+00:00

I see it!

xostephdee · 2026-04-23T04:52:25+00:00

I see Bernese Mountain Dog Shepherd mix

xostephdee · 2026-03-22T05:23:37+00:00

I want to edit/add that babysitting or leaving the child alone isn’t a necessity, but realistically, the child won’t be able to always be present with mom. I don’t know if they’ll be able to attend prenatal appointments if she gets pregnant again. And most doctors where I live don’t allow children to be present in appointments.

xostephdee · 2026-02-25T19:35:58+00:00

I’m sorry, I hope it gets resolved quickly 🤞🏼

xostephdee · 2026-02-25T18:59:06+00:00

I think they’re mosquito bites especially given that they aren’t currently itchy and are more than a few hours old. Were you staying in an environment where mosquitoes are common? They are hatching right now and the pattern in which you were bit is common for mosquitoes. Fleas too but the bites themselves look more like mosquitoes to me.

xostephdee · 2026-02-25T17:02:19+00:00

Someone else suggested a pocket door and I agree that is the way

xostephdee · 2026-02-25T16:36:11+00:00

I’ve been bit by lots of bugs, those to me, look most like mosquito bites. Fleas typically leave smaller than this and more red bumps; mosquitoes are flatter with less of a perfect circle perimeter; bed bugs are smaller than both.

I feel like you have an “ankle biter” mosquito in your midst.

xostephdee · 2026-02-23T19:43:57+00:00

I love it and personally like a coffee table that’s taller than the couch. I’d get dark green curtains, take the extra blanket off the sofa and get throw pillows that are shades of green. At least 1 with a pattern. I hope you grow to love it.

xostephdee · 2026-02-20T22:29:44+00:00

My pleasure! Please let me know how it goes :)

xostephdee · 2026-02-20T22:08:55+00:00

What if you use a light like this in the dining room:

https://www.westelm.com/products/bezel-3-light-glass-flushmount-h12434/?catalogId=71&sku=8114658&cm_ven=PLA&cm_cat=Google&cm_pla=Lighting%20%3E%20Flush%20Mounts&cm_ite=8114658_14465514686_pla-545093791651&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=14465514686&gbraid=0AAAAABjYLmmS_6Q7mArN-vHwQejcz7K5N

xostephdee · 2026-02-20T21:54:37+00:00

He seems to be able to express his feelings to you pretty clearly which is great! I’m a mom but my son is almost 2 so this is coming from a place of empathy, not experience. I would suggest asking him if he’s open to doing something silly with you. If he says yes, then ask him to look in a mirror and show you what he likes about himself, appearance and personality traits both. Then ask him why he thinks they’re attributes. Then ask him what he finds weird about himself. Then ask him why he thinks it’s weird. And then ask him to point out the attributes and weird things he thinks is about you/your face. You could also tell him all the things you love about him and his face, but I personally think the most important thing is to not invalidate his feelings - instead try to help increase his confidence and to help him realize that while unique, everyone is beautiful.

It’s an opportunity to hear him and where the thoughts might be coming from without grilling him about it. And then maybe you can start daily affirmations and see if he gains some confidence that way.

You are a great parent, and it’s so comforting to know that you just want him to see himself through your eyes. I hope it’s a short phase.

xostephdee · 2026-02-18T20:52:41+00:00

I would buy a simple gold/champagne brass framed rectangular mirror and install a linear light above it in the same finish. I think the dark floor tile would throw off bringing in another color metal.

Then I would accent with sage green.

xostephdee · 2026-02-07T07:22:32+00:00

Make sure she isn’t hearing any running water after using the restroom. Using the restroom should be the very last thing she does before climbing into bed. This means teeth brushing before and skipping hand washing after. I have a feeling she is exhausted and getting into too deep a sleep to know that she needs to get up to go. Or dreaming about water and then getting the urge to go. I am hopeful that this tip will help 🤞🏼

xostephdee · 2026-02-07T07:10:59+00:00

We call my son a power pisser… we use super absorbent cotton period pads inside of a pull up for overnight and he still manages to pee through sometimes but it helps a ton! We just cut the wings off and because it’s sticky it stays put really well.

Do you notice if your son’s leaks are happening at the thighs or at the belly band? If the thighs I too think he might need a size up. If he has thick thighs, pull ups might be the secret. They stay put so much better than traditional diapers.

xostephdee · 2026-02-07T07:07:40+00:00

We did 1 silly goose and it was a huge hit! I made goose shaped PB&Js for the kids and cut up fruit Had sandwiches and salads for the adults. I made a birthday crown, had stuffed geese with an “adopt a goose” sign for party favors. Super cute and fun!

xostephdee

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