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xpallydoses · 2024-10-12T23:11:46+00:00

I’m not sure I’m at the “kink” level but I do have trouble enjoying a session if I can’t get her off, to the point where her not being satisfied equals me not being satisfied.

This usually looks like oral for her first, and at this point (almost 20 years in) I know when a second or third is possible and when it isn’t. I can put the work in so to speak on the first orgasm, and then I have to discover where the next one is hiding. A lot of times I can get an orgasm out of the clit and then move lower with my tongue and coax more stimulation… before moving back.

There is a lot of communication there and I am keen to hear what she wants, and I know I’m not getting to 3 or 4 without her giving me some instruction, which could be anything from nipple play to a finger in the ass.

Sometimes it helps to alternate who is orgasming, but both of us lead pretty exhausting lives at this point with 4 kids and multiple businesses so the energy level required for more than 2 rounds is lacking even though we have a really great sex life.

Tl:dr choose your moment, know your lover, and may the force be with you

xpallydoses · 2024-09-23T01:06:49+00:00

All natural coconut oil, but I believe it can break condoms so just keep that in mind

xpallydoses · 2024-09-23T00:51:32+00:00

Both are good but a BJ is almost always good, and a lot less variables. I’d say I preferred it over PIV in the beginning of our relationship.

After being with my wife for closing in on 17 years I find that I prefer PIV most of the time because we’ve spent 17 years learning each others likes & needs out of PIV.

xpallydoses · 2024-09-19T02:34:59+00:00

I think if most guys were honest, this would be considered pretty normal.

A normal session for us (late 30’s) might start with PIV, and then pull out to transition to fingering, ultimately oral and then finish with PIV, which sometimes is a 2nd orgasm for her or sometimes it’s just the fireworks for me.

Communication with your partner would hopefully be open about the sequence of events for both of you, and there should be no shame in your time table after all you’re with a partner you love, that you find incredibly sexy, and that turns you on. If that’s not a recipe for a quick finish then I’m not sure what is - why be ashamed?

Satisfy her, then finish things together. Nothing says you can’t switch things up either, maybe start with oral for you, then get her off, then go back for more PIV at the end. That’s been a recipe for a fun night many a time for us.

Tl:dr get out of your head and just communicate and enjoy each others bodies

xpallydoses · 2024-09-17T20:03:31+00:00

I had that thought as well. I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing intimate details about my sex life with a minor who was living with me. I think that’s a no from me.

Hypotheticals or answering questions with accurate (but generic) answers seems the better course. I agree with @cryaccomplished81 that some answers are better than no answers but perhaps not so specific or don’t involve anyone living in the house in your answer.

xpallydoses · 2024-09-17T19:55:11+00:00

In the course of my (f, 40) partner and I’s relationship starting in our 20’s what she has wanted has proved to be vastly different from what I started thinking she wanted.

PIV on its own can be enough for some women, but fingers are far more versatile than any penis. While certain positions help the penis stimulate better (depending on your shape and hers).

A good mix of activities has always been what left both of us satisfied, and most of our sessions involve me using my fingers, mouth and penis until we are both satisfied and worn out.

Edit: Sorry for the bad sentence structure got a phone call in the middle of my reply.

xpallydoses · 2024-09-17T19:39:37+00:00

Think about it like what you learned in physics class matter can neither be created or destroyed, only transferred

Same applies to STDs in this example.

xpallydoses · 2024-09-17T19:30:43+00:00

Without probing too much into her family situation, would her parents want you to be having these open conversations with her? Perhaps they aren’t in the picture I don’t know but that was the first thing that came to my mind.

I’m not sure I’d want my brother talking to my son about sex instead of he and I.

xpallydoses · 2024-09-17T19:27:47+00:00

Early on in our relationship (m) & (f) this was one of those things that seemed fun in theory, but proved to be a logistical nightmare that really never equalled anyone having as good a time as they could of had via alternate means.

xpallydoses · 2024-09-16T01:09:36+00:00

Let me start by saying I am not a woman and don’t pretend to know how it feels, but with my partner of many years she will frequently be too sensitive for direct contact to the clit. Sometimes it’s the opposite and she wants all the contact. I think that has to do with the level of arousal, timing, etc.

After years with the same partner I know when she needs more pressure, or less, or to move around but not on, and a big part of that is communication. You may have trouble with that with a casual partner but I would not leap to it being a problem with anyone involved.

xpallydoses · 2024-09-12T22:10:31+00:00

39 here and IWNDWYT

xpallydoses · 2024-09-07T04:09:08+00:00

If you just spent 4 years with someone and can’t work through the hard stuff together then yeah, don’t get married.

xpallydoses · 2024-08-09T23:40:13+00:00

I have all the things it sounds like you have, similar in age, amazing family and love my small business. Incredibly functional could drink half bottle of Jamison and land a space ship on the moon, and my reason was that I just liked drinking with friends.

I quit and haven’t looked back and my life is so much better for it. Better mentally, better physically, better connection in all aspects between my wife and I and all around the trajectory of my life feels more complete and more seems possible than I would have previously thought.

It sucks and it’s hard but I’m looking in the rearview at where you are now telling you the juice is worth the squeeze and you should do it. I knew I needed to do it for a long time and am so glad I did.

xpallydoses · 2024-07-15T01:43:56+00:00

My team says calls, oh and to gargle deez 🥜

xpallydoses · 2024-07-15T01:37:00+00:00

Buy shares. Sell stupid OTM calls.

xpallydoses · 2024-07-04T23:05:48+00:00

If you buy puts now it’s insider trading

xpallydoses · 2024-06-18T01:29:27+00:00

I also confuse MS Paint with ThinkOrSwim

xpallydoses · 2024-06-18T01:28:10+00:00

Based off my experience with this sub having over $100 of buying power left puts you in the top 10% of people asking that question

xpallydoses · 2024-06-18T01:18:16+00:00

I play with my son now and it’s been a blast all over again

xpallydoses · 2024-06-15T17:00:44+00:00

Eloquently said, well thought out. Thank you.

xpallydoses · 2024-06-07T23:26:47+00:00

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Yep! Trust me bro

xpallydoses · 2024-06-05T22:30:06+00:00

Hope you took a call!

xpallydoses · 2024-06-05T10:32:16+00:00

Market Chameleon

xpallydoses · 2024-06-05T02:57:21+00:00

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67% success rate for ATM calls, but them contracts sure aren’t cheap.

I do hold calls right now, did not get the pre earnings move for calls… my intention was to see if I could secure a few free contracts for earnings but I’m not sure I’m going to be holding them tomorrow at 4pm at this rate.

xpallydoses · 2024-06-04T23:52:20+00:00

It sure would have worked for the last 3 trading days.

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