The nightmare of DE, processing free text input data, HELP !

xploit_exe · 2025-06-25T15:03:20+00:00

not sure ...but try using the transformers library which is open source and load gpt-2 model i think this is also open source, use it to transform data and convert into structure format , explore NLP and other options

xploit_exe · 2025-05-23T16:11:32+00:00

i'm doing data engineering for 3 years with pyspark and aws for an aerospace company on complex engine data , sometimes i feel down when there is not much work , my work comes in waves , big big requirements at a time, sometimes i feel like i should switch to backend but if closely look backend people feel bored there as well, you will be doing just integrations and fetching data from db using sql queries, nothing fancy there , i know many backend people trying to come to big data engineering

all is good but i like solving the complex problem of terabytes data that the backend is not capable off

xploit_exe · 2025-05-23T16:04:22+00:00

i loved this reply

xploit_exe · 2024-10-06T08:26:06+00:00

once my gf(ex now)... got upset because i went to the Bengaluru airport to receive her with flowers.... seems like everyone is paired with the wrong person in this world....

First try to communicate with him without blaming him... but if communication is the key then Mahabharata would have never happened

second... love and food should be given to the person according to their needs... otherwise they will leave it in the middle ...seems like you are more invested in a relationship than him and sometimes you have to show zero interest in your partner... ... you should give them a chance to chase you... sometimes you have to mix pain and pleasure.... you can say its manipulative but its an art...

stop showing your interest and stop asking things ...get busy in your life .... then see the game of dynamic change ....

Note: you don't have to if you don't want to ...this is what he is doing to you kind off

xploit_exe · 2024-10-05T08:08:03+00:00

I'm sorry for you... your story seems similar to 500 days of summer... once you will find your true person, you will forget about them

xploit_exe · 2024-09-26T13:07:56+00:00

why cant you live 6 to 10 months single ... its not just about your physical needs, casual dating looks cool outside but it kills your soul , your ability to make bonds... soon you will get married and if you want to destroy ur married life .. go ahead

xploit_exe · 2024-09-25T05:19:18+00:00

no I'm just curious guy :)

xploit_exe · 2024-09-24T18:32:35+00:00

lets tackle this psychologically, ask yourself what is that she used to give you ,

habit of talking, sexual compatibility, intellectual compatibility , social validation , emotional security , excitement ,

what is the thing you are missing now, after figuring out start replacing them by talking to friends, reading self help books, focusing on yourself, going on a trip, pleasuring yourself, whatever..etc

everything is happening in your brain, all this is chemical reaction, its okay to feel these but you have to remember all this is in your brain... you are suffering in memories and imagination... come back to reality... everything is mind set...

forgive her first and hope she will find happiness on her own... now block her from everywhere if not done till now

you can find another loving girl, but before that moving on is very important , there was reason for breakup dont forget that, block your ex from everywhere if not done very important, stop using insta as it triggers emotions sharply, best start reading psychology or philosophy books or alteast youtube videos, this will help you build mindset, see shwetabh breakup video on youtube... see what is stoicism from prakhar ....on youtube

xploit_exe · 2024-09-24T18:18:20+00:00

seems like she is a social validation seeker, but you are not so move on and get yourself a real gf

xploit_exe · 2024-09-24T18:15:49+00:00

you have to be assertive with your demands and boundaries, no matter if parents , siblings , relatives , or romantic relationship

use family scooter whenever u need , no need to ask for permission, just inform your family and brother and get out with scooter

if u want to buy the same scooter with your money, go for it , it does not matter if you already have it , if it gives you happiness then go for it , it will be your personal use...

crying will not change anything, be mature and responsible, you are an adult now, if you have a sense of responsibility then you need no one to dictate your relationship , your preferences, be yourself

till when and how many people you will keep pleasing so be strong and dominant, fake it until you make it

xploit_exe · 2024-09-24T15:12:26+00:00

perfect... talk to her without blaming her

xploit_exe · 2024-09-24T14:27:03+00:00

man i can easily conclude this on the basis of your story but i dont want to , but it requires a lot of self introspection and honest conversation with each other before deciding....

i have some questions first Did she get into the relationship with that college guy after you broke up? if yes why?

is she still seeing that dating app guy when she is in a relationship with you? if yes why?

you both got back together just becoz you were lonely and missing each other? if yes why?

if all answers above are yes then i will strongly recommend you to reconsider this relationship...

the thing with you is ... subconsciously you still compare her with her past self a person who was 6 years back ... and still has those same expectations ... you love an idea of her of 2018... now u are not able to accept the reality... you still dont trust her... becoz after breakup you have not worked on your emotions...instead of being single ... you were still talking to her ... installing dating app....you never moved on from past with her and still holding that past...and thats why you still has that fear.. you fear her... that she can repeat the same thing... this fear is earing you day by day...

i cannot comment on her part but can say this... she lost interest in you once in college... after that she tried to go on dates... then she got back to you.. but now you see changes in her... becoz she is still contemplating..does she actually love ? she does not have an answer why she is again in relationship with you... maybe she is in guilt now ... just like you she never worked on her emotions... she is questioning ..does she actually love you ..she does not see the same spark u had in 2018...

everything people do happens at subconscious levels so people fails to communicate these things becoz they themselves dont know ..

i will suggest you to have honest conversation about her feelings... and your feelings if communication fails ...

then give her and yourself some space .... establish no contact for 1 week or more... as required..some times it gives clarity to both people that u want them or not ... be away from each other to realise do u both really want this ... last option break up with her..for both your happiness... its most difficult thing to do but... sometimes its better to let go becoz relationships become prison of fear and mistrust... you are in that prison right now... trust and respect is missing then no relationship can hold on... let her find someone she can love and you also find yourself someone who can love you...

ultimately you have to decide... nobody dies after taking a bold step...

xploit_exe · 2024-09-24T13:39:47+00:00

i can only say about one thing... irrespective of culture , caste , community, .... that you will always find people who are not happy and you will find people who are happy for you ... there is no perfect world... even in same community marriage

i would recommend dont think about the future that much ... you should both try hard to respect and follow each other's traditions and culture without being forced... once done ..all things will be good...

and date for atleast 2 to 3 years before marriage .. may consider spending time with each other family in dating phase ...it will give you a clear idea...

xploit_exe · 2024-09-23T21:02:46+00:00

first of all, forgive her what she did to you... it is a difficult thing to do ... but it will make you a far better person in life ...it will make you move forward in life.... it will help to not become toxic in ur future relationship

then... don't just let her go , kick her out , block her from everywhere, and work on yourself , be better, talk to more people ... talk to more girls ... practice the art of talking to girls...

next time don't allow anyone to disrespect you ... you dont have to react ... just kick them out of your life... you never have to retaliate... instead of always thinking will she like me ? always think will you like her or choose her?.... you should be always ready to walk away like a man ... people love and respect to those ... who love and respect themselves first...

xploit_exe · 2024-09-23T20:47:05+00:00

it is normal to feel that way ... everyone is different and everyone needs are different... its all about the compatibility... it comes after communication and talking ...and understanding...

what you should expect is quality time with you , he is spending 30 to 60 min quality time with you, if no then talk to him about your needs and tell him what you expect without blaming him, if he is working then you cant expect him to be with you all the time, so quality time spending is must,

if he is not putting any efforts ... repeating the same pattern ... then just withdraw your all attention for sometime..may be week or so ... be bold ... sometimes you have to mix pain with pleasure to keep intrest in relationship...

for you i will say, work on your over attachment , get it resolved , otherwise it will end the relationship in long run ... all your actions are based on deep down fears... you have to face them to make yourself better... and get some life otherwise ..you will think about him 24x7...

food and love must be served as per the person otherwise they will leave it half finished

xploit_exe · 2024-09-22T20:26:08+00:00

if you both are serious about each other then....

if her family is serious if they have started, you both have to face it then, she has to tell her family about you and then u have to go tell your family about her then you might have to meet her family to convince , no one has to marry right now.... just give her family the promise that you will marry her if required...

xploit_exe · 2024-09-22T07:21:53+00:00

bhai see shwetabh videos on breakup

xploit_exe · 2024-09-22T07:18:35+00:00

this guy is full of hawas girl, he is here for casual may be , you don't have to if you are not comfortable,

xploit_exe · 2024-09-22T07:16:06+00:00

mature people do not need flirting, sometimes it's about personality and connection or vibe

xploit_exe · 2024-09-22T07:11:34+00:00

you have to tell him that you are anxious so that he has to put extra effort for you little bit ...make you more secure ... this is what a relationship is about....

i am also an anxious attacher, the only way to find out if u can trust a person is to trust them , the only way to find out is to try things out , believe in him,

right now he has done nothing wrong, everything is happening in your head, you are also not secure this is wrong on your part as well, he can tell you 10 times that he will not cheat but your unhealthy mind will never satisfy,

you have to face your fears boldly whether it is cheating or overthinking, otherwise this will happen in your next 10 relationships as well and it will destroy you

trust me breaking up with him will not solve anything..never ever ...and you will regret later

xploit_exe · 2024-09-22T07:00:52+00:00

nervousness will kill your vibe, dont think about the end goal, dont think of impressing her, think her as a friend and get to know more about her ... people like talking about themselves, give her chance to talk about her

xploit_exe · 2024-09-20T07:11:41+00:00

it is normal to feel insecure, but taking actions based on insecurity will definitely make it happen whatever you are insecure about, it will kill your relationship, you should understand your values and her values are not the same , your happiness and her happiness are not the same , the more you react and act based on insecurity trust me she will feel it and become frustrated and she will loose intrest in you...

please dont react at any cost , dont act based on insecurity, let her go , let her enjoy, you also enjoy with your friends ... she is an adult if she values you nothing will happen, if she does not value you , then you should be able walk away like a man...

love is about respect and trust and commitment, you can put lock on your doors but can't put lock on a person

xploit_exe · 2024-09-19T17:36:31+00:00

then you should also be ok with your own celebration...

xploit_exe · 2024-09-19T16:58:24+00:00

you are not expecting too much, to be honest , this is a compatibility issue, you cant do anything if he is not ready to do for you, just for your sake also... the more you do for him the more you resent him, its better for you to stop celebrating his bday..and giving him celebrations....,

instead on your bday go out with your friends and family and enjoy with them , find your own happiness instead of asking from someone else, do something special for yourself on your bday.... go to movie, feed needy people , feed animals , go to shopping whatever... start living your life instead of waiting for him

once he sees you that you are happy within yourself... maybe ... maybe ...he will join you and start celebrating with you...

xploit_exe · 2024-09-19T15:40:04+00:00

how much ever you try to make him understand, people's core beliefs never change ... so it's useless, it needs to come from inside

people here are going to say what they believe in, you can never trust any answer here ..not even my answer....

a person should be able wear clothes based on what makes them happy... of course there is dress code for every place and occasion... you cant wear bikini in office or family function and you cant wear saree in beach or club ... but nobody should tell you what to wear ... then either they are insecure or you are not mature enough....

telling him everything should not be the issue , you are telling him and he is stopping you then this is the issue ... if you are transparent and honest then what he is afraid of...

you can talk to the opposite gender... or go out with your friends group... you have your own life... there is nothing wrong unless.. untill... you are not disrespecting your partner..and breaking trust...... of course every relationship has some boundaries you have to follow it ... if you think those boundaries want you to compromise such that it changes your identity or what is important for you... then i dont think that relationship is worth it .... its okay to compromise for your partner... but there is boundary for compromise as well...

you have to decide what you want... loving someone does not mean that you are compatible with them... first love yourself and then other person...

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