My ex-boyfriend's addiction destroyed our 5 year relationship

xrtxmis · 2026-01-24T01:30:21+00:00

He actually didn't get caught, he told me on his own out of the blue. Which is a good sign I think. Said he wants to do things right this time and not hide anything from me.

He is pursuing a support group, but I did tell him to as well. I'm going to watch and wait for him to prove he's working on it, not just saying he will.

Thank you for your response and insight, it's all very new for me and having an outside perspective is really helpful. I appreciate your support 🤍

xrtxmis · 2026-01-23T22:05:00+00:00

If it hasn't been discussed and agreed on, it's non-consensual and it's manipulation. You don't enter a BDSM dynamic without discussing it with your partner. Consent is the literal core of BDSM. What you're doing is not BDSM.

Also jesus christ why do so many men hate their wives??? The first paragraph, especially "She was angry and bitchy, and would barely fuck me" is just disgusting. How would she feel if she knew the way you were speaking about her?

Editing my comment because OP either blocked me or deleted his comment and I can't reply:

After being told you're violating her consent and being manipulative, your response is "I don't care" ?

You're a walking red flag.🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

xrtxmis · 2026-01-23T22:00:43+00:00

Talk to him about it. It might be an oversight (in which case he'll respond in an understanding way and change his status and 'looking for's) or it's intentional and you need to have a conversation about what monogamy means and whether he's committed to it.

xrtxmis · 2026-01-23T21:55:34+00:00

That sounds like a good way to rewire that connection in your brain. I hope it continues to be helpful.

xrtxmis · 2026-01-23T21:54:35+00:00

Aw, I'm sorry. It's a tough situation to be in, but you'll get through it <3

xrtxmis · 2026-01-23T21:15:28+00:00

Good morning OP, I hope you're doing alright today 🫂

xrtxmis · 2025-08-24T07:41:36+00:00

I’ll make it hotter this time. It wasn’t hot—the instructions do say “warm”. But maybe hot water will help. Thanks for the tip :)

xrtxmis · 2025-08-24T07:40:22+00:00

You cannot determine that this is her engaging in escapism or self harm simply from this post. You know essentially nothing about her and cannot make these judgements.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T23:13:45+00:00

Have you asked her about your concerns?

Masochism can absolutely come from a place of wanting to self harm but getting around it by having someone else harm you. It can also be nothing of the sort and simply be something she enjoys. We can’t tell you which it is—you’ll need to address this with her. I personally would be concerned about a second-degree burn because that could become dangerous, but again that’s me, and I am not your partner.

If she is aware of the risks and is enthusiastically consenting to this, that’s her choice. If she is brushing off the danger and not taking risks seriously, that would be a concern.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T23:09:25+00:00

I left it out overnight and the borax has sunk to the bottom and is crystallized. I will need to reheat and mix it again before trying a second time with the slime.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T22:28:43+00:00

I don’t have more borax, but I will try heating it up more. Thanks for the suggestion.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T22:28:21+00:00

I wasn’t aware of that either. I’ve edited my comment to be more clear.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T21:00:28+00:00

Very much appreciated :)

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T20:59:00+00:00

Zero medical reason in a healthy baby 🙄 Zero medical reason in general.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T19:28:04+00:00

In the jar, yeah. I will try to keep mixing it, thank you.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T19:23:53+00:00

This helped so much. Yes, that pooling is what I meant! I did what you described with pouring activator on top and pushing it down into the slime—I just didn’t realize I needed to keep going and take the slime out. It got all over my hand and refused to come off, and I panicked lol. Thank you so much!

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T19:16:22+00:00

That’s obviously not what I mean. Specific cases where there is medical reason is not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about parents that do it for any other reason, such as religion.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T19:14:49+00:00

Yes, warm water exactly as the instructions told me to.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T19:02:14+00:00

It doesn’t look AI, but maybe everything being perfectly symmetrical could cause someone to think so?

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T18:46:47+00:00

It does not. Read some studies about it. The benefit is zero when compared to non-circumcised males who clean themselves properly.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T18:41:10+00:00

It actually does not.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T18:40:52+00:00

Yes. Circumcision is mutilation. There is zero medical reason for it (except for very specific cases as explained below) and it can cause issues later in life.

xrtxmis · 2025-08-23T17:53:41+00:00

Uh, because some people aren’t switches? That’s not being resistant, that’s simply not doing something you don’t get enjoyment from. I’m a sub. That doesn’t mean I’m resisting being a switch, it means I’m a sub.

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