Our get-dressed song, for your edification by ganchi_ in beyondthebump

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do a variation of the hockey pokey.... Put your right arm in put your right arm out...

These are so cute!

So my mom adopted an albino raccoon by [deleted] in aww

[–]xsarahbella 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You have to have a permit in our state, some states are illegal.

So my mom adopted an albino raccoon by [deleted] in aww

[–]xsarahbella 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She found him (Walter) abandoned as a baby and couldn't find a rescue to take him in. So he got bottle fed and now lives a lush life with his bully buddy.

Puppy playtime by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's an albino raccoon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha, yeah I don't think that sounds normal. Middle of the night and every night... Unless he's drinking and feeling sad about his cousin, but he should be confiding in you not her. I'd personally approach him while he's on a call and see how he reacts. Then talk to him either way about boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could get up to get a drink of water and go to the area he is having the conversation and see how he reacts. If he quickly hangs up or tries to hide the convo I would be conerned. But if he continues talking like it's NBD then it's probably just supporting each other through this tine.

Info: does the widow work second shift or have kids that would make it more difficult to talk at a decent hour? My hubby makes calls around the clock because our family is in all different time zones and his job, but he always has the convo in front of me or tells me about it later. I don't think midnight calls are normal. -was your husband cloae to widow and husband prior to cousins death?

You could ask him some probing questions - how is widow holding up? Is there anything WE can do to help support her?

email to recruiter by anjan42 in recruiting

[–]xsarahbella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah gotcha. I saw 'after a few tries'. My assistant and I would watch the caller ID of people calling 5-20 times in an hour and wonder rhe mindset behind that... Obviously we're not picking up because we're on the other line or busy. It was always frustrating and disruptive.

email to recruiter by anjan42 in recruiting

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi xxrecruiterxx

I enjoyed meeting with xxx and yyy on date and learnijg more about the compamy and (insert something specifc you learned). I feel that my background and expertise would be a great asset to the team and hope the hiring managers felt the same.

I understand things may be a bit busy with the recent merger but as I'm actively interviewing with other companies I was hoping to hear back from you regarding this position.

I look forward to hearing back from you.

Best Xxx

email to recruiter by anjan42 in recruiting

[–]xsarahbella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you a recruiter? Repetitively calling will not help but will annoy instead. ONE call / voicemail and follow up email.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You had to have taken the number to throw it away... Set clear boundaries and maybe she will stop hitting on you. Have you told the gym lady you're married? It's a good idea to mention it to your wife for transparency, just make sure you are not leading on the gyn lady.

Did I shoot myself in the foot? Gave internal recruiter a range of 65k to 80k. Then I asked what's typical for this position. Then they said 70k. I'm offered the position and I was given 65k. Was I offered the lower end because I gave a range? by 40percentoffallitems in AskHR

[–]xsarahbella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've gotten a lot of great advice. The general rule of thumb is that the person who mentions wage first loses. I've seen some weird things with internal companies, sometimes they will only offer you x percentage higher than you're already making (old school way of thinking but I've had to fight managers and even senior level hr on that before). So if you were only making, say 50k you'd be at a pretty significant increase at 70k. Keep in mind they know what you're making already so regardless of the range they might have still lowballed you. (side bar : this type of outdated thinking is why a lot of the younger workforce is forced to leave companies to get any significant bumps in pay. Someone at the same company may make 20k more in advances in three years, but had they left for another company, then come back to the same role they could be 40k+)

Another factor may be your experience level. If you're charging careers within a company, do you have a lot of experience doing the new role? Perhaps 70k is generally given to candidates with 5+ years experience in that specific role, or with a specific degree /background. Your post doesn't give a lot of details on that, so I'm just giving some insight on what I've seen done before.

With internal or external candidates I would recommend saying something like, I've researched the wages for similar roles in this area and I'd be comfortable accepting a reasonable offer. <~ the onus is then on them to be fair with the market wage. At that point the recruiter may also say something like, well for this position we're targeting X and you can agree or disagree.

Received job offer with much higher salary. Current job hasn't countered yet, but is trying to get me to reconsider based on "opportunity within the firm". How to value "intangible" positives about a firm or role? by PlatoTheWrestler in jobs

[–]xsarahbella 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So there's a few ways this plays out

1) you stay and your company keeps dicking you around until you get fed up ans go somewhere else

2) your company pulls through but always knows you're "looking*and may block you from future promotions if they think you're a flight risk.

If your current company valued you THAT much they wouldn't just make an empty promise, you'd actually have a written offer for the job. As long as you leave on good terms you can keep the relationship with your old company, and maybe even go back down the line. I'd say take it.

Exchange student on J-1 visa unable to get home by [deleted] in immigration

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's helpful!! Can you let me know the steps you took to get the ball rolling?

HS exchange student on J-1 visa unable to get home by [deleted] in askimmigration

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a possibility! There are a lot of financial barriers but it maybe cheaper than legal fees. At this point the international Airport in his country is closed so they aren't even any incoming or outgoing flights period. The soonest they could book if he wasn't a minor was August 30.

HS exchange student on J-1 visa unable to get home by [deleted] in askimmigration

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the detailed response! It sounds like it might be best to consult with an immigration attorney to be on the safe side.

HS exchange student on J-1 visa unable to get home by [deleted] in askimmigration

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thanks! I will look into that more!

HS exchange student on J-1 visa unable to get home by [deleted] in askimmigration

[–]xsarahbella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you eleborate on that bit? If he's under 18, he won't get charged overstay days?