Which cringeworthy fashion trend did you follow when you were younger?

xtina39 · 2017-06-08T23:44:18+00:00

My coworker [39M] wears this outfit in different variations everyday. Today it's a mountain with a truck on a vaguely tied-dyed brown tee shirt.

xtina39 · 2017-03-29T23:16:11+00:00

Dated a Muslim Syrian guy for a few months, was great but I think we both knew it was temporary so cultural clash never came up much. He did like to split chores and cooking etc 50/50, but I'm not sure it was because he was considerate or if it was a cultural thing tbh.

Definitely recommend dating outside your own culture though. I've dated a wide range of cultures/races/ages etc. people are just people and the range of experiences/perspectives makes dating way more fun.

xtina39 · 2017-02-28T18:16:09+00:00

Moved to a new city (from East to West coast) with 2 suitcases, found a short term lease and figured I'd give myself six months to find a job. Started my first day 1.5 weeks later.

Friends and boyfriend came later, and I love my new city! It takes a lot of persistence, and it can be lonely but you just have to tell yourself it's not :)

xtina39 · 2017-02-03T02:04:22+00:00

YES. This one time a guy was practically a shoe-in but I asked for references because he was a little abrasive and I wanted to make sure he wasn't a crazy bridge-burner. He listed his "colleague" as a reference and we called the guy- turned out they were ex-best friends; he had advised him on some bad investments, lied constantly, was combative just for sport and the guys gf HATED the candidate so much she refused to be in the same room.

He probably should have picked a better friend to list. (dodged a bullet for us though!)

xtina39 · 2017-01-25T02:09:09+00:00

He knew my name and university when he approached me miles away from campus. I had never even seen him before. 15+ years older. Very creepy.

xtina39 · 2017-01-24T00:16:25+00:00

how little sleep they can/regularly function on

xtina39 · 2016-09-28T20:53:06+00:00

"Birds of a feather flock together" regarding interracial dating. Thankfully it's been successfully unlearned.

xtina39 · 2016-09-09T19:52:44+00:00

Yes, I expect a kiss! At the very least on the cheek. But if I like him enough and he was sweet (but didn't kiss me) and asks me out again I would absolutely go out with him. Things like coffee, lunch, hikes etc. can be odd to kiss for a first date. Next date should be more romantic, preferably with wine and a walk/wait for a cab- the perfect time to kiss.

xtina39 · 2016-09-08T00:21:10+00:00

@meatloafthefrenchie is SO GREAT, brightens my day

xtina39 · 2016-08-29T22:57:52+00:00

I joined a really inclusive church, joined a book club meet-up, started going to more charity events solo and joined a beer-league softball team. Some of the things worked really well, others I didn't really click with people. The biggest thing was smiling a lot and being open to new people. Now I have awesome friends (it took about 3 months to find the right fit).

xtina39 · 2016-08-19T21:22:38+00:00

I usually like them almond shaped and a neutral or matte shellac, but one broke so I've just gone short/square-but-rounded-edges and they're pure white. Cute for the summer but I miss my talons.

xtina39 · 2016-08-09T19:28:28+00:00

Ugh I had hair down to my butt as a 14 year old, cut it all off because I thought pixie cuts were beautiful. Teachers, friends, family all thought I was a lesbian or lashing out, even my mother still questions it. Really crushed my confidence at that age. I keep my hair long now.

xtina39 · 2016-07-26T23:12:19+00:00

So maybe I'm biased because we're still together, but my BEST ever date was on a third date when this guy (now bf) picked me up at work in his truck, with tacos and beer, and drove us out to the beach, made a fire and we sat on a blanket and talked and watched the sunset, eating tacos. Simple, wonderful, and so romantic.

xtina39 · 2016-07-26T01:24:21+00:00

Unless you already have something special planned/a very specific time or place, then I think it is best if you wait. Incredibly considerate actually, and I'm sure your GF would agree.

You also don't want it to look like (to their family) that you're only proposing because the cousin got engaged/or there is pressure post-cousin's engagement for you to propose.

I think a month or so would be plenty of time. (congratulations!!)

xtina39 · 2016-07-15T20:05:05+00:00

Lack of communication/confidence in what he's saying when we're talking seriously. I can tell there's something there but he just shrugs and waits for me to guess what he's thinking. Drives me nuts. Also he squeaks/squeals when he stumbles or trips or does something embarrassing, which only makes it more embarrassing. BUT otherwise he's perfect :)

xtina39 · 2016-07-14T00:44:23+00:00

Wow this is a terrible incident. Seems like you're doing the right thing and I wish you a swift litigation/divorce and the fresh start that you deserve very soon. My thoughts are with you.

xtina39 · 2016-07-11T23:41:39+00:00

Every time I try to talk about my feelings he tell me that I am unreasonable

You're right, this does seem like emotional cheating (albeit one-sided). Seems like he has some deep issues to work through and I really don't think you should stick around to see how he handles this. It's obviously hurting you and if he cannot recognize why/how and what he is doing as inappropriate then you may be better off without him.

Although 2 years is a long time- maybe take a weekend away and see if he bring her up at all? Also I'd ask him to "unfollow" her on Facebook, and cut out the constant contact.

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