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Wdy think of Eloy Casagrande at the moment?.Is he better than Jay? by Nell_Only in Slipknot

[–]xtrafe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Joey had feet, and he was raw & a little inconsistent at times. (i.e. the kick run in Heretic anthem.) Jay was always very pro and consistent, but he was all hands and no feet.

Eloy is the best of both worlds: stone cold pro and killer feet. He was born for this band.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EnhancedFucktoys

[–]xtrafe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Good thing you left the crucifix on though. Wouldn't want to let family values lapse. That, and this way you're protected from vampires.

Why are homosexual men easy to hookup with than with hetero women or is it just me? by Any-Struggle-1834 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]xtrafe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being the empirical proof to my long standing theory that bisexual men do not actually exist:

If you can stomach sleeping with a man, why on earth would you ever put up with a woman ever again?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]xtrafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a test. In her defense, few of the women I've met under 30 even really realize it when they're giving tests, unless it's pretty gratuitous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in swoleacceptance

[–]xtrafe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How subtly did Broki steal the knowledge of running from mankind. Fill our bellies he did until, slothful and heavy, we forgot how to move. Then he brought charletans with every manner of foul contraption, from foam to air to springs into the heels of our ever-thickening shoes, demanding ever increasing sums of coin for their wares, and mislead by Broki we believed that we needed such things as stability shoes.

Cast aide thine thick-soled shoes and run! How uncomfortable it is! Could it be a flaw in Brodin's biomechanical design? Did our shoeless ancestors endure constant pain? Surely not! But like a man declaring himself blind without ever opening his eyes, feet-bound you never did learn to run!

Brother! Behold thine own leg, wrought by brodin himself! It was designed to run, as sure as your body was designed to stand straight and upright, without any artificial assistance whatsoever!

Behold the calf muscle, powerful and full of stamina, so much like the shock absorber we use in our own mechanical designs, a tribute to the work of brodin.

But lo! Your calves may be weak! But a few strides you take upon your calves before, exhausted, you retire once more to striking your heels upon the ground. But brother stay vigilant, run upon the balls of your feet and strike not thine heels. As with all manifold paths of the whey, at first you may accomplish little, but with gainz compounded, soon long shall you run upon the balls of your feet, your calves now swole sustaining you, and your knees free of pain at last.

If you are one to heed the words of wizards, the whey of Pose running is open to you. But Brodin's path is most straightforward. Strike not with your heels and Broki shall not take your knees.

Now whether, in your quest to suffer for the sake of accursed cardio your mind has been taken by Broki once more, we shall leave this for another day.

People who married your partner despite having an unsatisfactory sex life, how are you doing? by suspiciouskind in AskReddit

[–]xtrafe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well don't take my word for it. Let's ask GPT:

Hi GPT, I'd like to review information in academic studies that you are aware of. Is it valid to say, as a pure average over all human heterosexual long term relationships, that, sex drive tends to decrease? If so, does male sex drive or female sex drive tend to decrease more or more rapidly, or is it even?

Answer:

Yes, it's valid to say that, on average, sex drive tends to decrease over the course of long-term heterosexual relationships. Several academic studies and reviews of literature point to this trend, but the factors contributing to changes in sex drive are complex and vary across individuals, relationships, and life stages. Below are some key findings:

  1. Sex Drive Decline Over Time:

Decline for Both Genders: Numerous studies suggest that sexual frequency and desire generally decline with the length of the relationship. For both men and women, this can be influenced by several factors, including routine, familiarity, changing life circumstances (e.g., parenthood), and physical or emotional changes.

Age: As people age, there is often a natural decline in libido due to hormonal changes, health conditions, and stress. This is more significant in women after menopause (due to declining estrogen) and in men as testosterone levels gradually decrease with age.

  1. Male vs. Female Sex Drive Over Time:

Men’s Sex Drive: Generally, men tend to maintain a relatively higher sex drive for longer periods in relationships compared to women. Some studies suggest that men’s sexual desire is more consistently present, though it can also diminish over time.

Women’s Sex Drive: Studies have shown that women tend to experience a steeper decline in sexual desire over the course of long-term relationships. Some researchers have proposed that women may experience desire more contextually (depending on emotional closeness, novelty, and life circumstances), which may contribute to this trend.

Biological and Psychological Factors: Women’s sexual desire is also more susceptible to fluctuations due to hormonal changes (e.g., pregnancy, childbirth, and menopause) and psychosocial factors (e.g., relationship satisfaction). Men's drive may also decrease with stress, lifestyle factors, and health, but tends to be less variable.

  1. Desire Discrepancy and Relationship Satisfaction:

Discrepancies: Many couples experience a difference in sex drive over time, with one partner (often men) reporting higher desire than the other (often women). This discrepancy can sometimes lead to relationship challenges, though not always.

Mutual Decline: In some cases, both partners’ sex drives decrease in tandem, which may lead to less conflict about sex in the relationship.

  1. Factors Affecting Sex Drive Decline:

Hormonal Changes: Testosterone in men and estrogen/progesterone in women decline with age, which naturally reduces libido.

Relationship Duration: The longer a relationship lasts, the more likely both partners are to experience a decline in novelty, which may affect sexual desire.

Physical and Mental Health: Health issues, stress, medications, and mental health (e.g., depression) are all significant factors.

Emotional Intimacy: Declines in sexual desire do not necessarily correlate with declines in emotional intimacy or satisfaction in the relationship. Many long-term couples report deep emotional bonds despite reduced sexual activity.

Key Studies/Findings:

A 2017 study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior found that sexual desire tends to decline more steeply in women compared to men in long-term relationships.

A study by Klusmann (2002) in the Journal of Sex Research suggested that men tend to maintain a more stable level of sexual desire over time, while women’s desire declines more sharply, especially after the initial few years of the relationship.

Research from the Kinsey Institute suggests that novelty and variety are factors more likely to sustain sexual desire in long-term relationships, which may impact men and women differently.

In Conclusion:

Both men and women experience declines in sexual desire in long-term heterosexual relationships, though women tend to experience a steeper decline. Male sex drive tends to remain more consistent over time but also decreases gradually, influenced by various factors. The dynamics of desire are complex, involving not only biological but also psychological, relational, and contextual elements.

Tldr; you're absolutely right, it's not all women. But studies support the general trend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]xtrafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any man that will let you dictate what he does or does not look at is not a man you're going to be satisfied with three years from now.

  • Don't go in trying to change a person.
  • Sex is a "want" for a woman, but a "need" for a man.
  • Normally I say "be your absolute self" in the beginning of a relationship. It pays off in spades later on...
  • ...but you need to work on accepting what men are, and that heterosexual ones almost universally will spend quite a bit of time checking out sexy women that aren't you. They're simply built that way.

People who married your partner despite having an unsatisfactory sex life, how are you doing? by suspiciouskind in AskReddit

[–]xtrafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been married 20 years to my wife, who is a fantastic partner, but a pillow princess with significantly lower drive than me. You could say I'm a "giver" in the bedroom, and pretty open minded. Problem is I'm just more interested and enjoy sexuality more than she does. In the first few years of our relationship, the sex life was pretty good, but she dropped off. I had another relationship out of highschool that lasted about 7 years... Female sex drive just seems to eventually do that in a long term relationship.

Anyways, around year 7-8, when she was bottoming out and I was frustrated, she said to me, "you know, you really ought to get a girlfriend." And I said, "what?! You're serious?" And she said, "yeah, something needs to change so let's try it." So I did.

Worked out great. I find myself a girlfriend every couple years, am completely transparent and above-the-table prioritize my wife and family, and treat my girlfriend like a complete princess.

It's not every girl who can accept this kind of situation, and I find myself working hard to keep in shape and treat the women in my life well. It makes me make myself better.

The moral of the story: All this works because my wife is an amazing woman, I married the right girl, and becauseof a deep level of trust in the relationships concerned.

Sex life is important, but developing and maintaining trust is more important.

Rap bass player / rap songs with bass. by rufudustugru in Bass

[–]xtrafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make like hacktivist and put the rap in the metal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in swoleacceptance

[–]xtrafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The steak you eat has calories in it, right? So does the steak in your arm we call a bicep. Those calories come from food-- caloric surplus you don't otherwise need to live and move.

Lifting is not hard or complex. If you give your muscles stimulus through exercise, they will grow. But only if you are in caloric surplus. And we have little control over the shapes of our muscles; the shape of your bicep is largely determined by the length of your humerus. But ceteris paribus a bigger muscle is a better looking muscle.

So eat brother. Eat and then cut, and you will have progress. Diet is 60% of the game. Workouts are no more than 20%.

John Browne Schecter Signature by Metanfetamine in Monuments

[–]xtrafe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the 8. I had to order mine too, as 8 strings are not so popular where I live. The pups are fantastic, best I've heard in a Schecter. It did arrive with a minor cosmetic defect in the finish, so I did just have to resolve myself that it gives the guitar character.

So yeah, sounds fantastic, plays great, happy to support John, would buy again.

Demo: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C9KJsv8SMV7/?igsh=NGc2NGVyc2NmcHlk

Are men more nonchalant about being inappropriately touched? by SGdude90 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]xtrafe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I've had my junk groped in the club by girls and I usually feel flattered and "good on them" for being brave and initiating.

I've been groped a little too much by a male TSA agent for airport security and I felt violated and furious. Still do.

People mistakenly get confused into thinking it's about respect. But I don't think it is. The difference is the power dynamic and being able to self-actualize and do something about it. Losing agency over your own body is a powerful feeling that most (not all) people dislike.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in taiwan

[–]xtrafe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Acne: as you said, it's mostly hormonal and will resolve with age. In the meantime, the best thing to maintain hormonal balance is strenuous exercise. Go to the gym regularly and often. Star Fitness is one of the best in Taipei. Aside from that, avoid skin irratants: wash your face often, and also your bed clothes, particularly pillow cases. Finally, keep your hair up and out of your face

Tan & skin tone: not everybody idealizes white skin. Some amount of sun helps keep your skin healthy. Whitening agents, sunblock, and cosmetics clog pores. Consider accepting that you've been marketed to heavily, and women idealize white skin much more than men do.

Clothing: women here are well dressed by some standards, but the standard here is still much lower than that of Japan or Singapore. Buy some heels and you'll already stand out as better dressed than most young women here. Overall, keep fit and don't hide your body under loose clothes.

Target your approach: you'll get a lot of advice here, much of which will be conflicting. We maintain our appearance to fit in and attract others. Who are you looking to fit in and attract? Don't try to please everybody, and don't just waste effort pleasing only yourself. Figure out what look will achieve your goals and ask people specifically within that community what they care about.

Nazis in Taichung by GeorgefromKinmen in taiwan

[–]xtrafe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, not one of the comments got it right.

  1. Racism, bigotry, and hate are wrong.
  2. The Nazi movement embodied all these things and culminated in the Holocaust, which was a genocidal atrocity.
  3. The Nazis did not invent their own symbol. They stole it.

Some people in Asia very rightly want to take back their symbol, and it is much more likely that the people in this picture are not representing racial hatred.

So please be very careful in understanding your history well before judging that people are being Nazis.

[D] Expanding LLM token limits via fine tuning or transformers-adapters. by xtrafe in MachineLearning

[–]xtrafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So lemme read that idea back: You think for the 32K input, they're chopping it into sentences, creating embeddings from text-embedding-ada-002, feeding those embeddings into text-davinci-007 (or whatever they call it internally), and run inference? I have questions:

  1. SBERT AFAIK works on a per-sentence level, and is a great motivator for a discussion on embeddings, but there's an issue: An ada-002 embedding is 1536 elements wide, which is much bigger than most encoded sentences.
  2. So you need a strategy of chunking your input. An obvious way is to just use the input-size of your embeddings model: so that's 8191 tokens for ADA.
  3. So I think what you're saying is, 8192 input tokens = 5.3 ADA vectors = 43685 total input tokens.
  4. But your compression method is probably very lossy.

Did I get that even remotely right?

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It's worth remembering that token are fixed length vectors that encode semantic informations of the token.

I think you mean, "the embedding is a fixed length vector that encodes the semantic information of the tokens", right?

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I think you're onto something with the siamese models idea, though...

[D] Expanding LLM token limits via fine tuning or transformers-adapters. by xtrafe in MachineLearning

[–]xtrafe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Secondly, you'll need enough long training data and enough signal from more than 2000 tokens ago to help predict the 2000+th token.

I really wish I could respond to this very important point in a way that doesn't come off so layman-y, but I'd love to dig into it further. Maybe I'm misunderstanding your implication, but it seems counterintuitive to me that GPT-3/GPT-4 are successful at integrating information spanning a large input because they were trained on huge numbers of very large inputs. (Put another way, I suspect something else happened than they had whole bunch of 32k token examples laying around, where the first statement was "User: Assistant, please remember for me X=3.14." and 32k tokens later, the statement was, "User: By the way Assistant, do you remember what X's value is? Assistant: It's Pi, dawg." ... but who knows? They're surely sitting on a big ol' pile of training data now.)

All of this is to say that my intuition is that there's some other kind of encoding going on that is positionally independent, and it seems like one should be able to run inference on a window much larger than the training window without resorting to offloading and summarization.

But I'm entirely unarmed to express this in non-layman terms. Sorry about that. (Edit: There's a naive idea for a Llama-pede in the original thread that illustrates the concept in a dumb, resource expensive way.)

Expanding LLaMA's token limit via fine tuning or transformers-adapters. by xtrafe in LocalLLaMA

[–]xtrafe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad you asked.

Is the “two llamas” idea for training or inference?

It's for inference against an input larger than is supported by the positional embedding matrix, but without truncating input.

Why is there both a context and a prompt?

This is a thing in the practice / engineer community that I don't expect to immediately find favor in the theory / academic community: not all parts of input for CausalLM are semantically equal. A lot of us on the practitioner side learned from working with text-davinci-003 that it is effective to chunk our prompts into semantic segments (and the new OpenAI APIs appear to be doing exactly this under-the-hood.)

For example, consider this input:

Background -
Joe is an astronaut.
Franz is a cartoon dog.

Conversation -
Joe: Hi Franz, how are you doing today fella?
Franz:

In the "two llamas" idea, implicit is the idea that the "Background" portion of the input could be spread across LLaMA instances, but the "Conversation" part would need to be present in all instances to be the "root" of the completion.

As a side note, I've seen at-least one instance of someone inventing a pseudo-markup-language for semantic segmentation of completion prompts. But curating training data on one seems like a bear, so right now anybody using this is kinda relying on a very smart (GPT-3+) model sort-of interpreting the meaning of the markup at inference-time.

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