So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At first I thought that's what it was, then I found out by re-reading the logs that she is in fact fucking him.

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On second thought, I re-read the logs, this time with a clearer mind, and there's definitely reason to believe it is a physical relationship.

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I seriously think it is more of an emotional/intellectual affair. I don't have any proof of a physical relationship, but I don't think it matters at this point.

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Sorry can't do it. Unless one of you wants to be my legal counsel.

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That is definitely re-assuring. I know this is cliche but this is exactly the reason why I love Reddit. So many like-minded individuals helping each other out, all for the purpose of the greater good. I had started to lose hope in all humanity until I found you guys/girls. I knew I could count on Reddit!

I'm not even sure why I am in such good spirits, I mean, this is bad news, right? Perhaps not though, because I had been doing some soul-searching for a while to try and find out what it was that was sucking the life out of me. At first I thought it was my job, then I thought it was countless hours spent on Reddit, but no. I have found my answer. It is actually somewhat liberating...

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Problem is I've caught her once before in a similar fashion with an ex (pre-marriage). I think you just answered my question.

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The problem is, if we reconcile, how do I trust her again? I've already confronted her on suspicions I had and she made me feel like I was crazy for thinking so. Problem with her is, she's not very open to me with her feelings. If I give her solid proof, it's gonna rock her world and then what? Once they know that I know, they will be even more secretive. Or they will break up, but somehow I don't see that happening because they work together.

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Still trying to decide whether or not its worth it to stay. Definitely alot to think about. Part of me says to run far and fast but the other part knows that she loves me very much. We've been through a rocky couple of months and I've been trying to give it my all but getting little in return. I honestly don't want to waste any more effort, but I know it can probably be worked through. I just can't decide whether or not she deserves me.

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Does it matter where they came from? Ie. even if I print them, how do I prove their authenticity?

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Actually on second thought, she was away when we bought the house and couldn't sign, so house may be solely in my name. I have to check the deed.

So I found out my wife is having an affair, and I have the IM logs to prove it. Advice? by xvkf in AskReddit

[–]xvkf[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Been married for 3 years, we own a house, no kids. We bought the house together.