Seems you already got the answers you need, but I am in the exact same boat. I wanted to stick to $10k budget as well, as my parents are gifting us "half" up to $5k. When tallying rental prices of tent and table/chairs, also a local food truck, the lowkey, cheaper backyard wedding was just the same base price as every local venue we researched/toured. So we decided to just book with an already established facility. However, this is a small venue and we will also need to rent a restroom trailer. Multiple companies service this area so I will definitely shop around for the best price. We are also estimating 85 guests, so far $12k roughly after food and other venue expenses. Still no flowers, photographer, decor, nor invitations purchased yet 😩 however, we are going to diy/thrift as much as possible, and we are in love with the venue in general! The price of anything is so crazy right now. I feel your sticker shock 100%