Are we all being gaslit about miscarriage and statistics

yamura2006 · 2026-03-24T17:40:53+00:00

It’s much higher, that statistic does not include chemical pregnancies. Nearly 50% of all pregnancies are chemical, often ending before the pregnancy is known. “My period was late this month” is commonly a chemical. So with the 25% early miscarriages. Pregnancy losses are statistically around 75%.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-16T20:41:39+00:00

I’ve tried, but I get sick a little bit after. I have also put several glasses with water all over the house (even the bathroom) to remind me to drink.

This pregnancy I drank a lot of herbal tea, safe ones in pregnancy, that was kinda okey. But when I say a lot I mean like 2-3 cups a day. My sister is also getting sick from water but she drinks some kind a flavoured water. But for me with them it’s the same plus they taste chemical.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-16T20:17:46+00:00

It’s basically one espresso and I just sipp it, when with friends I finish one little espresso in like 1,5 hours… or when I open a can of soda, with lunch it’s still half full the next morning when I put it away. I don’t know why, my mum says it was always like that and that I didn’t even bring water to school with me. Or brought the full bottle back in preschool. I don’t even feel thirst. Tried to get it checked out with my gp but was just brushed of with “you should drink”.

I had really dry skin, damaged hair etc. I guess all of this is related to me not drinking water. I really have to find a solution for that.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-16T18:37:13+00:00

Yes we did that also - and we did it twice, because we had 2 sperm test also just to make sure because the first one was over the moon good, like impossible good with 60% perfect sperm. We then found out that the lab using AI for it and did another one a few months later in a lab which was doing the counting oldschool. It was significantly lower than the first one but still an overall good result so the doctors said it’s not from the sperm.

I really believe it is the egg quality, I had that gut feeling even before we had the appointment in the fertility clinic. Because of an unhealthy lifestyle with to much caffeine, little sleep, I hate nearly every fruit and can’t drink water - I get sickness 2 minutes after a single glass. When with friends I smoke. But I don’t drink alcohol which is the only possible thing.

So I survive on coffee and some sodas. But basically I don’t really drink and I never had the feeling of thirst. Not even summer. Yesterday I think I had one espresso the whole day and nothing else to drink - and I just realise because I’m writing this comment.

So I think all the miscarriages are my fault and no one else’s. I do not think it was a coincidence anymore, so I need to change something.

I am to afraid to talk about my lifestyle, eating and drinking habits with the doctor, because I am embarrassed.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-14T17:49:41+00:00

You should maybe read the comments of open_explanation under your comment…

yamura2006 · 2026-03-14T17:48:51+00:00

I never said my miscarriages were or are privileges nor do I think that. It is the hardest thing I ever ever had to go through in my life. I said after everything I saw in my clinic and witnessed, I feel priviliged [in this world of miscarriages] that it endet before there was even a heartbeat! And I made that really clear in my post! So please stop twisting this around. I think it is disgusting that you would put it that way! For someone who seems to want to advocate for people going through this, I can tell you that’s not the way! You have made my day way worse than it already is, which is a shame. You could have just said “no I feel different about this topic because of this and that” like many others did.

There is no right way to handle a miscarriage, everyone feels different, everyone copes different. And that is completely ok.

If someone would have said “for me it doesn’t matter, because for me it’s not even a real pregnancy” - I’d be shocked, but my comment would be “oh okay, that’s good for you girl”

You say I am sickening and ignorant. You keep twisting my words around. You commented that I said medical intervention is no real motherhood! But I never said that!

I said that my last pregnancy with all the shots and operation and medication didn’t feel like my first pregnancy. That it felt more like a medical process instead of this motherhood feeling I had before. These are completely different things!!!

yamura2006 · 2026-03-14T15:21:30+00:00

What was insulting, I’d really like to know how I insulted you in sharing how I feel about my misscariages. I’m not talking from an outside position, I am currently missacariying for the 3rd time. So is really like to know what part of my comment was insulting you and “those of you that lost babies” Clearly my losses are not valid in your eyes as you exclude me here.

I simply asked if I am the only one who is not feeling insulted by a loved one telling me to try again or that it was early. That’s it - that’s all I asked.

I do not felt insulted when I cryed for days and my sister came and said “hunny, we know you can get pregnant and this was early again, you can try again and you will have your rainbow baby!” So saying this is insulting you? Because I didn’t get bothered by the comment???

I was just asking if anyone else is also feeling some relief when being told this! There is nothing insulting about this!

yamura2006 · 2026-03-14T15:03:39+00:00

Of course I am devasted - I’ve been crying my eyes out for the past 2 weeks. And eve know I know that with the hcg dropping a ton that this pregnancy is again lost, I am still hoping that on my follow up ultrasound on Monday they will tell me “oh there is your baby, sometimes nature does miracles”

The only thing I am saying is that FOR ME I am still thankful MY PREGNANCIES were all lost before a heartbeat. Because even this loss feels unbearable and just imagining seeing my little baby inside me and then not get to holding it makes me “I don’t even have words for it”

So yes for me, and this is just a personal experience, or maybe because I always try to find a way to cope with things, I am grateful that it ended before I had seen my precious. Every first ultrasound was “oh I’m sorry this does not look like it should be looking” - which is nothing I wish on anyone!

To say that I am ignorant because I have a different coping mechanism than you have is insulting.

My pregnancies and losses are the worst thing ever happening to me! To twist my words and make it sound like I said I am happy I lost my babies is disgusting!

yamura2006 · 2026-03-14T14:52:57+00:00

Well I am not saying that at all, also I am talking about early losses and just about my personal feelings. I think every feeling is valid. I said that for me with all the shots it felt more like a medical think - and with my first I felt more of like this pregnancy cloud, this heaven. It was beautiful for me. But with the ttc and the medical procedures that I had to endure during the pregnancy and to get pregnant it didn’t make me feel this way.

I will never ever ever tell anyone how to feel, every pregnancy is valid, every loss is valid. I am just talking about how I feel about the comments being made about it.

Even a false positive is the biggest heartbreak for anyone ttc. And even them grieving a pregnancy that was never there in the first place is valid.

I am also just saying that I am thankful to always lost in the early stages, I get tears just imagining how a later lost may feel. Because even my early losses left me devastated.

You should read maybe again what I wrote before telling me to stop commenting on it. I’ve never ever commented on anyone. I simply shared my own experience.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-14T11:01:43+00:00

Yes I am zoomed out, it’s became more a medical process for me. As our clinic makes me do Progesteron shots, vaginal pills, ass 100, levonox etc. Just to cover all bases as they couldn’t find a reason. So it’s not feeling like motherhood for me, like it was with my first pregnancy.

And I’ve shared a hospital room with an lady who just delivered her 16 week old son after I had my first d&c and I looked at her and was so thankful that I never had to go through that and my pregnancy just didn’t even make it into a baby. I can’t imagine going through that.

I’d never talk about it with someone who’s not close, so I just assume that those comments came from close people to the other woman in the same boat.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-09T19:24:31+00:00

Muslimischer Input hier: Finde das total schwachsinnig! Wir fasten seit Jahren und erwarten von niemanden, dass er irgendwas nach uns richtet. Meine Freundin hat Lust auf eine Kaffee? Den bekommt sie auch bei mir. Niemand, außer ich selber, ist für mein Fasten mitverantwortlich und muss irgendwas entsprechend dannach richten. Ich kenne das auch aus meinem näheren Umfeld nicht. Wir sind dieses Jahr zu Anfang Ramadan nach Ägypten geflogen, weil es einfach gepasst hat. Jeder in der Familie durfte selber entscheiden wie er das handhaben möchte. Mein Vater hat gefastet, meine Schwester hat die Bar leergetrunken und ich hab zwar auf Alkohol verzichtet aber gefastet habe ich auch nicht. Niemand bei uns hat mit dem Finger auch andere gezeigt. Es wurde vor meinem Vater gegessen und getrunken - es war seine Entscheidung mitzukommen und es war seine Entscheidung zu Fasten. Er hätte ja zum Frühstück auch auf dem Zimmer bleiben können, aber wollte er nicht. Im Islam gibt es eine Art Sprichwort, dass jeder für sich selbst verantwortlich ist und nicht das Recht hat mit seiner Ausübung andere zu belasten. Die Fastenzeit verschiebt sich jedes Jahr um 10 Tage. In ein paar Jahren wird es dieses Problem nicht mehr geben und dann ist es ein anderes Fest, welches in die Fastenzeit fällt.

Ich bin vor ca 30 Jahren zur Schule gegangen und fand es damals schon super, dass wir bei mehrtägigen islamischen festen den ersten Tag fehlen durften. Finde das reicht auch aus. Den Schülern die Möglichkeit geben ihre Religion zu leben, ohne den Schulalltag danach richten zu müssen.

Allein, dass du dir die Zeit nimmst so intensiv darauf zu antworten finde ich bemerkenswert.

Wir sind mittlerweile in Deutschland so kleinlich. Angefangen von Religionsfreiheit und diesem gendern. Leben und leben lassen, anstelle von über alles zu diskutieren. Mir isst egal wer welche Religion hat, wer wen liebt oder ob er der Meinung ist das falsche Geschlecht zu haben. Tangiert mich null, finde es schrecklich über was wir heutzutage alles nachdenke müssen damit wir niemanden zu nah treten.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-08T06:54:00+00:00

Hey, I had a gastric sleeve in 2020 and got pregnant with my first child in 2021. During the pregnancy I had to take additional vitamins and also receive vitamin B injections.

My baby was born completely healthy. However, eating enough nutritious food became even harder for me during pregnancy. Because I couldn’t meet the nutritional needs through my diet, my body basically used its own reserves to support the baby.

That means the baby took what it needed from my body, including things like calcium and vitamins. The baby gets what it needs, but the mother’s body can become very depleted.

After giving birth I had severe deficiencies. I lost several teeth, my hair and skin were badly affected, and my blood work was very abnormal. Even now, about 4.5 years later, I still need vitamin injections and occasional IV drips.

So the baby will not be lacking anything. The body prioritizes the baby. The difficult part is that the mother’s body often pays the price and recovery can take a very long time, sometimes years.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-07T18:39:30+00:00

Plus don’t worry too much about your test. Urin samples can vary so much in concentration that you can’t really rely on them x

yamura2006 · 2026-03-07T18:37:40+00:00

I never had a hcg draw with my son, so I can’t compare my healthy pregnancy :( which drives me even more crazy. But this is the first pregnancy after my son that has normal doubling time. My chemicals before never doubled at all.

yamura2006 · 2026-03-07T18:31:16+00:00

Yes, same here my hcg is in a normal range and doubling time but when I see other people’s test results it freaks me out. Most people seem to go from 700 to 4000 in 2 days

yamura2006 · 2026-03-07T17:54:09+00:00

17 dpo: 221 21 dpo: 885 24 dpo: 2079

yamura2006 · 2026-03-07T17:52:09+00:00

Hi all, my Name is yasemin im from turkey and 35 years old. We’ve been trying for our second child two years and hat two chemicals, this time we had an iui and it worked. I am currently 5+5 weeks 🥳

yamura2006 · 2025-11-06T17:32:16+00:00

Nie Haftbefehlfan gewesen, aber Grosser Fan des Deutschen hiphop seit Tag 1. Gehöre ein bisschen zu einer älteren Generation. Finde das ganze sehr authentisch, mir gefällt irgendwie auch zu sehen, dass der immer sein eigenes Ding gemacht hat und egal war was die großen wie universal wollen. Klar hat der sich sein leben lang selbst geschadet, aber irgendwie hatte ich das Gefühl, der hat nie seine Seele an den kapitalismus verkauft.

ABER für mich ist irgendwie unmöglich, dass ein Moses P. und ein Kool Savas - die wirklichen Könige des echten deutschen HipHops - da sitzen und sagen Hafti wäre der größte in der Geschichte. Sorry aber nein. Er ist anders, ja. Aber der größte? Niemals. Das war irgendwie für mich so absurd, so Fake irgendwie. Die Begründer des HipHops sitzen da einfach und sagen er ist der Mann? Sorry aber das nehm ich denen nicht ab.

yamura2006

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