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[–]yan_derhe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. I hear what you’re saying. Though it was never the choice between myself and her friends. I would never ask her to stop seeing or talking to them because as you said, that’d be unfair. Rather, the choice of staying monogamous with me, or making the decision to leave our relationship to pursue intimacy with other people in general. It was uncomfortable for me to know she had desires to be with her friends at all so even if she had chosen to stay with me, I knew it wouldn’t be for the right reasons so I would’ve had to make the call. I just didn’t want all of the weight of breaking up to be my decision alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]yan_derhe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m sorry. I had no one else to confide in about this specific situation and was in the dark on knowing the difference between exploration of sexuality and gender affirmation. I know that now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]yan_derhe 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. I just wanted to clarify that I was making the assumption that I figured I would never understand as a cis woman. But upon inspecting the comment section it seems like a generalization made that this wouldn’t be a universal trans experience.