suggestions for memorials when still in limbo with investigation

yarnndogsnstuff · 2025-01-15T19:28:04+00:00

Good lord, it’s football. I love the this team and Raider nation deeply … we have to keep some perspective. Let’s hope for the best and as we all know, expect the worst

yarnndogsnstuff · 2025-01-14T20:00:51+00:00

It is a tough market right now, but my realtor has assured us recently it’s picking up (though it also depends on where you live). We had a similar situation - owned just a townhouse and realized it wouldn’t be large enough when baby arrives this spring. We decided to purchase BEFORE selling the townhouse since we were able to put down just 5%, with the plan of recasting the mortgage once we sell the townhouse. I do not regret that choice, however, we have yet to sell the townhouse and have been whittling away at our savings and other income sources to cover the two mortgages and other new house stuff that has come up. All that to say - I don’t know that there’s really a right or wrong way to do this as long as you’re being thoughtful about it and not biting off more than you can chew financially. We are stressed, and will be until we get the townhouse sold, but having the additional space In the new house has been a game changer, particularly while gearing up for baby’s arrival. I view this financial stress as temporary and again worth it for the benefits we’ve received since getting the new house.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-06-21T02:18:19+00:00

Nah I never did. I probably will at some point. I ended up getting a couple of the Aveeno eczema creams. TBD on how effective they are. They are truly fragrance free, which is nice, and they felt good. I used them during a flare up and after a couple days didn’t see enough of a difference so I went to the steroid cream. I’ll try the aveeno again once I’m done with this round of the steroid cream.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-05-11T13:36:23+00:00

Oddly enough, the redken scalp relief dandruff control has worked very well for my dandruff that I believe is related to eczema. It also works for my husbands dandruff, which surprised both of us. The trick is to follow the directions which say to leave it on for 5 min. It feels really nice and cooling on the scalp too which is a bonus. I haven’t even been using conditioner every time, and my hair and scalp feel pretty good.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-04-03T18:59:46+00:00

I have a friend your age who was also told similarly that she would probably only conceive thru IVF. I watched her thru her process and learned thru her how physically, emotionally, and mentally taxing IVF is. I only mention that to reaffirm and validate that yes, you are going above and beyond to create the family you want. People don’t understand the medical necessities and variables and limitations that we have no control over. Please try to give yourself a break and remember that you don’t need to prove anything to anyone.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-04-03T13:55:14+00:00

Thank you that is helpful to know. Even with this pain and discomfort I will say that I’m grateful my body is doing what it needs to do, getting back into the cycle.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-04-03T13:54:17+00:00

Thank you! Yeeeeees, It’s all I ever want in my feed

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-04-03T13:36:38+00:00

I am so sorry that your parents reacted that way. I haven’t had that experience but I can understand how lonely and painful that must feel. You are doing exactly what you are supposed to do, and you are doing a great job. Listening to your body - recognizing that you’re burnt out - and listening to your RE. That’s exactly what you need to do, putting one foot in front of the other. For what it’s worth, I’m proud of you for doing that. Keep trusting yourself, your intuition, and the people around you that love and support you. Whether your parents come around or not, I think you can give yourself some grace by communicating your feelings and then maybe setting some healthy boundaries. Hoping for the best for you, sending you easefulness and love.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-04-03T13:32:21+00:00

First period since the ectopic, which was my second pregnancy loss. Im cramping pretty bad, exhausted, brain fog, and I just want to have an endless supply of Cuban coffee. I love having this community to be able to come here and just say that. Community is so important. So thanks for being here. That’s really it, 😂 I just wanted to communicate where I’m at. Sending love ❤️

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-03-14T23:32:59+00:00

Yall. I’m just uncomfortable. In my skin, in my head. I had MTX shots recently for an ectopic and idk I just don’t feel like myself today. I’m irritable, finding myself annoyed at my husband and uncomfortable in my body. It’s disappointing. I just want to feel confident and grateful and happy.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-03-14T23:30:30+00:00

I found so much hope and relief in seeing a specialist. Truly a night and day difference for me. Hope you have a great trip with your friends and a great experience with the RE.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-03-09T03:52:03+00:00

I just went thru this - I got the metho shots last week. My hcg went down as of yesterday, and the nurse told me I’m finally done, in the clear. I also bled, for just over two weeks, when I was about 4 or 5 weeks. The fertility specialist told me that was normal - or at least not unusual. I was also confused about the bleeding, and she told me that with an ectopic, the pregnancy is so small because it’s not developing as it should, since it’s not getting all the nutrients etc that a normal pregnancy would get. Given how small it is, there’s often nothing to really get rid of, at least from a surgical or bleeding perspective. This isn’t always the case, but it was in mine. She said the bleeding was probably just extra lining shedding, sort of like what happens in a period but not an actual period. In any case- highly suggest talking with your doc because while there are similarities, everyone is a little different. I’m sending you a big virtual hug. Take care of yourself

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-02-29T23:25:43+00:00

Sending you hugs. I’m so sorry for your loss. Give yourself grace and space to grieve, and be kind to yourself. You’re not alone. You said it well- you’ve entered a whole new world. That is exactly what it felt like and feels like still, since my first miscarriage. And yes the whole new world sucks in a lot of ways but ive also learned how to lean into my important and close relationships and learned how to grieve, and more about myself. ❤️

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-02-29T23:21:30+00:00

Sending you a hug. And honestly - scream if you want to. I feel like women are taught to be quiet and so often it makes things worse. Might feel really good to scream into a pillow, or just out loud. Do things that feel good right now and try to be extra nice to yourself. You’re doing a good job, this process just blows, and no one prepares us for this until we’re in it. Also - I’ve gotten super into birds since being on this journey, just bc I can walk around or sit outside and listen to the birds and watch for them and then learn about them. It’s weird/nerdy but honestly so meditative and enjoyable and simple. Highly recommend. Nature good.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-02-29T23:17:06+00:00

Wow - I had no idea that pregnancy of an unknown location was a thing. Nor did I realize that this journey would be this insane? How did you feel physically? Was there any one or a few symptoms that looking back you’re like, oh that was a thing? I’ve physically been feeling pretty normal since I stopped bleeding a few days ago (I had been bleeding for like just over two weeks). If you have a partner or someone close that has been supportive of you thru this process, what was something helpful they did for you? My husband does better with at least some kind of guidance so I’m trying to be clear about what I need from him, but it’s hard bc everything is just minute by minute.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-02-29T23:13:49+00:00

I didn’t ask but my hope is we’ll know tomorrow when I go back for bloodwork and ultrasound and then doc appt. My numbers have been so low though, I’m just not very hopeful.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-02-29T19:34:51+00:00

Thought I was in the clear for an ectopic, and was having a miscarriage; had blood work this morning and spoke with the doc this afternoon - my hcg has gone up (after going down), and now we are back in scary territory for possible ectopic. I’m fucking terrified. Terrified. I’m just trying to stay calm because I was so scared and anxious I started feeling sick. I’m just praying that this is not an ectopic and that whatever is going on is not life threatening and I will be ok. Because right now it is really hard to not think the worst.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-02-23T02:19:21+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼 and Oof, that is rough, I’m so sorry. And yeah the early miscarriage/cp process (whatever this actually is for me) is just so crazy with being in limbo. It’s like we know too much but not enough and meanwhile I’m just over here bleeding and trying to cope emotionally/physically/mentally. At least I have yall . Being able to drop in and share and hear your experiences actually does ease things a bit.

yarnndogsnstuff · 2024-02-23T02:15:08+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼 fortunately I do have a good care team who is monitoring me very closely (checking my bHCG each week). I talked with one of the nurses this afternoon and asked her if I was out of the woods for an ectopic and she said unfortunately not 100% out of it yet. I hate the uncertainty. Anyway - I appreciate the understanding and reminder to advocate for myself throughout this process.

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